It has been a week now since I stopped "trying" to manifest my ex back. I haven't give up, but I decided to stop thinking about him the whole day, stopped RS and started to focus on myself (best decision I ever made!). The first 2 days were hard. I don't know why, but I started crying again. It felt like a secound mini-breakup, but after these 2 days I felt a HUGE relief and I really can recommend it to everyone who wants their ex back. Remember that it is not giving up. You can go back to RS and visualisation any time you want.

What is the benefit of completely letting go of your ex for a time you may ask? There are many. (The order has nothing to do with the importance except for the last point.)

1. You change your focus
I see nearly everyone on this board speaking about their ex in every single post. Yes, I know that the topic of this forum is manifesting a relationship with your ex, BUT a relationship involves two persons (at least ;D). Why are you speaking so much about your ex and so little about you? Because your focus is completely on them. Many people here are in one post desperate and in the next they tell us how much they love themself and how much fun they have. Seriously? If I look at Abe's emotional scale love and depression are faaaar away from each other. Yes, "fake it till you make it" isn't bad, but in many cases I read between the lines of the posts "I will love myself and be very happy IN ORDER to get my ex back so that he can again do that for me". It doesn't work that way. It's your job to make you happy when you are with your ex or not. If you change your focus on yourself you ensure that you really do it for you and not just to get your ex back.

2. You can heal
Yes, it is nice to know about LoA and have hope to get your ex back, but it makes me sad if I see people who desperately try to attract their ex back for a year or longer. They visualized, RSed, affirmed for a whole year and the ex still isn't back. But much more important the person is nearly as desperate as in the week after the breakup. Why? Because he/she never let go of the ex and had him/her in the mind nearly 24/7 for one year! By the way, how needy is that? If I break up with someone and this someone whould come after a year and say to me that he thought about me every single day this last year and that he worked hard mentally every day to get me back...I would find that really disgusting, inattractive and wouldn't have any interest in contact with him let alone a relationship.

3. You raise your vibration
After I went through the mini-breakup I felt a really huge relief. It felt as if a heavy stone has left my stomach. You maybe know Abraham's example of the cork in the water. It felt as if the thoughts of my ex were the hand that pushed the cork down and when I let go of the obsessive (positive, but obsessive) thoughts about him the cork went naturally up. I feel really good these days and my mood is stable. I think my radiation has changed. I didn't get any feedback about it yet, but I can feel it and it feels so much better than the "I have to do that to get my ex back" type of "happiness".

4. You get an energy boost
At least, it is what I experience right now. When you stop thinking about your ex so much your RAM has free resources. You will have so much energy, you will want to try new things, you will want to go out, you want to be happy, you will feel free and that's really great.

5. You can get over the old relationship
In my opinion you have to get over the old relationship, because you don't want the old one with your ex. You want a brand new one, better than ever before. Why do you have to get over the old one? See your future boyfriend/girlfriend (now ex) as a new person. You don't want to jump into a relationship with a new person before you got over the old one, right? If you focus on your ex all day every day you can't get over him/her. If you want to quit smoking do you think about cigarettes the whole day? Hell no, you try to think of something completely unrelated. After maybe 3 months of not smoking you can think of a cigarette without withdrawal symptoms. But at this point you aren't longer that interested in cigarettes. I don't say that you won't want your ex back (it could be the case), but you won't have interest to go back to the obsessive thought patterns.

6. You see that you are on the right track
If you are ready to let go of your ex and all your processes to get him/her back you are no longer too attached. If you visualize 3 times a day chances are that you want to control the manifestation. If you do it because you love it - great, but I think most of you would stop your visualisation if you would find out that LoA is just a hoax.
Don't worry if you are not ready yet. Take you all the time you need.

7. You stop trying to rush things
I know, you want your ex back as quick as possible, but the universe doesn't work that way. You never get what you need, you get what you don't need. If you want him as quick as possible you tell the universe that you can't be happy by yourself and you need him and the universe will think: "Uuuh, that's unhealthy. I love you SO much that I won't give you what you want, because I want you to be happy with yourself. You are worth it. I want you to know how amazing you are. Your guy/girl is here in your vortex, ready to come to you when YOU are ready." See how the universe takes care of you? Isn't that lovely to know?
The time after the breakup is very important. Use it wisely to become your greatest version and don't ***** about how long it takes, you will only get more of how long it takes.

8. You don't need him anymore to be happy
As I said you don't get what you need. When you really feel that you don't need him/her your confidence will raise. You see that there are many other great people outside and your ex is just one of them. Maybe you will have days on which you think that your ex isn't that great, maybe you will fall a bit for someone else. Don't worry, that won't affect your manifestion, it's the opposite. Imagine your ex write you a message, something between the lines "hey, I'm thinking all the time of you. Can we meet up and talk?". Normally you would totally freak out. Omg, he/she wants you back. But then the doubts would kick in. Maybe he/she is playing with you and want to check out if he/she could have you back whenever he/she wants and will drop you if you react too open to his/her offer? Your brain will find many ways to make you doubt. But if you are confident and happy without your ex you won't freak out. You will be cool and take you time. You are happy now. You don't need to get back with your ex in this very minute. In fact you want to work through things slowly, because you are not desperate.

9. You have sooo much to offer when he/she comes back
Ok, so you used your raised vibration and your energy rush to improve your life. You started surfing, are learning japanese, are in great shape, have a new job, got to know many new people and your trip to the netherlands was just amazing. And NOW you meet your ex. You are confident and relaxed. You are the person he/she once met and fell in love with (and completely different from the person he/she left). What do you think, who will want whom back? Don't tell him/her about RS. He/she will it use constantly on you from this day forth. ;)

10. You get distance to him/her
Maybe that doesn't sound so appealing to you, but don't worry. You have a connection to your ex and it won't vanish that fast. Besides you can't hold it up by thinking about him/her constantly. It's a good thing to get distance between you two because your emotional involvement decreases. When you have contact with him/her it won't affect you so much if he/she don't act like you want him/her to act.

11. You can decide if your ex is really worth it
After the breakup you feel like crap. Why? Because your ex was a drug for you. You have really hard withdrawal symptoms. If you take your focus from your ex you will overcome that quicker. And if the withdrawal symptoms lay behind you you can decide if you really love your ex and want him/her back or if it was just an addiction. Don't underestimate your brain chemistry.

12. It shows that your belief is strong
If you give up on your processes and stop focusing on your ex but don't give up on eventually getting back together it probably means that your belief is strong and you won't ruin the manifestation with not longer focusing on your ex. By the way, how often did something manifest in your life the moment you focused on it? You thought about your ex for months. The universe got you, believe me.

13. The manifestation comes quicker
This is the last point because it is REALLY the least important one. If you are in the right place for the manifestation you don't care when it happen or how or even if, because you are happy by yourself.


If you feel anxious when you read this post don't worry. You are not ready yet. You will get there eventually. A breakup has different stages. Just don't hang around in the desperation stage for too long.

I don't give much on signs, but yesterday I had a really nice one I want to share with you at the end of my loong post. I think it popped up because I stopped thinking about him so much.
My ex and I are living together. His room was our bedroom before. My closet is in it, so I have to go in his room from time to time. Yesterday I entered it when he wasn't home. Right before our breakup we were in a chinese restaurant and got fortune cookies. He didn't eat his until yesterday (it has been nearly 4 months now). I found the saying of the fortune cookie beneath his bed. It said something like he will soon have a happy reunion. Lol..I bet he thought about me while reading this. The funny thing is we had 6 of the fortune cookies. I had all in my poket and gave just this one to him 4 months ago. ;)
I thought it was nice but I didn't freak out. That is what one week of letting go completely of him did for me. Maybe it can help you too?