I would like to suggest saying the Ho'oponopono Prayer. I know that it might seem a bit silly, but I have found it very helpful in taming my emotions. The idea behind it is that you can improve any situation through self forgiveness. The words are simple: "I am sorry... Please forgive me... I love you... Thank you". I visualize my SP while I repeat it. When I started with it I was feeling really depressed and desperate for forgiveness. After going through the first meditation session, I felt a lot better. Now, after doing it for a few days, I don't feel desperate anymore. I feel like my situation with my SP is going to sort itself out somehow. I am respecting her current wish for no contact, but I really feel that we will have contact again. And I am already working on things that I want to show her. My situation is a bit different since my SP isn't a romantic partner. But I think this could be helpful to you in your situation as well.

LearningToDetach wrote:

Hi everyone,

It's been a while since I was here. That was because I was in a relationship with someone, someone who was willing to give us a chance when I was still heartbroken over my ex-SP.

It is long distance.

We met in december. He came to see my parents when we were on holiday in his country. Then be booked his flight to see me in March and June (when my parents did not allow me to visit him).

He has been nothing short of perfect. We are very different. That's apparent. But he compromises. Everything I wasn't happy about, he'd changed.

I have been a horrible girlfriend. I would snap at him all the time. I compared him to the old SP. and then I get annoyed at him. This was a constant.

When we were together physically, it was great.

We text daily, we talk on the phone daily. The moment he finishes work, he'd call. The moment he's home, he'd call. We skype on weekends. We were suppose to meet again in November. He hasnt booked his flights yet.

But last Friday, I did my usual nitpicking and he snapped. He asked for a break, saying that the issues wont go away.

Today, he broke up with me. He said his feelings has changed. I just wanted one month to show him that I truly realise my mistakes now. And i know what are my issues. And I have cleared everything with the old guy. There is no more baggage.

But it's too late.

He repeatedly say he won't change his mind. He feel terrible i am begging because he has already changed. His feelings are gone.

As for the one month thing, I said even if it's just a friend, it's fine. And that's what he offered. A friend; the best he can do.

I am stuck. I know what I should do; dont talk to him. But i also want him to see I truly changed. (He is unforgiving of a friend who just stopped talking to him out of the blue and said he would never forgive her. I knew her. I texted her to say sorryy to him last night. I think it has something to do with the break up) But right now I need encouragement and similar stories. He is not on any social media.

I am sorry everyone for sounding hopeless. I want to give him back everything he did for me.

You have learnt a very valuable lesson in how to treat people, you've seen the mistakes you've made, and that is a very good thing. It sounds as though you've panicked about what happened and want to put it right. I can understand why you want to show him you have changed. This is not a hopeless situation, but first you have to create the end result you want in your mind with your imagination. It is pointless to try to manipulate outward conditions directly until and unless you have changed this situation and your beliefs about it in your mind first, so forgive yourself, you're human, you made a mistake, so does everybody.

Whatever you want the end result with this person to be is what you need to imagine as if it is happening right now, like you have it right now, making it as real as possible, feeling as though it is already yours. Make it as vivid and real as possible with the use of your senses, just as if you were experiencing it in the real world. Neville recommended doing this before you go to sleep at night because that is one of the times when your subconscious mind is at its most receptive, when you are in a sleepy, drowsy state. Leave him alone whilst you are doing this. Pay no attention to what the external reality looks like right now. Do whatever it takes to ignore it, even deleting social media if you have it and need to do that to prevent yourself from checking up on him. Try to forget all of those negative things he said, which I know is hard to do, but one way that really helps is to change the negative things he said to the opposite in a version of what Neville would call revision. It can be anything that you would want him to say or things he used to say before this breakup happened, whatever is meaningful to you, and hear him say those things to you. Keep this up consistently, daily, because repetition is very important to reprogram your subconscious mind with the belief that the relationship is yours. Be patient, and don't worry about how long it might take, and don't give up unless you change your mind and decide you don't want the relationship any more. You can do this.

I strongly recommend studying the teachings of Neville Goddard on conscious creation and applying it to all areas of your life. We're creating our lives whether we know it or not, it can't be switched off and on, so you might as well learn how to do it consciously, and Neville Goddard was the best teacher of this and the master of doing it himself.