We've all heard it after a break up, our friends say it, our family says it, strangers on the internet say it 'just move on' or something like that and the feeling we feel when we hear that just makes us SO angry... but I'm going to show how illogical it is to feel angry or resentful or stubborn about that thought. First of all, why do you get angry? Is it because you feel that the other person simply doesn't 'get it' , that they don't realise how in love you are? Or is it because the idea of packing up your hopes of getting back together and actually going about life without that person just seems so daunting to you that you can't fathom it? Well here's a clue about it- imagine if you were wishing you could be a millionaire and someone says 'oh well, that probably won't happen, just move on' and you actually follow that advice, do you think if someone offered you a million dollars the next day you would just reject it and say 'nope, sorry, I moved on.' No, you would not. So what's the deal there? Moving on just simple means to live life as happily and as full as possible without it being all about wealth or all about that specific person, but it doesn't mean that you have to live life poor forever or without love forever. It's just finding ways to wake up everyday and feel happy. So if you're in a place where the sheer idea of 'moving on' make you want to vomit, then you are not in a place where you can really truly start looking at your desires in an open way- which would actually bring the desire to you.

I attracted a specific person about 5 years ago into my life and here's our story. I first heard about him through a friend who had a huge crush on him. I then looked at his facebook and the first thing I thought was 'wow, he is the hottest guy I ever ever seen...ever' and I added him. I added him just thinking 'wouldn't it be nice if he accepted my add' and he did. Then I started talking to him online and thinking 'wouldn't it be nice if he replied' and he woul

That's why they say not to look at their facebook.... see it's kind of like, if you want them back, then you need to not see what they've been doing in the meantime. Like, you want it to be like, she calls you one day and says 'hey ' and it's like nothing has happened between the last time you spoke and now. You don't want to have all this information that had nothing to do with you circling around in your head. You only want the information that does have to do with you. So her life now is irrelevant to you ! It's nothing to do with you and it's none of your business. If she comes back into your reality, then she is part of your business and she might tell you things that happened to her since you, but she might also not. Your reality with her involves both her and you. Her reality right now doesn't involve you, so stay away from it. 

On a vibrational note it would appear that you attract him back when you're low- like low self esteem and low self love, so it is probably going to happen again that you will attract him back ... either when you're low (not the best) or if you're high and if you attract him back when you're high, that means he has come up to join you in your new higher vibration which would be a good thing

Sunny- I think you should listen to Abraham Hicks' teachings on relationships. She talks about the idea of two people coming together and co-creating, in fact there is one video about a man who asks Abraham how to get rid of his ex girlfriend from interfering in his life and Abraham asks him to visualise her having a happy life with someone else. Abraham also does talk about the endings of relationships, accepting them as endings and understanding that some relationships are just not meant to be because the two people involved in the relationship simply desire something else that the other one refuses to give them. She mentions attracting back a specific person, but if you do listen to her you will hear that she maintains that you cannot actually manipulate someone into a situation, so if a man doesn't want to speak to the woman who vandalised his car, that would be his desire and her desire to speak to him would not interfere with his desire not to. It would depend on how strong his desire not to speak with her is, which I would presume is pretty high. So if one person is wanting something but another is not, that person can't make the other person want what they're wanting you see or that's not perfect aligment. That's why relationships happen when two people are desiring and wanting the same thing- to be with each other, and why they end when the desires change. So if you murdered your ex boyfriend's beloved cat, he would naturally make it his strong desire to never see or speak to you again. That would be his own desire. 

So I pretty much understand why he left you to be honest and it's not LOA , it's psychology which I know way too much about because I studied it and I have mental illness so I have to know about it but here is the human reasoning to why he came back and why he left:

Your guy (let's call him Jack) is a typical insecure male. Jack only dates 'drama queens' who are 'full of jealousy and manipulation' and the reason Jack does that, is because it makes him feel like he's important and he needs that because he doesn't have good self esteem. So when a drama queen gets all jealous that he's talking to another girl, Jack thinks 'wow, I'm special, I'm super important, she thinks I'm the best' and that makes Jack happy. Jack is also addicted to chaos, probably because he had a weird upbringing (neglectful or domineering mother is usually it) so Jack has developed the idea that love is chaos and drama fuelled. It is about mind games and manipulation and pain. He actively chooses girls who also have low self esteem and who will treat him like he's super special but at the same time treat him like ****. Many of these girls have something called borderline personality disorder. Jack needs that constant attention, he needs to be the centre of someone's world to an unhealthy degree. Jack himself sounds like he may have borderline and sounds like a typical 'Casanova' borderline male. He knows exactly what to say to a girl to make her fall head over heels for him and just when he knows he 'has' a girl, he backs off and pushes her away because Jack can't do intimacy very well, he doesn't like the feeling of being so close to someone. A girl who is a 'drama queen' never lets her boyfriend in close to her either, even though it seems it from the outside, this kind of girl doesn't do intimacy, she does possession. 

So why did Jack come back? Because you're were there. You also had low self esteem at the time which I'm guessing he picked up on because this kind of guy is a master at fin