I love to take myself out to eat.  You can never go wrong with food. LOL

ChaliceSnowFlower wrote:

Avaelle wrote:

She indeeds sounds very co dependent.

I've never been outright suicidal over a breakup but very down and out.

I had to hit the ground running to raise my happy meter by focusing on the other things I enjoyed and were good at

Believe me, I have already given her a list of fun activities she can do. But she is determined to stay on this path.

Hopefully she'll have her moment of clarity soon.  For me,  I just knew that I didn't want to spend life sad and upset

ChaliceSnowFlower wrote:

Avaelle wrote:

Roughly 8 months ago,  I started to have a domino effect of situations. Quite frankly,  the guy that I came here to attract back moved down my list of priority. I stopped attempting to manipulate the system, per say,  so that I could focus on other areas of my life that mattered more. It was during that time,  I felt like RS and PW truly worked because as soon as I stopped all that,  it was like the guy completely faded away and I'd never hear from him again. Due to the things I was going through in life,  I didn't care if I heard from him again.

Once I started to get my life in order,  I started to focus on getting my vibration higher for my overall good.  It was no longer about what I could get but how I sincerely felt.  It feels so good to feel like I am truly enjoying life,  happy and can handle anything that comes my way without pinning over a guy.  I truly feel like I was coming from a bad place when I did all this. Meaning,  it's not good to want someone so bad that I'd do all this.

Needless to say,  he contacts me all of the time now.  He begs me to see him.  When I say no,  he tries over and over. However,  I'm no longer interested but it's clear that he can't get me off of his mind. I just don't want it anymore. 

I think the true success is being able to focus on overall life and not just an area. I really think many of us are missing the ball. 

@Avaelle, I love your mindset. I have client I am working with who wants to commit suicide because her ex-boyfriend broke up with her 6 months ago. He is with someone else and she suspects he was cheating with this woman before the break up. And no matter what I say, her mindset is see can't live without him and she can't be happy without him.

I am trying to get her to see that ind of mindset and vibration is only giving her the opposite of what she desires. But she refuses to listen.

She indeeds sounds very

Correct.  Oh, I havent wanted him in over a year

I miss the group that was around back when I joined. Lol. It was an interesting time. I wonder how everyone is.