I asolutely love this article, Vera, and the website is a goldmine of helpful advice, too. Thank you so much for sharing! 

Sanshi wrote:

I have to admit that I don't really feel comfortable with giving advice to you, because you have guided me in my early days here, but I have something to say, so I hope it helps anyway.

First of all, congratulations for nearly manifesting him back once again.
I think you are too focused on your current reality. Only because it happened once, it doesn't mean that it will happen again. It can only happen again, if you expect it to happen again, so drop it. It isn't what you prefer. So why not assuming that he is just scraping his courage together to text you? Or even better, why not assuming that he has already texted you? If you feel resistance towards contacting him, don't do it. It's a clear hint that it's not the way to go for now.

Awww Sanshi no reason to feel uncomfortable. I have always found your wisdom, your kindness, and your advice especially helpful to my situation.

After reading your advice and also another friend's advice, I have decided not to make any contact. I really do feel resistance to the idea and so yes, on reflection I think you are absolutely right. 

The remaining part of your advice is also very helpful to me because, yes, I need to drop expecting him to behave this way. That is very true and I will get to work on it.

Thank you so much! :-)

I'm fine about who is on the forum now. But my one sadness is that Cherished isn't making any more of her fabulous posts anymore. To be honest, her posts and general replies were as good as any loa book I've ever read. Cherished, where are you? 

I think the problem may come up because sometimes people come here wanting help to manifest something in their life, but they haven't yet grasped the fact that our whole life experience depends on our vibration, and they mistakenly treat this as a counselling forum.. I do understand that this it is very easy to want to talk about what went wrong in a situation (especially if it is an ex back situation, or a debt or health situation). But we need to understand that rehashing what went wrong, how bad we feel, how it is all hopeless, etc etc etc, will NEVER give anyone the results they are after. Not in a million years. It will just set the negative wheel in perpetual motion and give us more of the same. 

What Cherished and so many other people try to do, I think, is to nudge members in the direction of reaching for a better feeling and cleaning up their vibration so that the manifestations - big or small -  can start appearing in our lives. But unfortunately, many people don't understand this. And that is often when they get frustrated and angry, and I htink that may be part of the reason for the "bullying" tag. 

I really want Cherished to stay. So many times I go through her posts in the way I might go through a good loa book, and I feel my faith strengthening. I loved her posts on The Magic and E-Squared, for example. She made loa FUN!  I loved her story about how she used loa to get her cat to return to her, her posts on yoga and her posts on appreciating life. These posts are as educational and life enriching as any other loa work I have ever read. And I have read virtually everything.

This is just my personal opinion, but what I think would be helpful is if there were some kind of post that could be made about the general philosophy of the forum - one that explains clearly to new members exactly why we don't want to do any wallowing here, and why we want to keep on a positve track as much as possible. Maybe then there would be less upset when Cherished (or

I have always found Cherished's advice really helpful.

Look, we want results with the loa, don't we? And Cherished, as far as I can see, always drums into our heads that we will not get what we want if we indulge in a misery party, which brings everyone else down in the process and hinders all the thngs we want coming to fruition.

All I know is that from the moment I first read her posts and started heeding her advice about making feeling good the most important thing, reaching for a sightly better feeling, appreciating the beauty of the world around me, etc etc, etc, then the manifestations have been popping up like mushrooms. It is truly, truly amazing and it is a whole lot of fun!  Had I just continued to have a good wallow in my problems then I doubt that my loa progress would have come along half as well as it has done.

 Cherished, you are awesome.