Colonel Roosevelt wrote:

It's natural to feel bittersweet about it. Don't force yourself to let go and be joyful, just accept your feelings as they are and over time it'll get better. You just gotta be patient with yourself, focus on making life great, making peace with where you are, accepting how you feel instead of resisting it - over time you'll see your happiness and appreciation grow.

Once upon a time I felt bittersweet over an old flame, I don't necessarily want her back. Now I just feel peace and appreciation about it all because first I accepted how I really feel and secondly I changed my perspective.

First, I allowed myself to feel whatever it was I feeling inside that made the memories bittersweet - eventually this became a powerful feeling of inner calm. And then I started accepting my insecurities and the things that I wish were different.

Secondly, I started writing up a new vision of my life and who I am by learning from and challenging those old fears and bittersweet feelings I had. In this new vision, I found things to appreciate about her, things to appreciate in myself, and I saw it all helped me grow into a better version of myself.

So basically it was about making peace with the past by accepting my feelings, finding what I can change, accepting what I can't, finding what I can appreciate from the past and creating a vision of the future (as if it's happening now) which builds on those aspects I appreciate. Doing this has made me much happier and more forward looking. It's all about acceptance and appreciation, seeing things as part of your growth to the next level. That perspective always helps me be happier.

 

Accepting what you can't change  - I bet some will say that flies in the face of law of attraction.

Unless you are referring to being unable to change things that have already happened?

Last edited by PrettyFlamingo (1/27/2017 3:49 am)