Well understand what effort is. Effort implies that were working toward what we want because we don't have it. Guess what will be put in front of you. More working towards what you want because you don't have it yet. Forget about him if it makes you feel good. Don't forget about him simply because you want an outcome. The greater part of you sees through things like that. Like I said you can still think about him and love him. I actually encourage the love. It's the strongest emotion, however, make sure you don't feel anxious when you do. As soon as you start to feel any bit of worry then you should settle back into relaxation. It's a practice and a process so don't get discouraged if you can't help but think about him. Just let your mind run the wheel and be okay with it. Accept and surrender

You're not. The more you think you have to deal with it the more power you give to the situation. Accept and surrender. You don't have to like it but the easiest way to relax about it is to accept the moment for what it is. The world is put in front of us from a power higher than conceivable thought. Yes our thoughts and desires help create but like I said if you focus on needing to find a solution your actually helping to create the problem in the first place.

If you keep questioning the process you show lack of faith. The only person making you feel dead inside is yourself. It's okay to feel crummy but just make sure you don't make a habit of it. You said that you try hard to get him. This is never supposed to be about him. The only time it's about him is when you ask for it as in the first step of manifesting. Your next step is to find a way to be as relaxed in your life as possible. This is the letting go part. You might even have to forget about him for a while. This doesn't imply moving on. Just focus on other areas of your life. If a thought about him pops into your head you can notice it but don't get swept away. Unless you can think about him without any and I mean any anxiety. Your goal is to be relaxed remember? Just don't try so hard. Everything comes when you're relaxed and don't need anything. Also stop telling yourself those stories of him and the other girl. They don't serve you and ultimately make you anxious right? Just relax.

All these people are giving you some amazing advice. Now I know you love her. That's clear. What's best at this point in time is to just forget about her. I'm not saying move on, but forgetting about her for a while will detach you from the outcome. Take some time to learn who you truly are and what you bring to the table. I know you say you're cool and calm but we've all seen you post up and down. You need to keep going up but everytime you post about being positive there's usually that, but she probably hates me. Why should you care? The less you care about this the more effective anything you do will be. You're objective in loa is and will always be to just relax. The more relaxed you can feel about something the easier it comes to you. I recommend listening or reading eckhart tolle. Your situation will forever be as hopeless as you make it. It's always about you.

lovekinjal wrote:

You know what. I am also getting into that same zone as you InLakEsh. Though I still have my weak moments sometime and I let the emotion flow through me and get relaxed, but to be true, I feel I am happy with the way we are now talking to each other. There is no love, but still we are best of friends. We joke with each other, pull each others leg and mock each other and have to much of fun. And that is more blissful. It gives me the same sensation as in love. And at the end of the day all that matters is to be happy. I love her and I love her from the bottom of my heart, bt I feel I am slowly going into the phase of no longer needing her in my life.

Good. You're doing pretty well since the last time we talked. Keep going into that vibration of not needing it. I feel a lot of people almost get there, but their ego comes in and tells them they won't get it if they dont need it. The ego wants to be a victim and think life is a struggle. What the ego can't understand is high vibrations and need is a low vibration in relation to abundance/already having it.

That's my belief on the matter.