Cynthia wrote:

whitebutterflies11 wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

 
Does that mean the original POI is no longer of any interest to you, or did it seem too difficult to get him back?

He’s definitely still an interest to me. I just think I need to focus on others because my attachment to him is too strong which is counterproductive.

 

You have to decide what you want before you can do anything about it. I've seen a lot of comments here about being attached and detached, and unless you really want to date other people, (and there's nothing wrong with that, in fact best to get that out of the way whilst you're still single if that's what you want to do), if you still want the original POI above anybody else he's the one I'd be focussing on. Being detached is, to me, not being bothered about how long it takes and also being relaxed about if/when it happens, and going on with your life, going about your business and having other interests, and not obsessing over if and when it will happen, but still imagining how you ideally want things to be. It's about striking a balance in your life, I think.

Okay, that makes sense. I just don’t know which route to take. I know in Lanie’s book she mentioned how she dated around and her bf came back a year later.

I mean I guess I should be confident that he and I will end up together that there’s no need for me to worry about the need to date anyone else.

Idk I think it’s me trying to take the easy way out. That I would be willing to be with 1 of the three POIs

Cynthia wrote:

whitebutterflies11 wrote:

Hellooo!

I haven’t really been on the forum much lately. My work schedule has been so hectic. So my down time I’ve wanted to relax and I’ve been catching up with my other obligations.

Anyway, my question is involving two new POIs that  I’d like to manifest. It’s like I’m back at the beginning with LOA. I forget how to set my intention, or what to do to manifest. The good thing about these 2 new POIs is I don’t have any attachment to them whatsoever. So in other words, it would be super cool to have either of them. I feel like manifesting them would be easier than my original POI (as I still consider myself to be attached).

Thoughts, comments, and/or advice is GREATLY appreciated!!

Thanks 😊😊

 

Wow! Things certainly have changed in the last few days.

Haha I know! I mean I’ve had one of these POIs show a little interest which has made me a little more interested. And the other is someone that I was kinda interested in on and on in the past but nothing ever transpired

Meg2222 wrote:

whitebutterflies11 wrote:

Congrats to you, Meg!

I am at a point where you got to where although I want to be with my ex for many reasons, I am OPEN to finding someone else. My main concern is that I continue to be happy and that I find the perfect man for me. I have been online dating sites for a little while now since my POI ended things and I haven't had success. So much so that I haven't even made it past texting someone lately. There was never a date. Anyway, what exactly do you suggest I do to ensure I manifest the exact type of person I desire. Ex: attributes, qualities, etc.? THANKS! & congrats again

Okay so what I did was write 10 things I loved about myself, for example I used the I am affirmations "I am enough..." Then I wrote out 10 things that are most important to me in my ideal partner, then I wrote out 10 things that would be most important in our relationship. Once I clarified that it became clearer to me what I wanted in a partner and relationship, fortunately whilst doing this it enabled me to see that my ex wasn't what I wanted or needed at all (It may be different with you, that is just what happened with me). The best advise I can give is just focus on yourself and your happiness and the right person whether it be your ex or a new person will come along at the right time. Do the things that you love and that fill yourself with joy, heal yourself and just do the things that really make you happy. Honestly when you start to put yourself first and take care of yourself, manifesting becomes easier and easier! Hope this helped x 

Meg,
Thanks so much for your response. I really need to be true to my affirmations. I feel like I say them but I feel like I'm faking it sometimes. I want that to change. I feel like a month ago I did write all the qualities I want in a man. Physically and emotionally, what I look for. I've also been sure to say my POI or someone better. What else should I do? I'm in a much better place

Aw you just made me smile. I feel really good about our interactions as well. It's nice to bounce ideas off each other and also get some positive feedback/advice. So thank YOU as well

As for my social media stalking and worrying about the other woman, I am definitely going to take your advice and instead of worrying about her and him, I will visualize the 2 of us together. Good call! See that? Something so simple. Thanks for the advice.I know my negative attention is pushing my manifestation back. So I will definitely be replacing some of my negative behaviors with positive visualizations.

I'm glad you restarted the 25 day challenge. So far my favorite part was when I was told to indulge in a dessert that I normally don't have. It was a delicious treat and really made me super happy. You'll do great with it.
 

Cynthia,

Thanks for your advice and insight into your situation with your POI regarding another woman. There is a specific woman that I am worried about. And I know my worries are bringing this into a reality and the only way for it to not matter is to block it out of my mind. BUT, I am doing much better with just living in the present and being happy with how things are! Because that's really when my POI showed up the first time. I was content AS IS! Right now, pining over him and looking at his social media, constantly worried about him is exactly what's keeping me from manifesting him back into my life as a romantic partner. Once I have happy thoughts alone and I am focused on ME, that's when we'll be back together in the physical realm

The distraction of the 25 day challenge is a welcomed thing for me. You'll have to let me know how you're doing with it if you do decide to do it!