YesIWILL wrote:

But if we create our own universe, then sure we can. Everyone is us pushed out, meaning we can get whomever we'd like.

Here’s the thing. Whenever I see people arguing over, “But Loa says we can attract anything we want!,” you have to also take into consideration where you’re currently at mentally and emotionally. Yes, you can attract whoever and whatever you want but if you’re in a low place, those relationships or manifestations will be short lived. This is why it’s incredibly crucial to focus on yourself first. You can repeat the same affirmations every day until you pass out but unless you internally feel the words you’re saying, you’re going to be standing on shaky ground.

You can’t in the same breath go, “She or he is going to return. We’re in a new loving relationship” and in the next one, “but they’re in a relationship right now. I don’t know if it’s going to work. Maybe it won’t. What do I do? It's been so long. They blocked me. Do they hate me? I need a new technique. I wish there was one that 100% successful. I better ask someone.” It’s a spiral. When you don’t respect yourself or the life you’ve been given, any good that comes to you will never be appreciated in deserving ways.

To have a loving relationship with anyone, you need to show the same kindness to yourself. Loa isn’t a Genie that grants all your wishes. You have to put in the internal and emotional work to reach a place where you’re able to openly receive the care you’ve always wanted. If you don’t and continue putting your worth in the hands of those who don’t see your value, what do you really think will happen?

Be accountable for where you are, forgive what’s already happened, and move towards becoming the best version of yourself for you. Put in the work and the rest will follow.

I’ve stopped coming to this place for the very fact of what’s happening throughout this thread. For whatever reason, people seem to have a hard time accepting that Loa works differently for everyone. Your experiences will not be the same as someone else’s. Yes, there will be overlapping similarities but as a whole, no two people are identical in their situations or approaches. To tell someone they shouldn’t want something is silly. It’s not your claim or judgement to make. You don’t know what they’re going through. All you’re sure of is the bits and pieces they choose to share on a public forum. It can get repetitive but then again, most things are. There’s always more to a story and to speak like you know others better than they know themselves is unnecessary. At the end of the day, every person here is using Loa to better their lives. Those who are stuck will eventually find their way. If they don’t, that’s okay too because it will be their choice. Let everyone live their truth. If you think they’re being self destructive, throw in your two cents. Those who want to listen, will. Those who don’t, won’t.. in which case, stop replying. You don’t need to continue to support or enable behaviour you think is bad or obsessive. Wish them well and hope they figure out what works best for them.

As for attracting past loves, I will never agree with the whole “someone better/something better” argument. It conflicts with everything Loa is — that we create our own reality. When a person decides to move on from their ex and suddenly meets someone new, it’s not the Universe or God showing you “something better.” It’s YOU. It’s always been YOU. Why? Because you moved and progressed from your original desires and intentions. You grew into stronger alignment with a more beneficial outcome. As a result, the person you met after letting go of your ex matched the wants and needs you were looking for in that moment and

Sanshi wrote:

And I want to add one last thought, because the discussion, if it's even possible to attract an ex back, comes up again and again. Let's assume that my conclusions about signs are right. Let's further assume that a person does everything right and vibrates on the frequency of a happy relationship with their ex. If it is possible to attract an ex back, he HAS to come in that scenario. If it's not (always) possible, then the universe has to at least deliver what is closest to the vibration the person is offering, because it's a law that it has to reflect what we focus upon. That means the universe has to deliver to us a fitting partner for a happy relationship.

And so my final conclusion: Irrespective if it's possible or not, when you do everything right and vibrate at the right frequency, you have to at least find a perfect partner for you soon. That means as long as you are not head over heels in love with a new person (or your ex), your vibration is not in the right place to get your ex back yet! And that means, you have no reason to be desperate or to give up, because if you do everything right, the universe has to deliver a relationship to you in any case.

This is the part that confuses me. I know in my case, there came a point where I completely let go, stopped visualising, and everything else. I simply let go of the resistance I had and moved on with my life. The intention was there that I wanted my person back but I wasn't thinking about him every hour of the day and basing my emotions or actions on him whatsoever. I started meeting new people, went on dates, and everything has been great. Better than ever but what I quickly noticed is that none of these guys I went out with was who I wanted to be with. Despite fully letting go of my guy, emotionally and mentally, there was still a guide that led me back to him. We haven't spoken in ages. I have no idea what he's doing. Just so happened the other day, a mutual friend had liked his photo

RollingRock33 wrote:

Cherished wrote:

Not if you keep questioning

... and how do I stop questioning...? 

And once I stop questioning, all should be fine and she WILL ocme back?
 

Honest question - Why do you need so much reassurance in everything you do? Why not just do something or take on a task with confidence? Cherished, Sam, or anyone else can tell you - yeah, sure this will all work only to have you come back and ask, "But are you sure?" You constantly repeat the same cycle hoping for a different outcome. Aren't you tired?

If your posts are any indication of how you've been treating her, I can completely understand why she's keeping her distance. It's hard to have someone in your life who doesn't respect you enough to listen. She's made it clear where she stands yet you continue to tell her how you feel, how much you love her, how you want to be together, etc. It's overwhelming. If you were secure, confident, and happy, you would be taking care of you. Everyone, in general, is attracted to people who have a great sense of self. It's exhausting to be with a person who makes you their everything. You shouldn't be idolising who you're with when the person on the pedestal should be you. If you can't love yourself, how do you expect to love anyone else?

You need to stop with the questions and start taking control of your own life. You want definite answers but refuse to do the work to achieve the outcome. Go back to your first post on this forum. You can trace your progress and if you're fully honest with yourself, you can see that you haven't come very far at all. Your energy and vibrations are all over the place. Either give up or tell yourself, you're going to give your all and become the best version of yourself for you. It's really that simple. The only person complicating things is you.

Didn't you start another thread hours earlier saying you had a gut feeling/intuition she's coming back? Now, you're wavering again? Your emotions and vibrations are so scattered. If you're unsure of how you feel at any given moment, how can you be certain you won't act and think the same when things do change? Not trying to take a dig at you. It's obvious to everyone you want her but the needing part is over all the place. The worst thing you can do for yourself is depend or have your worth wrapped around another person.

The fact that you're slipping back into the things she said shows that you're not over it. If you were and wanted to move on to a more positive present and future, you would only focus on what's in front of you — the coffee meet up, how she said if you needed anything, let her know when you weren't feeling well, etc. There's countless reasons for you to stay on track but you keep falling back to old words hoping to write a new chapter.

More than enough people on both forums have told you not to contact her but you didn't listen. You can't keep asking, "Will this bring her back?," "What do you think? A 'friend' wouldn't say that!" ... so on and so forth. Take control of your life and stop looking for reassurance from her or anyone else. If you're as confident as you say you are, enjoy your life without her. Confident and happy people are so because they know how to respect themselves. You can't love anyone unless you understand what it means to love yourself.

You're going to be more than fine. All of us are rooting for you but you really need to step far, far, far away from her and learn to be your own man again. Guarantee the moment you do, everything will improve.