For my entire life, I never ever ever ever ever ever wanted to have kids, couldn't stand the idea, it wasn't in me to do that and I was plotting ways to convince a doctor to let me be sterilized at my age (I'm under 30).

When I met my SP, something changed. I'm not saying I changed my mind, but I suddenly understood something about the whole idea that I was never able to before. I felt like I understood for the first time why anyone wants to have kids, and there were some moments where I actually liked the idea and it felt right. It wasn't even forced. In the past, because I was worried about losing people over this, I used to try to logically convince myself of possible ways to make myself want that.

This was different, it was a genuine change in feeling that made me think that possibly, one day, maybe, MAYBE, it could change, providing that the rest of my life circumstances are how I want them. This idea of a possibility, even if it is a small possibility, put my mind at rest, in the sense of not worrying about having to say I definitely didn't want any and instantly losing him if the conversation came up.

Then tonight I got freaked out about the idea again because I was talking to someone about it today. I was thinking about how difficult it is for people to look after kids when they don't know that they create their reality and that the rest of their lives can be created in a way that means it doesn't have to be a big struggle. But even though I know I could have the rest of my life how I want it, the thoughts of all the stuff that puts me off came up, and I started to feel sad, because I started to think that once I've manifested a proper relationship with him, maybe it will just end because of that, and I felt anxious.

Then I started thinking, what if I manifest a situation where his love for me is more important to him than whether or not he has kids? I don't know what his real views on it are, just assuming that he is like most people and sees it as part

A while ago, my person called me and we spoke for about an hour and he invited me to see him. I didn't post about it straight away because I didn't want to make myself feel like it was a big deal, because it's better to normalize these things.

Things I did:

I had been imagining when I could, and it wasn't always in clear detail.

I took the advice of a user here, Imagination, that recommended daydreaming instead of feeling like you have to dedicate specific time to visualizing. This has been said by others on here before. I started doing more of that. When we manifest negative things we haven't done planned visualizations for it, it's been the result of our habitual thought. So by making the habitual thought positive, you will get the positive results. Don't waste 95% of your time worrying. Use that background thought to your advantage and make it focused on what you want. This is a concept that Richard Dotts talks about. I had applied some other advice of his that contributed. He talks a lot about peace, and how we sometimes swing between positive and negative emotions like a pendulum and how staying neutral helps manifestation.

A couple of days before, I did a 5 minute meditation I'd found on Youtube where you imagine looking into their eyes for a few minutes. Here's the meditation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f_czJA_h8KQ&t=717s

I had watched some of Veronica's recent videos on getting someone to stop ignoring you and it gave me some insight into some patterns of belief I had going on and I put a stop to them. There is not much point in me going into detail here because we all have different beliefs we have to work on.

I was thinking thoughts like, "I am the best, I deserve the best, I can have any man that I want, the best types of men want to be with me, the Universe is taking care of it all". This was genuine and not forced, and I was feeling very relaxed at the time.

I had started to feel like there was nothing to worry about because of course he wan

Thanks for this post, it was motivating. It’s really useful to think of it in the way that we don’t actively visualize negative manifestations, and the background thoughts are causing a lot of what we create. And after reading this, the same topic came up in a lot of detail in a book that I’m reading at the moment.

The thing I’m still not sure of is, the part of it that makes it seem like a chore for me isn’t dedicating time to it, isn’t a case of finding it boring or any of that...I used to spend several hours a day meditating during a phase when I was able to form the images in my mind easier (except the intention wasn’t for manifesting so wasn’t used in that way)...

The thing that I want to improve is the actual forming of the images, of sounds, of the sense of touch, of the things being in 3D space, of continuous movement etc. Sometimes it just feels like my imagination doesn’t work which leaves me feeling without power.

Even in daydreaming, what you are describing is making use of the sensory vividness to make it feel real. Some people say that if it’s unclear, it doesn’t matter and it still works. In my experience, it’s much easier to create the emotions when things are vivid, because it feels real, and as we know, feeling is the secret

So although there are times when it catches me by surprise and I can do it well, that feels like leaving it to chance and isn’t consciously creating, just waiting for these moments to come up. This is what I want to improve because it’s our most natural right, to be able to imagine, and I don’t know what happens to some of us that has made it stop being easy.

Any suggestions on how to make visualisation not feel like a chore? I am busy with work a lot of the time like most people and when I get time to do it I have this sort of nervousness like right, this is my chance, I have to do it well. But the times when I do it well, are when it's not planned. BUT, I want to be consistent...

I know what I have to do, I get it completely. It's just doing it that I'm stuck with, because I haven't found something that works. I would love to be able to fall asleep in the wish fulfilled, and I have noticed positive changes after I have done that a couple of times as a complete fluke.

I like scripting, I've done loads of that. But I didn't know whether to keep on doing that or to visualize as well. People have advised me that you don't need to keep doing it again and again, but the belief has to changed somehow and I know that when I have intense visualisations, I do notice changes in the physical world.

But at the moment it feels like a chore. I asked myself a while ago, how much do you want this, and to what extent are you willing to go? I really would spend a few hours visualising every single day, I just struggle to do it because I feel like I haven't developed the skill, and because of that, it's sometimes a complete mess of random thoughts, and other times it works. So because I don't know if I'm gonna enjoy it on a particular day, it feels like work. Any suggestions?

I also have noticed that touch makes it feel the most real, and that is the thing I find harder to imagine. Not sure if maybe my mind needs to be more relaxed in general, to do it properly. Because sometimes, I will catch myself imagining and it feels real and I wasn't trying, like daydreaming.

 

In fact, these other people don't show up when I'm feeling good. I hadn't been feeling high until the last couple of days since I've got a bit more on track. And I remember a few months ago when I was feeling really bad, there was another one similar that really made me cringe.