lar019 wrote:

I believe my higher self resides in my heart - because that is where all the good feelings seem to flow from. And whenever I really start to doubt my guy, or think that maybe it's time to move on for good - I get a pain in my heart; like my heart is screaming "NO!" And the longer I run with the idea of moving on, the more it yells/hurts. But as soon as I say "ok, I'm going to keep going and get him back", that feeling instantly subsides. I feel like my heart smiles inside. My higher self is sitting there, saying, "yes, this is exactly what is meant for us".

As I've gotten more into alignment, I've noticed that I get this sensation with other situations too, not just with my guy. I believe our higher self knows what we want - or at least, it knows when we are choosing a different option because of fear or love. Whenever I think I want to give up, it is just that - I want to give up; not that I want something else. I dunno...I trust it! lol.

The same thing with me, I dated someone other guys, but my heart kept saying, "This guy in front of you is not him. Don't run away from the love of your lif, he will be back." Or it will say I am making a regretful mistake if I move on. I feel like we never noticed our hearts words because our minds are louder.

The more wiser ones are always more quiet. But our hearts know exactly how to make our relationships happy and knows patience is the key to having true love again. As well as FAITH.

Even our darlings hearts feel the same way, they are just listening to their ego right now. But you will always know, your heart won't choose someone who does not love you back. Also, if you really connect with your love spiritually, you will feel the love in his energ.

I always feel the love in his energy presence. I can even feel it in his words. Your heart just always knows who the love of your life is before you even meet that person.

Do what you did in the beginning of a relationship and there will be no end.

from what i've been learning lately.   i don't think there is a "just knows."   the future is uncertain.  it's up to many factors.   and one of the main things I've recently learned is that all the possible outcomes actually exist, not just one.   right now there is another "reality" happening where you are already back with your ex, or whatever you are trying to create.  So while it's been called 'creating reality" I think of it as choosing which reality to be a part of because there isn't just one.    so your higher self might just be reminding you that the future is not set in stone.

i would add, that experience of your inner self saying "nooooo!" when you go in another direction.  I think that is a tough one.   sometimes it is not necessarily our heart that reacts like that, it's the inner child which is often irrational and wounded.  only you can differentiate between the two and I don't think it's easy to do.  One thing I do is wait until there isn't a stimulus like that right in my face, causing the reaction.   When I'm home in a quiet space I relax my body and go inside and try to ask myself what I really want and why.

I think this is a major aspect of what we are all working on that doesn't get discussed enough.   we need to do inner work on ourselves.    here is a really cool exercise to try.   close your eyes and take a deep breath.   imagine there is a big table, like for a board of directors for a big corporation.  Now imagine people sitting around the table, and each one of them is a part of your personality.  it's important to acknowledge we have parts of our personality (sometimes one part wants to do one thing and another wants another thing).   Then, have a meeting of the board of directors of your self.  go around the table and acknowledge all those parts and let them speak and say what they feel and why, independently of the other parts.  Perhaps in your situation one of the parts will say why they want to keep fighting for your ex. and another part might have reasons why they want to move on.  Allow each one to be heard and honored.   You are the president of the board.  You can hear what everyone has to say, and decide what to do.  You might find this gives you some insight into your situation.

maybe that will help. hope it does.