I think this forum has changed and you're right but I think its changed because of the amount of people on here who were getting so super upset and angry and depressed that their specific person wasn't coming back to them and even seemingly going further away from them, one woman posted that her guy got engaged and another posted about a pregnancy. Some people were also just getting a bit obsessive and having mini break downs about the smallest negative actions of their person. I think there were too many people going down an unhealthy route just because they were told they can get their ex back if they followed the steps. I think its not fair to tease upset people into thinking that if they just act happy or try to be happy, they'll get their ex back. This just isn't the case or a million people in the world would be with their lost loves, including my mother for instance. It takes more than just being happy , it takes a vibration,and honestly, not everyone really digs everyone else even if those people are in a good place. You need to actually do a bit more subtle work to get the specific person back I think, such as knowing exactly what that person desires and becoming that. But too many people I feel were getting more upset after a while on this forum and feeling even lower than they were when they first got on

Like I joined nearly a year ago after my break up and I just tried to do everything that it said on here to get him back and I thought it was all going to be A OK and I was fine...but then he went and moved to India with the new girl....so then I came on here crying looking for help and then felt OK and thought, maybe he'll break up with her over there and come back to me! And kept my vibe up and visualised and meditated ...but he didn't break up with her and he came back months after. For the longest time I lived in distress, feeling hopeful, feeling crap, but then I listened to everything on YouTube about this again and I got it. You actually really need to just move on to get them back and by move on, like move on. Don't think of them, have fun, meet new people, get into a place where you feel fresh and ready for love and the future and if they don't come back, its be cause they don't vibe with your vibe and that's just it! Can't force anyone to dance your dance if they don't like it but there will be others who do like it! And you can't  dance with them if you don't work with their steps! Love isn't meant to be so hard. You can't force something that's wrong

I think it'd be nice if you told Cotton how much you appreciate her. I was lurking on Lanie Steven's forum one day and I saw that she was banned over some really BS stuff.

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I think it'd be nice if you told Cotton how much you appreciate her. I was lurking on Lanie Steven's forum one day and I saw that she was banned over some really BS stuff.

Dude.. Cotton is flipping amazing, a goddess in my book. Her post always sent chills down my back. I miss her for sure!!

I come on here sometimes, but personally... I notice I do better  when I don't overthink too much, and coming on here, I tend to overthink... So, I rather just stay off.