| LOA Questions and Teachings 🙋 » Likes on social media and no contact » 2/04/2021 9:55 pm |
- Cynthia
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cactushugs22 wrote:My SP posts videos of himself playing guitar, it's his great passion and his calling. His dedication and love for the craft really warms my heart to see, just so smiley and happy. I really want to like his videos as I genuinely do just love watching them but I feel like it goes against no contact. The thing is it makes me feel awful to force myself to not like them. So do I follow my feelings or adhere to no contact?
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Manifesting takes place in your mind by your thoughts and your imaginal activity, not by some external act like liking somebody's guitar playing on social media. I don't do social media, but I suppose this is to try to get his attention or to try to change the situation to one that is more to your liking.
I've read your other post in which you have described the situation with the person and what sort of person he is by your assessment. Go back and read what you wrote about him and decide if you want that to be true or not because it is entirely up to you if it stays that way in your reality or not. You have the power to change it. You are the only creator in your reality. He is you pushed out, which means that he is going to behave in the way you expect him to. The more you repeat the things you don't like, the more of that you are going to get. Stop telling yourself and anyone else the old story. It may feel like lying to yourself, at least at first, but start affirming only what you want from the relationship, from him, and also the best for yourself. Live in the end in your imagination of the most ideal relationship with him exactly as you want it to be, hear him tell you the things you want to hear, answer him back inwardly, experience in your mind the interaction between the two of you that you want to have like it is happening now, and persevere.
In Neville's Mental Diets he explains this concept. It can easily be found on youtube.
Most people who are manifesting a relationship with an SP are better off avoidin
| Help me align please... 🙈 » You are possible. » 2/02/2021 10:48 pm |
- Cynthia
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bblc wrote:bblc wrote:
We've spoken for a very short time in May and August.
We haven't met in person. If he isn't looking for a relationship and believes that distance is a BIG problem🙏�🙇🏿
Isn't it common to just not bother contacting a kind of person such as...?,I know it is waaaay late and I am just getting back into the forum since 3 years ago.
I am still currently trying to attract him, again
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You are the only creator in your reality. You are creating 24/7 whether you know it or not. We all are. It can't be switched off. Everybody is you pushed out including the SP. He has no free will in your reality. He can only do what you expect of him. If your expectation of him is that 'he isn't looking for a relationship and that distance is a BIG problem' and 'isn't it common to just not bother contacting a kind of person such as...' you are creating this yourself. He is what you are assuming him to be. He has no choice. Your assumptions of this person have to change and stay changed to what you want them to be if you expect him to change. It all has to happen in your mind first before you will see it in your external experience.
It is only what goes on in your mind that matters. Doing external things like creating a space in your room for him and making vision boards mean damn all if your underlying thoughts are creating a person who doesn't want a relationship with you or with anyone, distance is a BIG problem, etc. These are your thoughts being pushed out. If you want to change this, you've got to choose the thoughts you want to be true and strictly focus only on them no matter what and persist.
It is only 'waaaay late' if you think it is. Time, distance, and circumstances don't matter.
| Ex/Specific Person Discussion » how to not check up on people that you are manifesting » 2/02/2021 9:34 pm |
- Cynthia
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thelovercard wrote:
hi all of you lovely people! I want to say I'm a bit new to this forum still so I'm sorry if I was supposed to write this question under a specific topic, I'm still a bit all over the place.
I've been manifesting someone back but some days I check up on them more on social media than others. I've been told it's something I shouldn't feel ashamed of, it just happens. but I was wondering if you guys had any advice not to check up on them? (i hope that makes sense) and because I still do sometimes (like 3 minutes ago) will that slow down my intent for coming in my reality? Thank you guys <3 I hope this made sense lol
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Checking up on an SP you are trying to manifest a relationship with on social media is not only a very bad and counterproductive idea, but it doesn't 'just happen'. You have to decide to do it and then do it. Otherwise you are suggesting you are powerless to control yourself.
What do you hope to gain by checking? What happens if you see something you don't like, like a third party? React to it like most people do? Let it affect you? Decide to give up? When this forum used to be a lot more active a couple of years ago, I saw this happen all the time. The only thing that matters is what is going on in your imagination and your consistent, habitual thoughts. The current 3D is old news. You can change it by imaginal acts and consistent thoughts that are what you want to experience if you persist, give it the time it needs, and believe that what is going on in your mind is what creates. Live in the end in your imagination of already having your desire now and think from that perspective.
Strict mental diet, law of assumption, living in the end, faith that your thoughts and imagination create are the important things. It has to happen in your mind first before it gets pushed out into your external experience, and you don't have to lift a finger.
| LOA Questions and Teachings 🙋 » Break Up due to my mistake » 2/02/2021 11:04 am |
- Cynthia
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Selflove wrote:
I recently broke up with my boyfriend due to a misunderstanding caused by me. I tried to apologize as soon as I understood my mistake but him being an egoistic person is not ready for a relationship. I really love him a lot and want to be with him. Can anyone suggest what I should do to get him back.
Thank you.
Everybody is you pushed out. That means you will get from them what you expect. If you are going to define him as an egotistical person who is not ready for a relationship that is what you are going to get from him. What happens in your mind is all that matters and is what creates - what you imagine, what your consistent thoughts are. This has to change first to the way you want things to be before it is going to be pushed out into the external world of your experience. Live in the end in your mind of having your desire now and think from that perspective, not of your desire like it is somewhere out there away from you in the distance.. Persistence and consistency are very important and so is not questioning and checking things like social media. Give it whatever time it takes, ignore what is happening in the external world unless it is what you want to see, and have faith in your imaginal acts and thoughts as the creative forces they are.
I was going to put you some links to Neville's Mental Diets, The Secret of Imagining, and How to Use Your Imagination on youtube but it wasn't working. I highly recommend listening to them.
| Ex/Specific Person Discussion » Need guidance » 12/30/2020 3:00 am |
- Cynthia
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That's very kind of you to say that. Thank you.
| Ex/Specific Person Discussion » Need guidance » 12/29/2020 11:52 pm |
- Cynthia
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I was going to suggest taking a break for a bit. It doesn't have to be a long one, but it can really help.
| Ex/Specific Person Discussion » Need guidance » 12/29/2020 7:30 pm |
- Cynthia
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The subconscious mind has to accept something as true before it will happen externally. A good book on that subject is The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy.
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I don't do social media myself and for many people, if not all, who want to manifest a relationship with an SP or ex, it would be better for them if they avoided it completely. I have seen it so many times that they are constantly checking on somebody's social media, probably to see if anything has changed in the last 5 minutes since they visualised or said some affirmations, and they would get very upset at photos and things that are written there. Never mind that a lot of it is bogus. It's not been called Fakebook without reason. They torture themselves with this sort of thing and wonder why they don't make any progress, dwelling on a third party like that's a permanent thing that can't be changed, for example..
I have had many people ask for my help, but the vast majority of them could not tear themselves away from social media and seeing things they didn't want to see, tormented themselves with it, couldn't do the work because of so much focus on what they didn't want, and gave up, which is quite sad because the few people who listened succeeded.
In Neville's day there obviously wasn't any internet, social media, or any of the other distractions of modern technology, and I do believe that people were more successful back then. They just did the work and didn't keep looking for more and more techniques to try, and they especially didn't have all of the forums to read all of the negativity and how hopeless and desperate other people felt and about all of their doubts and fears, etc.
The first book I ever read on this subject was The Magic of Believing by Claude Bristol when I was 15 years old and there weren't any of those distractions. He doesn't take it as far as Neville, but it's still a great book, and I had amazing, magical results just by copying what he said he did in ways that wer
| Ex/Specific Person Discussion » Need guidance » 12/28/2020 3:59 am |
- Cynthia
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When did you decide that you'd failed? It sounds like you'd set yourself a time limit, 'by today', which put the pressure on, which also could have then made you try to force results, and force doesn't work. Neville said to live in the end and persist until your desire manifested, not to give up after 6 months or any other period of time (unless you change your mind, of course). I've personally had many manifestations that were virtually instant or took hours or days and also things that took years, as well as times in between.
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If you're trying to manifest something else smaller, other than the SP, choose something you think would be easy and achievable so you can have success with that and gain confidence.
You've said you've read a lot of Neville and have been applying it, but do you really understand it? You might be surprised how many people think they're living in the end, and it turns out they haven't been at all. When you live in the end, you think and feel from the standpoint of already having your desire now, not think that you are going to have it by some future time. Is your SP there with you now in your mind? Are you hearing her say what you want to hear her say? Are you interacting with her like you would if you were together? It has to happen in your mind first before it can get pushed out into the external world.
This is not the time to worry about the law of reversed effort. You can't say or write affirmations or do anything else of your preference to reprogram your mind too much. Virtually everybody has some limited thinking due to their upbringing or life experiences that needs to be worked on. If you want to change a situation, a positive mental diet can't be just part of the time and swing back and forth like a pendulum between that and negative. Your SP ghosting you is feedback that you've got some sort of block.It could be any number of things, and it might not be about her specifically. Any negative beliefs about relationships, self worth,
| Help me align please... 🙈 » Confusion » 8/13/2020 4:06 pm |
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Peachpand wrote:
Hi beautiful and amazing people !!
I m in the LOA from some months because I fell in love with a boy that at the beginning he show me interest when I start feeling something he disappear . It is almost one months without contact and I found out that he called his gf with my name and I am confused because he also unfollowed me ?!?🤔 I don’t know why but he appears in my Instagram home and for u can I watch his stories ignore and continue with the “no contact rules “? Sorry maybe is a bit confusing how I wrote😭 I am Italian so sorry for some mistakes 🥺
Thank u in advance !
I'm confused, too, confused about why people waste their time on social media looking at things they don't want to see that are telling them they don't have their desire and are making them feel that they can't have their desire or that it would be very difficult. It makes no sense to me. Anything only has as much importance as you give it.
| Ex/Specific Person Discussion » Miss him more than I remember him » 7/30/2020 1:39 am |
- Cynthia
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Sel wrote:
It has been over 5 months since I saw or met my ex because of the lockdown. He broke up with me saying he has no feelings left over a month back. I'm following the 25 day challenge and trying to stay positive and live in the end. But I miss him more than I remember him. I'm afraid I will forget his touch and his voice. I'm afraid he won't remember anything if my memories go hazy. We are Not in contact.
I am very sure I want him back and as per LoA teachings, if you feel it in your hand and mind then it is real, but what if I have difficulty feeling it? The feelings for him will not go away over time but maybe just stay buried. When they say time heals all wounds I think it just means that time makes you forget certain things, not heal. I want him back and I'm using the Law of assumption to recreate him as he was with me when we first started dating. He is in a different city and does not plan on coming back here, with the way the pandemic is going I am scared he won't come here till next year and I won't meet him in person. I know I have to ignore the reality and circumstances and just live in the end. But how do I alleviate all my fears?
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Do what we discussed. Give it and yourself a chance. Your list of 3 things that you said you were going to do was perfect. Now just do it and stop worrying. Stop repeating the old story over and over. You're only reinforcing it and making things worse for yourself, creating more and more fears. Get off the internet and go and do the work This is not doing you any good. Posting about your fears over and over is not getting you anywhere, and it makes me feel like I've wasted so much time and energy replying to your private messages in so much detail and with so much encouragement and thought I'd got through, but apparently it was all for nothing, and if you think I'm annoyed, you're right.
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