Wow it's been a long time since I was on this forum but here i am again with a question on something i'm manifesting.

I know that you're supposed to do the visualizations and whatever exercises you're doing and put it out to the Universe, let it go, and focus on being happy, and not go out of your way to take actions and try to "make things happen."

But isn't it also true that the Universe sometimes provides an opening, or an opportunity for you to take an action, and sometimes you do have to look for these opportunities and take them?

Let's just say for example, you're trying to get a raise at your job.  You have all the LOA visualizations you're doing when you wake up in the morning but then throughout the day you're not supposed to obsess over it and think about what else you can do to make it happen, like for example asking your co-worker to do or say something to your boss.... I get that... BUT, don't you have to at some point take an action?  Like let's say you're at the water cooler on break and your boss is standing there.   Could it be the Universe provided this opportunity to say something to your boss, or should you literally just get your glass of water and not say anything because he/she should or will ?

Or, let's say it's an "X back" situation.   and you haven't heard from her in a week or two.  you've been resisting contacting her all this time because you're just supposed to let her come to you, right?   well if a week or two goes by and there seems to be an opportunity to bring something up... like let's say you're in a band and she's told you she really likes your music and you just got a gig at a pub that is a block from her house.   then would it be appropriate to send her a text and just say "hey my band is playing at the pub  next week, just thought you'd like to know, it would be great to see you there."   

I understand the idea of "letting it happen" vs "trying to make it happen" and not contacting the person all the time a

30 year relationship with 3 kids.  Serious stuff.
For a year now, we have been apart.
We see each other fairly often because we have kids.
But that's about it.

Because of all the advice I've read online (LOA and otherwise) I have completely backed off.  I have not told her I miss her. I have not told her I love her. I have not told her how difficult this has been. I have been happy and positive around her.  I have been working on myself.  I have been doing all the visualizations and LOA stuff.

More and more, I'm finding it difficult to hold back the truth.   I feel like if I stand by and don't ever tell her how much I love and miss her, and how much I've changed and learned in the last year, and how much I realize more than ever that I love her, if I never say these things to her, a part of me will feel like I should have.  I mean, sometimes these "no contact" rules and the pretending I'm doing just great seem like silly games.  I understand the need to back off and give her space but sometimes it seems ridiculous to never open my heart and be honest with her and tell her how I really feel.  I realize this could backfire and it could make things worse.  But after a year of being apart and doing LOA and minimal contact, i'm not sure how much worse it could get.

I know the LOA teachings often say to do your visualizations and wait for her to come to you.  don't go after her...
I also have read in the LOA teachings that the Universe will sometimes lay something out in front of you and you have to be on the lookout and take the opportunity when it comes.   So here's my question

Could the Universe ever push me to break all the no contact and "back off" rules and confess the truth to the one I love?  Is the "don't go after her, wait for her to come to you" an absolute?  Are there ever times where it might actually be helpful to be honest and share your feelings with the one you wish to be with?

Any thoughts on this are appreciated.
thanks

well LoA would say, it's about what you want.  if you still want him then keep doing it.  if you don't then stop.  it could  be that something better is out there and you just needed to get to the place and time that you realize you don't want him anymore before you can move on to the next thing.  Or perhaps it is time to affirm that you do want it and keep going.   ask yourself.... I don't think LoA really works if you don't genuinely want what you're asking for.

i hear what you guys are saying.  i'm just saying, in my situation the idea of resistance is based on observation.  I have done months of LoA stuff and ignored the "reality" and tried to feel good, and not focus on the resistance... but not much has changed.  I think if she was neutral or she didn't already know me and hadn't just moved out, the situation would be different. so there is an extra layer I have to deal with.  So if there are techniques to deal with such resistance, I don't think it would hurt to incorporate them into my practices.

i'm interested in finding out what the Remote Infuence is.... is there a specific book about it?   I know what RS (wendi's recording) and MPS (Hillier's book) are but I haven't come across a book about RI.  is there one?  thanks. 

I tell myself that time is not real.  whether it is today or a month or a year from now it makes no difference.  everything is now.   it's one thing to say it and other thing to believe it and yet another thing to understand it and another thing to live it.   i just try to believe that everything is now.