Its been over 18months since i last wrote on here and it is so unreal at how much my life has changed, beyond my wildest dreams. Were to begin, quick recap...
For those who may remember me, i lost my ex who was the love of my life and got her back TWICE even tho it was deemed impossible. When i came on to here over 2 yrs ago i was after manifesting her back but i was so consumed with rage and anger towards her and love and it was holding me back. Eventually i realised she never deserved me and i had a little rant on here telling everyone an ex is and ex for a reason and then i disappeared....

Well since then i spent time on myself and my image and now i basically am living beyond a dream...
Within 18months, im now Living in Spain (im from UK)... i run 4 nightclubs and own 2 very successful bars as well as 2 businesses on the side, i make stupid amount of money a week.  I live and own a big penthouse, i drive a BMW X6 im not even 33 and im a boss. Also forget plastic surgery ive managed to use LOA and subliminals and got my dream image and by training and eating, my fitness and body is the stuff of catalogues. Not long after coming off here, i met what i would describe as the perfect woman, from looks to smell and even sexually and she moved with me to Spain.
I shouldnt be happy saying this but with what i went through with my ex, just before i moved out here, i found out her fella who she even bought a house with was sleeping with one of her best friends behind her back. She tried to apologise and worm her way back into my life but i refused to even acknowledge her.
Imagine that 18 months to getting beyond my wildest dreams!!!

jenbeckley1992 wrote:

BooLala wrote:

jenbeckley1992 wrote:

How can you make em pine and cry over you when you were only with them for 3 weeks, never met their friends or family, aren't connected on social media and they're in a relationship?

What you say us going against loa, you can ANYTHING yiy want, right? So why say **** it to getting back an ex?

3weeks is nothing. If they're in a relationship and your pining and wanting them after only 3weeks together then I'd personally think they weren't worth it. 3weeks come on, months, yrs yes but 3weeks why would you want them back. I spent 2yrs of my life wasted on hating and wanting her even tho i could get her back very easily as ive done it twice before but i see it as she doesnt deserve me, never did.

 
Because I know he's the one. I remember saying that in my mind the very first time I saw him. I know he's the one,
You didn't really answer my question?

I'll tell you my love is the one and my true love... I wrote a detailed list of my dream woman and it wasnt till months after we got together when i went over that list that i realised it was her, not only that but the moment i laid eyes on her, my first words were, "im gonna marry her". So you aint the only one. Maybe I've been put through that much that i dont feel anything, but i deserve so much better. She will always be my soul mate and true love but i wont ever go there again

This is gonna come across maybe a bit harsh and may even sound a bit cruel but it's not and i apologise wholeheartedly if it sounds that way...
Let me tell you this; its been 2yrs since i was with my love I've learnt a lot and you know the biggest thing ive learnt which i believe EVERYONE who reads this should learn is that if your wanting an ex back or love then let me be blunt in a loving way, **** em...
Hear me out before you jump to conclusions. I've been miserable, full of rage, anger and hurt towards her for the way shes treated me. She will always be my true love and soul mate to me but she never deserved me. I could never be with her, too much hurt and pain there. The very most I'd go is a possible friendship. 2yrs of my life gone on pining and going through it all over this woman.
I know and believe in the LOA and believe me nothing is impossible but i dont believe its the bee all and end all as a lot of people think. If it was you could explain things like 9/11. Innocent children suffering... I believe that through using it you can build your dream life and get ANYTHING....
But... heres my point, why are YOU on this site to get an ex back, **** THAT. Build your life and focus on you, then focus on the ideal relationship, screw the ex. Let them pine for you and miss you, why should you miss them, why would you want them. You look at very strong individuals (by society's standard) prime example is footballer Cristiano Ronaldo, never mopes or pines for any ex and if you see his interviews regardless of this hes full of himself and fancies himself... if you look into him in more detail, he puts HIS standard of himself high not in a im better than you way but he knows his value.

Anyways before i babble on anymore raise your standard. Dont pine and cry for anyone. Let them pine and cry for you.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

I said to someone else yesterday who kept using the phrase "get her back" to stop it and told him these women are not lost property! I've lost my vintage brooch this morning and had to contact lost property and am not happy about it.

What you really want, I would think, is a totally different and new relationship. Otherwise it comes across as one-upmanship in trying to prise this person away from others.

I was very guilty of that in my teens and 20s, now I see I just did it to feed my self esteem.

Thats were it gets complicated, she isnt just some woman. I did a detailed, very detailed list of my dream woman and its her, literally. It was both love at first sight for us but cos of the way i was being hot headed and not ready i pushed her away.
So when i got her back, i fell into the same old pattern and expected her to cut me off again  it eventually happened. And then the same again and so on.
Its never been an ego or self esteem thing.
I dated other women and done everything to move on but something within me just wont let me.
As i said its been 2yrs now and its my anger thats held me back. I dont do one upmanship...

TheChemist wrote:

BooLala wrote:

TheChemist wrote:

Hah, yeah. Everyone's reading it, though, and the advice is gold.

I think its so easy to get an ex back.
The advantage already is that there's already that connection, hence the word ex. You were an item. So there is the attraction state. The battle is having the clear focus. Once you have that focus and NOTHING from the past is holding you back it literally is the home stretch

You make a lot of good points. In fact, I'd say we still are an item, and that attraction completely persists. I know she's my soulmate, after everything else we went through, and I can't wait to spend the rest of our lives together.

Letting go of the past has been hard for me. I'm doggedly pushing myself to imagine only the future now, however. I took your advice and scripted how our relationship looks and how happy we are together, and I felt so serene and warm last night that I slept and woke with her in my arms and on my lips. Thank you so much for that advice.

Yeah course no worries