it does feel wrong!!! My ex did wrong by me,, that's for sure, but he is also my soulmate so  there's that... my friend has my best intentions at stake but i feel so off! like I am doing wrong!!  but the whole point is to concentrate on me,,, find what makes me happy... 

I don’t think there’s a set technique or way to know for certain if someone will return. It’s easy to say “let go and love yourself more!” but that’s not a guarantee for anything. It will, however, help you to mentally and emotionally pick yourself up again so that you can move forward in a positive manner.

I haven’t spoken to my ex in over two years. We’re different people now. To hold onto that image of a person that I used to know and think that’s who I want now is a bit silly — that’s why I decided to leave it be. As much as I love him and want us to reconcile/reconnect, it hasn’t happened. I’m not waiting around for it to either. I was in a relationship recently and never once did my ex cross my mind. Did this cause him to return or reach out? No. I have no resistance, obsession, or need towards him yet he didn’t come back. What that shows me is that we’re no longer compatible for each other, at least right now. That’s a hard truth many refuse to accept. Who they want may not be the good for them. My ex was far from being a great fit for me but that doesn’t mean I loved him any less. These days, I don’t think about him much or at all anymore. I’ve done everything as textbook as they come and then some with no results. It doesn’t mean that I don’t believe Loa works. I know it does because I’ve successfully manifested just about everything I set out to achieve this year.

If you want to move on and date other people, do so for yourself. It will feel a bit off in the beginning but that’s because your heart and intentions are still attached to your past love. In a world of billions of people, there’s always someone better but no one can or will replace what you had with the one person you cared most about. There’s definitely no harm in trying to put yourself out there again just in case there is the possibility of meeting someone new. It really does get easier in time if you give yourself room to grow as a person. Best of luck to you.

jasminesushi wrote:

it does feel wrong!!! My ex did wrong by me,, that's for sure, but he is also my soulmate so  there's that... my friend has my best intentions at stake but i feel so off! like I am doing wrong!!  but the whole point is to concentrate on me,,, find what makes me happy... 

No, he didn't wrong you. He had no other choice than behaving the way he did. He only responded to you. He didn't choose to do it. You chose your state and that made him your puppet. Same thing with your friend. They just respond to you. There is nothing to fix but you. Moving on won't save you, dating won't save you. Only you can save you.
 

Well here is my honest truth:
When there was a break up with the specific person I wanted 8 months ago, I started dating for fun.
I had a lot of free time ( it was the time between my a level and the start of my studies at university).
So I actually signed up at a dating app and distracted myself here and there. Nothing sexual, just talking and doing fun adventures with new guys. One of them, was really interesting and very slowly I started to fall for him and that is when I was letting go of the death grip to get my specific person. That was when he wanted me back.
It is not about dating other guys, it is about letting go of desperation and longing and the mental attitude " I ONLY WANT HIM". It is about feeling good about yourself, it is about freeing yourself.
you dont neccessarily have to date other guys you can also do other things that make you feel good.

But its true, I hear from a lot of people who dont believe in LOA, that their ex came back when they have moved on. yes, it happens because there is no desperation and longing anymore. Because when you are in the state of longing and desperation you will get MORE of the situations where you have to miss and long for your specific person, in other words he will stay away until you change your state.
If you are in " I am loved I feel WANTEDf" you are a vibrational match to attracting him back.
Hope that helps