akuma wrote:

How did you maintain to live in the state or wish fulfilled
 

I think you missed the point of my post. I did live in the wish fulfilled but it was very tiring and mentally exhausting. I eventually stopped doing that completely and went on to live my life with the trust that everything would work out in my own benefit- even if it meant not being with him. A few months after doing this he came back.

Hi everyone, I used to use this forum but completely stopped several months ago but I thought I’d come back here to quickly tell my story.

My SP and I, J, were together for 4 years in a very serious relationship where we talked regularly about marriage, kids and buying a home together. He is from England and I am from Canada- we met 7 years ago in Thailand when we were both scuba diving! We kept in contact for 2 years and eventually I moved to England to be with him, then he moved to Canada for 3 years after to be with me.

In the very beginning of August 2017 he broke up with me- because he wasn’t completely happy in the relationship or with himself. He moved out 4 weeks later and it was a hard time for me. I did not beg for him back or anything, so we had a smooth break up as far as break ups go.

I discovered LOA and I would visualize and script that I was already in a relationship with him again. 3 weeks later he DID come back and it was amazing! However, very shortly after, about a month after, he broke up with me again because the same problems were arising. He needed time on his own and he didn’t know if he saw a future with me.

I was devastated because I felt that I had manifested him back and then manifested losing him.

I went deep into LOA. I did everything. Visualize, script, RS, self love, - you name it and I did it! I would visualize the same scene over and over again- us being together, him telling me that he is so happy to have me back and that he loves me so much. I lived in the state of the wish fulfilled as much as possible. This all started to exhaust me and I had to stop- for my own sanity!

Nothing worked so I started to put my energy into other things, like planning a backpacking trip around India, Nepal and Sri Lanka.

We were both leaving Canada to go traveling in September 2018- not together, but the timing was the same.

I was planning on going to India, as I said earlier. J was planning on moving to New Zealand for a year

Hi! Sorry for the confusion, I dont just mean to write down what you think isn’t true.

When something is bothering me and I am feeling resistance, then I journal about it to help me release it.

You have to embrace it first- if you keep resisting it then it will just persist.

So write down your feelings. Right now you feel like he doesn’t want to talk to you. Write down why you feel this way. You said that he doesn’t like long distance relationships- okay, so write that down. Just let your pen flow with every thought that comes to you.

Tell yourself it’s okay to feel this way- you’ll notice that the feeling will naturally start to go away on its own if you aren’t resisting it anymore.

Then write down REASONS why it can not be true. So for example- “he said he doesn’t like long distance relationships but that doesn’t mean specifically with me. He could change his mind with me because I am amazing. After all, he did text me first.”

Hey! So this isn’t LOA related at all, but I failed my drivers test the first time too! I even failed the written test before that!

I failed my drivers test because I hit a pylon while parallel parking, hehe. I ended up just practicing parallel parking until I was confident enough and then I passed my second drivers test! Just keep practicing! You also want to practice because you want to be confident (and safe) on the road after you pass.

I think LOA related- just focus on believing in yourself and believing that you can do it! (People may correct me and say that “believe you WILL do it” but I believe that believing you CAN do it is enough- Illuminating Joy on YouTube has more about this!).

I think you can visualize yourself in the end result, but if you don’t believe in yourself then you’ll have trouble being confident during the test- if that makes sense?

Watch Illuminating Joy on YouTube and her “releasing resistance” playlist. What you resist, persists. So if you keep trying to fight the feeling of missing him, then it will keep coming back. Just fully feel it. It will naturally go away on it’s on- and no, fully feeling it won’t mess up the manifestation.

I’m sure I’ll get lots of slack on this but I’ve been following Illuminating Joy’s videos and they have worked wonders for me. I feel so much better in a month. This is the feeling I’d been trying to achieve before, which I had been working at for 4 months.

So yeah, long story short- don’t fight any feeling you have, it will just persist. Instead, just embrace the feeling and let that be okay. You can even say to yourself, “Okay, I miss him right now and that’s okay, it’s completely normal. Most people would miss someone in this situation. It’s okay”. Remember, you want the path of least resistance