I just received another insight that completely changes the topic. I realise I don't actually believe in my desires as much as I think - I just know things are done from an intellectual place; I don't feel it and hence the dull response. I realised this when today I thought of taking action instead of manifesting something and felt relief and excitement. This shows I think of manifesting as some difficult unpleasant chore, while action seems doable and believable. Huh. I am so surprised at myself!

I get teary very easily too (but can also control it easily enough) and used to be very embarrassed about it and felt like that made me weak somehow. However, I am beginning to embrace that about myself. I think its good that I can feel so fully. Also, Abraham Hicks says that tears are just a way of releasing resistance - that is why we feel better upon crying when we are sad. Good feelings bring tears if we are experiencing a higher vibration than we are allowing; the power of the higher vibration then expels out the resistance via tears. This helped me think of tears more positively. Hope this helps 

Interesting conversation, here's my input.

I think attracting a person is only a violation of free-will if you would think the same about flirting, seducing someone, a guy chasing/wooing a girl, a politician convincing a bunch of people to vote for him, your personality and looks making someone fall in love with you etc. Law of attraction is always working, whether we are aware of it or not, like gravity. That is how you got your relationship and that is how you attracted problems into your relationship.

We think it's the actions that are causing things to happen, but it's not: it's always our vibrations that cause things. That is why when one guy is chasing after us, we find it really exciting and romantic while when another guy does pretty much the same things, we find it annoying or even creepy. It's because in the first case we were attracting feeling-good and wanted, while in the other case we were attracting annoyance or a feeling of being unsafe. It can also be said that the first guy was feeling confident and like having fun, so he attracted you who was also in a higher vibration and would help him feel even better, while the second guy was in a vibration of being needy and desperate and attracted you when you were also at a lower vibration and thus your rejection would make him feel even worse.

At the end of the day, we are constantly influencing others and being influenced by others in this co-creative dance.
At the end of the day, this reality isn't real or concrete and is but an illusion like a lucid dream where anything is possible - a playpen really. We are truly vibrational beings of pure-energy who are using this 'reality' to manifest things and experience them physically and to have fun. No event of cosmic importance hinges upon our decisions such that we need to protect them from outside influence. I will cite an example that Esther (the channel for Abraham gave). I don't remember exact de

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1. I love that we make such a perfect couple that others could tune in to it in order to 'ship' us from day one and tell us what a gorgeous and well-matched couple we'd make.
2. I love his perfectly trimmed beard - somehow halfway between stubble and proper beard.
3. I like how he sometimes loses track of whatever he is doing to just stare at me and I have to 'wake' him out of it. 
4. I like how protective he is about me, but without being stifling.
5. I like that he loved me enough to not give up on me. I wasn't interested in starting relationships in general, but the guy spent three years convincing me until it worked.
 

Hi all,

I know that the idea of competition is an illusion; there is no shortage and the resources of the Universe are infinite. I know that there is only us - the Universe - and there isn't any other being or power to take things away from us.

However, what if my desire is to be the best at something. Maybe I want to be the best student in my class or my university for instance. Is it wrong/illogical to have such a desire to be 'better' than others or be 'special' if we are all one?

I want to be someone who happily uplifts others rather than one who feels threatened by other's achievements, but at the same time I still want to be the 'best' at whatever I do. How do I reconcile all these ideas?

Thanks in advance for the responses!