Agreed--I needed this. Thanks for sharing.

BooLala wrote:

TheChemist wrote:

BooLala wrote:

I think its so easy to get an ex back.
The advantage already is that there's already that connection, hence the word ex. You were an item. So there is the attraction state. The battle is having the clear focus. Once you have that focus and NOTHING from the past is holding you back it literally is the home stretch

You make a lot of good points. In fact, I'd say we still are an item, and that attraction completely persists. I know she's my soulmate, after everything else we went through, and I can't wait to spend the rest of our lives together.

Letting go of the past has been hard for me. I'm doggedly pushing myself to imagine only the future now, however. I took your advice and scripted how our relationship looks and how happy we are together, and I felt so serene and warm last night that I slept and woke with her in my arms and on my lips. Thank you so much for that advice.

Yeah course no worries

So I took your advice. I'm scripting about our relationship all the time--while watching movies or inbetween playing games or bored at work--and it's amazing.

I've also started telling people we've re-united and we're working through our issues, and it's making it feel very real. Any day now, I'm sure I'll hear from her.

That's really fascinating, actually. Sometimes, it feels like we're all groping at something we don't truly understand, with everyone trying different techniques and meeting with different results. In my profession, where this sort of thing is common, this generally means everyone has a glimpse of the truth, but not the whole story.

As far as I can tell, two things are needed to manifest: (1) a clear goal and (2) a high vibration. Anything that solidifies those attributes, it seems, will lead to manifestation. Self-love, for what it's woth, definitely improves my vibration and, in my experience, strengthens my visualizations.

I'm not sure what the right answer overall is, however. I'm still improving, although I have had success manifesting other things when I'm embracing how much of a badass I am and completely certain of what I want. I think I lost sight of the former last week, which bred this topic.

Steffiqt2 wrote:

The universe doesn't test, it's your old patterns still coming up and manifesting. It's just showing there are still sub subconscious thoughts there. We don't even realize until we say that's weird where did that who what where when why come from. It came from you, the old you!!

You're right. The old me sucked, and I'm steadily getting rid of him. In the last week alone, I've done, I dunno, 800 positive affirmations? Keeping it constant—y'know, doing it a few times in the mirror each day—has felt wonderful. I definitely love the crap out of myself and it's wonderful.

Subconscious thoughts are the hardest to change, though. Here's  hoping things shift soon under the surface. I feel good overall, and the visualizing has felt great, and I am really, really happy with myself, so that's something, hah.

Yeah, it's an amazing thing to do. I use them daily now, almost every time I go to a bathroom or pass the mirror in the bedroom. Just a quick, 'Hey, I'm pretty awesome. I love myself, and I'm happy with the way life is progressing.' It's powerful, man.