I don't understand what you meant about the situation that is bothering you. The same advice applies. You are over-analysing and not living in the feeling of the wish fulfilled, not living in the end. I deleted instagram when I decided to do this, because social media IS focusing on current reality and using images supplied from the outside world to fuel your beliefs, instead of those images that you create in your imagination.

It's up to you if you want to have that relationship because you love the person or whether you want to let fear put you off even trying. If you are scared of rejection you are creating rejection because you are focusing on rejection. Stop all the social media stalking and find a way to feel at peace so you can think clearly. Then you can find out why you have these fears and then eliminate them, and then it will be easier to live in the state that will manifest it.

I feel like the feeling of being worth having something is very important. To me, it seems like thinking we're not worth something is like another way of saying, "I can't have that thing". I used to have a friend that struggled a lot with self-love. She was still able to get into relationships. She went through a few relationships in the time I knew her, and they didn't last but she still must have believed that she was able to have a relationship, and that men wanted her in that way...believing she could have a good quality relationship that lasts is something else.

But anyway, there are so many people in relationships that don't have much love for themselves so yeah. I think the part of it that has the bigger effect on whether we manifest, is feeling like we're worth it. That's linked to self-love but not exactly the same. And no doubt, people still manifest things they don't believe they are worth. But it seems to me that it's just like saying, if we're worth a thing, we can have it and if not, no. To me, that seems like the most logical way to interpret it.

Actually some needy guys have also appeared that don't know about this stuff, but these two people, well it seems as clear as daylight xD I feel like for me, part of all of this is changing my self-image because it's been my biggest challenge which had always prevented me from having relationships. So I think sorting both out would be the ultimate "forgivness of sin" as Neville would put it xD

That's not how I view self-love at all, and any form of love must be unconditional otherwise it's not really love. It is more than just a feeling, it is an identity at the core of all beings. To be in touch with and live from the state of self-love is to connect with that part of ourselves. To be able to act in a self-loving way, it is much easier to do so by first connecting with that part of ourselves that is already, and is always there, beneath all the negativity, like a diamond burried in the earth, waiting to be uncovered.

About being present, all I'm saying is I don't agree that being present on it's own is living in the end. It is part of it, but isn't going to manifest anything by itself if there still are doubts, hense, it's important to do what it takes to make sure you believe it is done and is already yours.

I mean think about it...how strong is the instinct in humans to belong, to interact, to socialise. Since we are divine, but are still humans...I just can't get my head around this concept without it feeling cruel and feeling like knowing too much.

How can one know they are in and are an illusion, and continue in the illusion, knowing that it's an illusion, and be happy about it and still have desire? It kind of makes me want to go to some mountain, become a buddhist and wait for it all to be over. Sorry to sound so depressing, I don't want to bring anyone down, but I just have been wanting to talk to someone about this so much, someone that has been through similar trains of thought and found a way to view things that can actually be reassuring.