So I have a "friend" that I have had to block and break contact with because he was extremely toxic, made me feel negative all the time and contributed to the split with my love (I know I created that too so I am not evading all responsibility here).

I know he is trying to reach out to me all the time, but I do not want contact or a relationship with this person. I am working on becoming resentment free and just ignoring it, but I am terrified of something I saw earlier... If I am pushing and ignoring a person that wants to talk to me and be with me, am I creating a reality where my ex is doing the same thing?

In other words, should I reconsider what I am doing here? Would maybe unblocking him and see what he has to say open up a door for my love to do the same with me? (I am currently in no contact with my love and have not reached out at all)

Sounds like a wise decision on your part. I am curious as to what you did in between your first attempt and now though? How long has it been approximately?

I'm sure you'll have great success!
 

Rainbows wrote:

as cliche as it sounds but naturally I feel you become more detached the more you love yourself.. soooo anyhooo.. every day & night we talk on the phone..

Did you manage to get there all while doing visualizations, rs etc?

Congratulations btw! Sounds amazing. Look at what you have already managed to do - you can take it to the next step too

Blissful wrote:

ahuva wrote:

Woah. My goal is to be where you are now. Sounds amazing! Good on you.

Hi ahuva,
​Thank you! it has been quite a journey since this post..so it's probably time for an update! I have continued to work on self love/unconditional love which has been difficult at times but so rewarding once you begin to nail it! I feel so much appreciation for everything around me and so blessed to live my life as a deliberate creator. I have manifested some amazing experiences; I have moved into a new house with two amazing girls who also follow LOA and are creative people like myself. I am an aspiring actress and I have had three different acting jobs in the same week! they were all incredible experiences, I worked with some awesome people and managed to network myself and set up future acting work! and I'm sure you want to know about my love.. We have been in regular contact and see each other at least once a week.. he was still needing time to heal himself and was not ready to commit to a relationship with me yet..so while that was the story he was telling himself, I was not entertaining that idea! I just focused on myself, I didn't make myself available to him every time he wanted to catch up, I re-affirmed my self worth and kept the end goal in mind (a loving, fun, committed relationship) I know he loves me and not seeing me drives him crazy! just last week he messaged me four nights in a row wanting to catch up but each night I was busy with other commitments. Yesterday things shifted for us and I couldn't be happier! it was Australia Day here is Aus and I was out celebrating with friends, he asked if we could catch up and I explained I had plans but said he should stop by if he was free. Now I have to explain that for the last 10 months he has not wanted anyone to know we have been spending time together, he always just wanted to spend time together alone, this started to b

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