So Chris and I dated 10 tears ago. We have been chatting for about 6 months now. About 3 months ago we were so hot and heavy I just knew we were going to get married. Maybe 2 weeks ago he got some financial troubles that took his attention away and we have been a bit estranged since.

I had a cry and just asked him if he lost interest. He never said yes but was clearly upset as if something was going wrong in his life. Two weeks I dreaded the idea of losing him but got right back to visualization and back to "acting as if." We planned a cruise in October so I've still been working out as if he and I are still going. I have been going to bed visualizing he is late coming home instead of he us out with another girl...just changing my thoughts.

Sunday he finally called and asked me to dinner. When I git to him ii was a bit anxious to ask 50 questions but the rain and stress he put off let me know I was to switch gears.

When we got to the restaurant he was SO touchy feely and dragged on before finally venting what went wrong.

Basically bad timing guys! So he lives with his Susan she us engaged, he has 6 months to move, his car died and his mother's medical bills have taken a hold of him. Their close knit family is unraveling. He said that he finally sees why we broke up before and knows losing me isn't an option but he cannot give me all I deserved time wise or financially at tge moment. I thanked him for his honesty and agreed timing us bad. I had a kid, trying to work two jobs and he needs another job and peace ...

So what now? Well forth of July is my favorite holiday. He remembered of course and texted me that I deserved so much more and that he cares do much and wished he was able to do more. Today I reminded him of our cruise and he still wants to go, but we don't speak or see each other as much and that does disappoint me.

It's a but of struggling going on internally because I'm happy about my success but sad I feel him being list again.

Any advice how?

Hi there. You should give up. Once you give up trying and start BECOMING the person you're supposed to be ..in your highest image is the only way you'll find peace in this.

LOA works ... but not if you are in doubt about what outcome and how it will make you feel without trusting yourself fully.

Take a break from seeing change from them and be the change you want your future partner to brag about.

I personally have my guy back after 10 years! I am planning our live together..we are great now that life happened to us...and all the situation's in between made us better for each other. So it's been two years. Dedicate just 2 months just to yourself...not concerned with them and watch what happens. I promise giving up and becoming who I was supposed to be made LOA so much easier to attract my guy back. And attract everything I want as I go along.

rpt.sunnymist wrote:

Missmiles thank you so much for posting here. 9 years!!
It shows the meaning of "made for each other"😇
So glad to read this
Thank you
Sending you lights & may your vacation be amazing😊

Thank you so much. It feels good realizing it's a possibility. It is magical knowing we play a part in it too. I will give an update after the trip...fingers crossed..nothing's going to ruin this!

So I originally came here for my daughter's father but quickly realized I wanted him to be someone he wasn't...my first love!

I started thinking about how awesome he and I was and realized I had been comparing him to each guy I dated I've 9 long years. I out on my big girl panties and I called him up! We have been in touch over the years and every thing has been hashed out over why he and I broke up.

About three weeks ago we went on a date and it was perfect. However, last week he cancelled on me because of work. I did what we all do, doubt, felt embarrassed and began moping around of fear I was losing him yet again. The i read about the whisper technique...did rs with a tea candle until it burned out and focused in on feeling good and PREPARING for our life together.

Last night it happened, he called and literally said EVERYTHING I had said to him through the whisper technique. Even to telling me he was only focused on money and work, but here I come back and he can't get me out his mind. I belong to him and he belongs to me and in two weeks we are going in a short vacation together...I'm beyond excited. I'm going to keep this up. I know it works but after 9 years of not being in a relationship i wasn't 100 about it. But look at us? Talking like we are a couple. He even wants to meet my daughter...and oh boy does he want to give me a son..lol. thought I'd share since I've been reading so many people having a tough time...there's hope afterwards!

I totally appreciate this. I'm no saint but I DONT and DIDNT deserve three years of lies and torture and our kid deserves a man who wants to be her dad. So I'm ok. If I keep telling myself he KNEW I deserved more and left. His family KNEW I deserved better so the lied. They made fun of me and talked bad about me because they KNEW I was amazing and needed to feed their negativity.. I know I can get iver it easier everyday and forgive them.

I heard a quote that the best revenge is a well lived life and I'm making it my GOAL. i can only imagine the men that come into our life now. The opportunities that will be of value...the happiness I'll have will be genuine and not forced or faked or of worry of what even hell is coming next. He leaving is a blessing. And that girls new issue. I am going to do d a life better and my vibrational matches will be magnificent!