whosurdaddy wrote:

i think you should go into  no contact so he can miss you

 
so yesterday afternoon he told me that he doesn't see us in a relationship and he doesn't think that I've changed. "I was jealous" I told him that I am improving everyday. and he said that we can be friends, he said there needs to be a foundation. he told me he would call me later

he did end up calling me later we were on the phone for like an hour talking about random stuff while he was watching the game, he kept saying "you're my Friend" "right right you're my friend". he did mention a movie that was coming out and I was like ohh I want to see that. then later we were talking about basketball and I was like I wanted to go see a live game one day and he was like "we should go" and I was like.. yeah look it up and let me know. (although the season is ending now there prob wont be a game home much til months from now)

I keep wondering, should I become his friend even though I want him back in order for him to maybe ask me to go hang out? Could we really be friends in order for him to see my changes, because if I do not talk to him or see him how would he be able to see my changes? Or is it a bad idea? and what happens if he does text me random stuff..? I'm so conflicted at this time, yesterday was the first time he straight out said that we are broken up and that we are Friends now. The other weeks he never really said it straight out. so I feel like I have been dumped all over again....

not sure what to really do about this friend thing, will it bring us closer or not.

Creeeeestal wrote:

swtbabygrl wrote:

whosurdaddy wrote:

i think you should go into  no contact so he can miss you

 
so yesterday afternoon he told me that he doesn't see us in a relationship and he doesn't think that I've changed. "I was jealous" I told him that I am improving everyday. and he said that we can be friends, he said there needs to be a foundation. he told me he would call me later

he did end up calling me later we were on the phone for like an hour talking about random stuff while he was watching the game, he kept saying "you're my Friend" "right right you're my friend". he did mention a movie that was coming out and I was like ohh I want to see that. then later we were talking about basketball and I was like I wanted to go see a live game one day and he was like "we should go" and I was like.. yeah look it up and let me know. (although the season is ending now there prob wont be a game home much til months from now)

I keep wondering, should I become his friend even though I want him back in order for him to maybe ask me to go hang out? Could we really be friends in order for him to see my changes, because if I do not talk to him or see him how would he be able to see my changes? Or is it a bad idea? and what happens if he does text me random stuff..? I'm so conflicted at this time, yesterday was the first time he straight out said that we are broken up and that we are Friends now. The other weeks he never really said it straight out. so I feel like I have been dumped all over again....

not sure what to really do about this friend thing, will it bring us closer or not.

I definitely can't tell you what to do, but I have been there before. If you're able to be friends with him while still being distant and focusing on you and making yourself happy, keeping true to the visualizations you're doing and what you're manifesting, then by all means.

I wasn't unfortunately, and I ended up fighting with my ex. There was a lot of heavy drama, we worked together, and i ended up walking out of my job because people kept saying he was saying negative things about me. Every time I brought it to his attention he said it wasn't true, and he tried to convince me that I mattered to him. I had been doing the 25 day challenge and manifested these heartfelt apologies from him, and he expressed feelings that he never did before. He was making a change. However I kept focusing on why the drama was happening, so eventually, at the end of it all, he told me he thought i was just making it up. We haven't spoken since. So I've been trying to rebuild myself. 

I don't think there's a right or wrong way to do this. I saw another forum post that said "I am the prize not him." I think that's what we all need to remember. Just trust and have that faith that what you're doing is working and he's coming back at the perfect time. I realized that I'm still not ready because I still get sad and discouraged about things dealing with him. I love him very much and want to be with him, and at the end the good outweighed the bad for me, but we definitely needed time apart because our vibrations were extremely low. Take as much time as you can to heal you. That's what I'm doing for myself, and I'm getting there. 

You're also getting there. Keep looking for things you can do to make you happy. Im trying do discover some new hobbies and interests as well. Spending more time together with my mother and uplifting each other. I haven't received contact yet, but I haven't 100% let go and I know that. Take it day by day, hour by hour if you have to.

Once again not telling you what to do, but I am telling you what I do/have done. <3

 
thanks for you response. how long have you been waiting for him to contact you? what type of hobbies have you been thinking of doing lately? I am thinking of some hobbies myself but I am unsure what to do. What I already do is gym/meditation (visualizing) at this time but I feel like I need to do some more stuff to keep my mind off him.

so in this situation if I was going to "be his friend" do I always wait for him to text me first or would I also reach out as well?