Hi everyone,

It's been a while since I was here. That was because I was in a relationship with someone, someone who was willing to give us a chance when I was still heartbroken over my ex-SP.

It is long distance.

We met in december. He came to see my parents when we were on holiday in his country. Then be booked his flight to see me in March and June (when my parents did not allow me to visit him).

He has been nothing short of perfect. We are very different. That's apparent. But he compromises. Everything I wasn't happy about, he'd changed.

I have been a horrible girlfriend. I would snap at him all the time. I compared him to the old SP. and then I get annoyed at him. This was a constant.

When we were together physically, it was great.

We text daily, we talk on the phone daily. The moment he finishes work, he'd call. The moment he's home, he'd call. We skype on weekends. We were suppose to meet again in November. He hasnt booked his flights yet.

But last Friday, I did my usual nitpicking and he snapped. He asked for a break, saying that the issues wont go away.

Today, he broke up with me. He said his feelings has changed. I just wanted one month to show him that I truly realise my mistakes now. And i know what are my issues. And I have cleared everything with the old guy. There is no more baggage.

But it's too late.

He repeatedly say he won't change his mind. He feel terrible i am begging because he has already changed. His feelings are gone.

As for the one month thing, I said even if it's just a friend, it's fine. And that's what he offered. A friend; the best he can do.

I am stuck. I know what I should do; dont talk to him. But i also want him to see I truly changed. (He is unforgiving of a friend who just stopped talking to him out of the blue and said he would never forgive her. I knew her. I texted her to say sorryy to him last night. I think it has something to do with the break up) But right now I need encouragement and similar stories. He i

Selfloveiskey wrote:

I will be joining once my phone decides it wants to download the all 😆

Waiting for you haha

Dan2015 wrote:

Yeah.  I feel like we need to get out the habit of “omg they posted on fb/insta/etc. it’s official and lasting forever” mindset.       I mean depending on your beliefs with loa.  You know if you think these things and really believe it.  That’s what gonna manifest


I feel we are a lot of times are our own worst enemies

I am my worst enemy. Before I found LoA I trained myself to believe in the worst scenario so in case they come true I'd be prepared. Needless to say they do every single time.

I logged in ytd and saw he uploaded a pic of them tgt and well.. Am currently swearing off social media until I feel secure about myself with no more fears.

The logical me wants to hurt me. It keeps drilling on it. But something deeper says it's okay. Leave the fear to the universe to handle. And focus on me.... I could create this (and I know i did) so... I should be able to undo it.

I'm choosing to believe they're just friends and nothing more. I know that's still focusing on them and not me but I will slowly shift it over.

Just wondering why it manifests itself when i'm ready to initiate contact again...

Sanshi wrote:

1) It's possible, but not from where you are at the moment. If you can make it a reality depends on if you can change.

2) You assume that he is the perfect match for her, that she is happy with him and that a breakup would necessarily cause her pain. Drop that. You don't know how this will happen. There are a ton of scenarios where she doesn't suffer because of the breakup. She finds out she is gay, she is secretly still in love with her ex and goes back to him, she joins a monastery, she just isn't in love with him and realises that after a while. If you don't want to cause her pain, imagine her happy.

You said your fear came true. That's no universe telling you anything. That's LoA working. You get what you expect. It's that simple. Has nothing to do with what you should do or shouldn't or what's best for you or whatever. It means nothing. It means that you create your reality, that's it.

I totally understood the 2nd point but could you elaborate more on the first? What kind of change should we be working towards?

I have just literally been in the same boat as her. Similar timeframe too....

Thank you so much...

Kiba101 wrote:

I’ve probabely been on this self love train all day but I think self love is key! I think thinking about our exes should bring us joy and happiness and not fear and doubt and sadness. Like I said in another post I think getting rid of any resentments and forgiving our exes is big in removing some of the obstacles we put in front of ourselves and that actually prevent ourselves from manifesting. Like if we think our ex never texts us then that’s exactly what’s going to happen. I think focusing on ourselves and why we love ourselves in important. And just dedicating time each day to exploring ourselves and being in wonder that we are creators and part of this wonderful amazing universe! And just telling that little fear voice that they are wrong and I decide what happens

Thank you.

But how do you hold positive if in these past 6 months there WERE times you believed he would text you, but he never did. How do you still believe he is going to?