sillyromantic wrote:

Now I get it. Met a guy who is so needy for me, begging, possessive, its the biggest turn off I ever felt for someone and he refuses to give up or give me breathing space. I feel so suffocated and out of air. People - don't be so needy for someone's love. Don't chase and beg, love yourself, work on yourself and you will get love and respect back. It's so off-putting, I can't even describe it.

I completely agree with this. Being needy or possessive pushes people away. I've done it with my guy (my partner before my ex) and now I feel so ashamed. It is one of the worst things I've done in life. The day I realized this I promised myself that I'll never ever do it again. Therefore after my ex broke up with me this time I chose to handle it differently. I feel good that I kept my promise to myself.

sillyromantic wrote:

That is awesome, I'm in the exact same place now pretty much. Tried so hard to get my ex back for months and when he came back only as a friend and he's still with the rebound it was like a weight lifted off my shoulders and I didn't need him anymore. I still wish him the best and glad that the breakup lead me on this path. He texts me once a week now when he's bored and I'm just like "cool, happy for you". I now attracted a new man in my life who respects me and admires me and wants to work through things in a mature way and make an effort so I just needed to get my ex back in my life in order to open my eyes and move on and now I know that everything will work out for the best because I expect more for myself now and I will have that. New guy is actually flying here for me from another country this weekend and I'm excited and nervous!

Good for you. All the best with the new things in your life!

I've a very similar story as yours. Completed my 25days didn't get my ex back but felt happy and relaxed from inside. Grateful to Veronica for that.
But I've been able to let go now after about 2months of breakup and a lot of meditations, visualisations and affirmations. Now my whole concentration is on myself. Things don't bother me much the way they used to earlier. I think I'm more happy than what I was in my relationship also. I'm loving the change in me. I broke my no contact rule and had WhatsApped him, he responded decently but had said he will call which he never did. After that is when I realized that we both were equally at fault for the breakup and I had just been not able to forgive myself for it. I did that...I forgave myself and felt as if so much unnecessary burden is off my chest.
Anyway...since then there have been a lot of other guys showing interest...one had a romantic interest in me last year but coz I didn't reciprocate he had backed off. He messaged me out of the blue and we have been having some conversations since then. Don't know if it leads to anything further.
All I want to say is that as my vibrations improved I had a lot of people around me noticing and commenting on it and that's an encouragement. Also, now I want my ex only when he is on the same vibration as me. In the whole relationship he was the needy one. I was always spending time making him feel good about things and about himself. Now the thought of doing that makes me feel drained.
I'm open for new and healthy relationships and I am grateful to my ex to lead me towards LoA. It's only after the breakup that I took LoA so seriously.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

Lifesagas wrote:

I didn't say those things you quoted. But here we are again...sigh

I wish you the best and hope things work out for you. I look forward to you coming back with your success story and don't think you'll post here inbetween? because you know it's going to work as you have done for so long on here so you don't need it huh?

I've read your posts and can't see anywhere where you said go out with other guys or forget him. I think your angle was overanalysing everything the guy said.

Gosh! I read the whole thread. And to be honest, I think Selfloveiskey is taking it in a completely different path than what Lifeagas meant. In all her posts lifeagas only meant well for her. I'm not sure why Selflove got offended and defensive. I have spent about a month in this forum and have felt very good since. I would just request Selfloveiskey to relax and reread the first post from lifeagas. It's in her favour not against what she is doing. I think people here on this forum really mean well for each other. Let's keep it to that. No one is against you Selfloveiskey, reading the thread I only got good vibes from what lifeagas wrote. Read again when you are calm. Loads of love to you.

Selfloveiskey wrote:

Gratitude21 wrote:

Thanks for the encouragement.

Here if you need anything I hope you are feeling better

I took your advise and treated myself to a good lunch. Felt good but just momentarily. I don't know what I am feeling. It seems I have accepted that he is with someone else for a moment and then next moment I want him back. I know all this is working against whatever good LoA work I have done so far. But I'm unable to focus on anything else right now. There is this other guy who my friend introduced me to and he tries to flirt with me but I normally pretend I don't understand what he means but today I even tried to flirt back. Again, it felt good only momentarily. 
Probably I'll be back to normal in a few days and start my "self-Love' affirmations and put all this in the past but for now it doesn't feel good.