happygirl97 wrote:

Hey guys
I sincerely hope someone can help me.
I dont mean to spread negativity because I know I do create this issue.
My problem is that I basically push my boyfriends and relationships away.
I always feel worse in a relationship instead of better.
I over analyse behaviours, get incredibly mad and hurt. I act really impulsively and childish. I cannot control my emotions. I subconsciously search for faults and wrong behaviours in order to justify to MYSELF why I want to end the relationship. Two men adressed this behaviour and only then I noticed they are right. I dig my own hole by only focusing on the bad.
I also have this belief that if a man doesnt do x y z he doesnt love me.
And it drives me NUTS that I totally fail at being at ease in a relationship!
Being single I feel at peace and I do ATTRACT so many guys but after a few months I push them away.
I really want to solve this.
I want to be a source of my own self love so that a man can come towards me.
I dont want to overanalyse, question sb.s love, getting suspicious and completely out of balance.
If I could soustain the state of security in a relationship, ,my relationships would work.
But instead of keeping my state of security and feeling good and confident, I always change to why doesnt he do xyz? Why am I disrespected? Why am I unimportant?

It drives me nuts...
How can I solve this issue?

Hi
Do you know the best part about you?
According to me, it's that you are so aware of your shortcomings. Not just aware, you accept them which is a brave thing to do. You are so far ahead than most of the people who never even realise that there are issues with them.
With all this awareness...with all this self knowledge, please concentrate more on your good points. Your ex called back which means that there is something nice and attractive about you even with all your shortcomings. Let these good points about you empower all the bad points. Move your focus from the bad to the good. Things

Hi my friends, I have completed my 25days challenge and although didn't get a call or a message I was hoping for but I overall feel good about things. So, the realization of the importance of self love is there. Therefore can say the outcome of the 25days challenge is good in a way.

During the challenge my visualisations improved bit by bit but now I'm having trouble visualising. My mind wanders away. I'm having to put efforts to keep my mind in the task. Yes, it unfortunately has become a task to visualise. Can anybody explain why this is happening? I get troubled by this and although keep trying but results are the same😔

Selfloveiskey wrote:

So I guess I ll b starting over bad day sister and mom say i need to see a therapist and it's impossible won't happen. It's all terrible right now .

Hi again. This is your journey and no one else's. Please be strong and trust yourself and the process. Yes, your family is right...it won't happen till you think it won't. Till you limit your beliefs...till you do not love yourself enough.
We all have it in us to make it happen. Please don't give up. I know things are difficult right now but please trust me when I say they will get better if you let them be. Don't give up after coming so far.
Yes, probably you do need self therapy which could be anything like going out for a movie or shopping. Sitting home and watching 'Friends ' it's always worked for me. We lost a good soul like Louise Hay yesterday but read her quotations they always make me feel so positive. It's ok if it's just momentarily.
Please read your name again ' Self love is definitely the key ' ...do that. Shift your mood. Just don't give up👍🏻

barbidoll wrote:

Gratitude21 wrote:

AceWay123 wrote:

Hi, Ace here.

Today, I want to tell you somethings about your specific person, which will remove some of your worries . Also, to remind you, that no matter what the situation is like, there's ALWAYS a solution because Naturally and LOA way, ANYTHING is possible.

Hopefully this will remove all of your unnecessary worries about your specific person.

Let's start...

Now let me tell you something.

After all those RS sessions, the LOA visualisation sessions, the prayers, the powerful desire that you will never give up on... how can they, after all those things you did for this person, lose interest in you?

You are here making connection with them, sending love, hoping they're safe etc... do you think God will ignore you? Do you think the LOA won't notice you?

Here's the truth...

Your specific person DOES notice you, they DO think of you, they DO feel your love.

EVERYTHING you're doing is working...

...but you want "proof"...

...and the only way you want to see "proof" is by receiving a message from them.

But you forget something...

...You forget that, your efforts and the love you send, can be returned in SO MANY WAYS MORE... than just a message.

But you don't notice it... because you only see love & efforts being returned by this one message that you didn't receive.

Understand this...

Love and Efforts can be returned in MANY ways...

Not just from a message.

Here's a list of things your specific person can do or already HAS done to return the love and effort which you may not have noticed:

- they may had a thought about you and appreciated how you helped them in the past, but without your knowledge.

- they may miss you EVERYDAY without your knowledge.

- they probably had the urge to go on your profile and look at your pictures, or probably already has done that, without your knowledge.

- they may be in a relationship with someone else but for some reason, all they can think of is you and not any ot

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