There is no hopeless situation unless you cannot learn to control your thinking and you whole heartedly believe that they are yours. When you want them and need them you don't get them. This creates lack and well..you get more of what you think about. Imagine them as already yours, forgive them, yourself, and totally forget the past relationship. You are re creating a new story. You have to be happy without your lover in your life in order to get them. Relax, enjoy yourself, be happy, carefree, Joyful, blissful. Make you your number 1 priority. Pamper yourself, find a new hobby, go out with friends. Anything to get your mind off him. When your emotions heal, then the magic happens. This is when they come back in the most perfect, wonderful way and they are everything you dream of. Your vibration creates what you want.

swtbabygrl wrote:

Cyclewoman1974 wrote:

There is no hopeless situation unless you cannot learn to control your thinking and you whole heartedly believe that they are yours. When you want them and need them you don't get them. This creates lack and well..you get more of what you think about. Imagine them as already yours, forgive them, yourself, and totally forget the past relationship. You are re creating a new story. You have to be happy without your lover in your life in order to get them. Relax, enjoy yourself, be happy, carefree, Joyful, blissful. Make you your number 1 priority. Pamper yourself, find a new hobby, go out with friends. Anything to get your mind off him. When your emotions heal, then the magic happens. This is when they come back in the most perfect, wonderful way and they are everything you dream of. Your vibration creates what you want.

 
thank you for your response. I have a question, so during this period of not contacting them, would I still be able to post on my social media? things I usually post normally such as selfies/ photos of my son/foods/gym photos? I know I am not supposed to contact them especially in order for them to miss and wonder what I am doing but if I am posting things on social media will that be ok?

I think you should just have fun on my own. You can post whatever you want. Like me I totally quit searching for his updates on social media and just try to live in my fairyland believing he is mine and living with me.  

 

my fiancé texted me yesterday but not on his own, we have a mutual friend i think he told him to talk to me.. long story short he told me to keep up with loving myself, to continue to grow and take care of me/my son first. he told me "idk i'm still reflecting" "i can't think about anything about relationship at this moment"
when it came to lets work things out.. when he left the house he didn't really have a plan, he was planning to go to his parents house but he end up i guess didn't ask for a while so he was living he said " i went from living in a comfortable house to living in a car and bounce around friends house, feeling like ****, no food, no tv, but i accepted" 

i told him I'm trying to stay positive, and he says stay positive who knows what the future might bring.. but in the end he was not very happy with me still i can tell it was like hot and cold, like he was trying to encourage me to not give up on myself and also he did not want to do anything right now. I'm trying to think positive thoughts and I did visualizations of us this morning, i hope that things will work out. 

when he texted me i should've stayed no contact but i guess i caved in because he was replying in a positive way and i just started no contact yesterday.. i pray everyday and use  affirmations that things will work out.. times are difficult right now, i did not reply to his last text of telling me to continue to work on myself because he did let me know by the way he texted and choice of words that he is mad at me right now. i think i just need to leave him alone , like Veronica says for him to come to me.. would he still come to me and text me even if he was the last person to text? it wasn't a question or anything it was just a statement. 

i need to think positive thoughts now

PixelPie wrote:

swtbabygrl wrote:

Cyclewoman1974 wrote:

There is no hopeless situation unless you cannot learn to control your thinking and you whole heartedly believe that they are yours. When you want them and need them you don't get them. This creates lack and well..you get more of what you think about. Imagine them as already yours, forgive them, yourself, and totally forget the past relationship. You are re creating a new story. You have to be happy without your lover in your life in order to get them. Relax, enjoy yourself, be happy, carefree, Joyful, blissful. Make you your number 1 priority. Pamper yourself, find a new hobby, go out with friends. Anything to get your mind off him. When your emotions heal, then the magic happens. This is when they come back in the most perfect, wonderful way and they are everything you dream of. Your vibration creates what you want.

he's lashing out at me right now, he seems to have a lot of anger in him, he is surrounded by friends that do not like me, they are giving him influences like do not go back to me, do not talk to me and saying how jealous i am.... should i continue to think positive thoughts or is this hopeless?

Can you see that the more you focus on the above/believing it to be hopeless the more of that you get? You're job is to change your point of view on this whole thing. If you want your love back and you want his friends to have positive feeling about you two together. You have to stop living in the hopeless feeling and mentally change the story. To something like "my guy loves me sssooo much. We are amazingly happy together and he keeps telling me how jealous his friends are that he has someone as amazing as me!!! ☺"

Do you feel the defense? You always get back how you feel. So you have to work on a better feeling. So forgive everything that's happen up tell now. And leave it in the past. Then choose what you want to happen and start living in that feeling until you know 100% that it is happening and it will happen. 😄

i heard some bad news, i heard he is planning to move out of state down south.... i was in a positive vibe yesterday and tried to again this morning but every bad news keep hitting me up right now. 

PixelPie wrote:

swtbabygrl wrote:

PixelPie wrote:

Can you see that the more you focus on the above/believing it to be hopeless the more of that you get? You're job is to change your point of view on this whole thing. If you want your love back and you want his friends to have positive feeling about you two together. You have to stop living in the hopeless feeling and mentally change the story. To something like "my guy loves me sssooo much. We are amazingly happy together and he keeps telling me how jealous his friends are that he has someone as amazing as me!!! ☺"

Do you feel the defense? You always get back how you feel. So you have to work on a better feeling. So forgive everything that's happen up tell now. And leave it in the past. Then choose what you want to happen and start living in that feeling until you know 100% that it is happening and it will happen. 😄

i heard some bad news, i heard he is planning to move out of state down south.... i was in a positive vibe yesterday and tried to again this morning but every bad news keep hitting me up right now. 

You have to let go of what people have told you. And focus on what you want only. Bad news will happen and that is due to things you were worried about before now. Really life is always the after effect to what we focus on before. So once you change your thinking
Real life will start to change to match the new things you thing about. It won't happen over night at 1st. So let's take this one day at a time. Ok? ☺. Have you read anything in the immediate alignment thread?

Listen to the pixie! She's is amazing and smart and full of amazing knowledge!