my love says that we can be friends, he says he doesn't see us in a relationship and that people cannot change that fast and that he just doesn't see us in a relationship. I admit I had gotten jealous and we did argue at times, I am currently trying to be a better version of me now. he says if there is no foundation there is no point.

however my question is, should I pick up on his offer of being a friend? he is texting me randomly saying normal stuff nothing like I miss you or anything relationship wise, and he likes my fb posts.. if I do text him back and agree to be his friend will being his friend be able to show him that i am improving myself on the aspects that he did not like about me and what I had tried to control him on what I didn't want him to do before? :/ I messed up, and I am wondering if being friends will give me a stepping stone into being his love again? or will it hurt my chances? I just want to be able to show him I am a loving/caring/free spirited girl that he had fell in love with..

usually i do not try to reach out to him, i usually wait for him to send me a text to have that 1:1 texting ratio going on. It's been almost a month since we have broken up and the longest i have gone no contact was 4 days.

any advice? thank you !

angeldust4 wrote:

swtbabygrl wrote:

I'm having such a difficult time to not send him a text message to my love. I know I just spoke to him yesterday.. maybe i made a mistake of agreeing to be friends so that i can finally "accept" the break up to him but maybe it's backfiring on me.. errr i really want to know what he's doing right now, and where he is at. I was trying to listen to veronica's videos today and hypnosis videos but then i keep worrying and wanting to text him. but if he wanted to talk to me he would text me..? he was the last to text but then he gave me a call last night.. not sure if that makes a difference but i need to try to raise my vibration and think more positive today.. it's been rough.

I'm by far no expert (yet lol) but I'd say that if you are okay with being just friends with him and that's what makes you feel good, then go for it. If that doesn't feel good for you and you know you want more, there will be a disconnect. Why is it that you want to talk to him? What do you hope to gain and what will you gain? You must ask yourself these questions. You'll get more clarity by doing so.

ok freaky like after 10 min of posting he texted me, he texted me a link and then liked my fb post. we had a mini convo it was short. i mean I'm conflicted to be honest because if i am his friend there is a possibility that i could work my way up to build a foundation to maybe earn his trust again but then again i might end up being left in the friend zone. so not sure.. i replied to his text kinda like a LC, i feel that maybe if he wants to talk he reaches out but when he doesn't i should just wait for him to contact me? when he writes one word answers or replies that don't need answers thats when i usually don't text back like if he says "yeah" or any reply that does not need a response -__- i tried to talk to him through my mind today for him to text me, took him all day but i feel like it's progress, better than nothing like he's reaching ou

Creeeeestal wrote:

swtbabygrl wrote:

whosurdaddy wrote:

i think you should go into  no contact so he can miss you

 
so yesterday afternoon he told me that he doesn't see us in a relationship and he doesn't think that I've changed. "I was jealous" I told him that I am improving everyday. and he said that we can be friends, he said there needs to be a foundation. he told me he would call me later

he did end up calling me later we were on the phone for like an hour talking about random stuff while he was watching the game, he kept saying "you're my Friend" "right right you're my friend". he did mention a movie that was coming out and I was like ohh I want to see that. then later we were talking about basketball and I was like I wanted to go see a live game one day and he was like "we should go" and I was like.. yeah look it up and let me know. (although the season is ending now there prob wont be a game home much til months from now)

I keep wondering, should I become his friend even though I want him back in order for him to maybe ask me to go hang out? Could we really be friends in order for him to see my changes, because if I do not talk to him or see him how would he be able to see my changes? Or is it a bad idea? and what happens if he does text me random stuff..? I'm so conflicted at this time, yesterday was the first time he straight out said that we are broken up and that we are Friends now. The other weeks he never really said it straight out. so I feel like I have been dumped all over again....

not sure what to really do about this friend thing, will it bring us closer or not.

I definitely can't tell you what to do, but I have been there before. If you're able to be friends with him while still being distant and focusing on you and making yourself happy, keeping true to the visualizations you're doing and what you're manifesting, then by all means.

I wasn't unfortunately, and I ended up fighting with my ex. There was a lot of heavy drama

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