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So Chris and I dated 10 tears ago. We have been chatting for about 6 months now. About 3 months ago we were so hot and heavy I just knew we were going to get married. Maybe 2 weeks ago he got some financial troubles that took his attention away and we have been a bit estranged since.
I had a cry and just asked him if he lost interest. He never said yes but was clearly upset as if something was going wrong in his life. Two weeks I dreaded the idea of losing him but got right back to visualization and back to "acting as if." We planned a cruise in October so I've still been working out as if he and I are still going. I have been going to bed visualizing he is late coming home instead of he us out with another girl...just changing my thoughts.
Sunday he finally called and asked me to dinner. When I git to him ii was a bit anxious to ask 50 questions but the rain and stress he put off let me know I was to switch gears.
When we got to the restaurant he was SO touchy feely and dragged on before finally venting what went wrong.
Basically bad timing guys! So he lives with his Susan she us engaged, he has 6 months to move, his car died and his mother's medical bills have taken a hold of him. Their close knit family is unraveling. He said that he finally sees why we broke up before and knows losing me isn't an option but he cannot give me all I deserved time wise or financially at tge moment. I thanked him for his honesty and agreed timing us bad. I had a kid, trying to work two jobs and he needs another job and peace ...
So what now? Well forth of July is my favorite holiday. He remembered of course and texted me that I deserved so much more and that he cares do much and wished he was able to do more. Today I reminded him of our cruise and he still wants to go, but we don't speak or see each other as much and that does disappoint me.
It's a but of struggling going on internally because I'm happy about my success but sad I feel him being list again.
Any advice how?
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Hi, I'm in a very similar situation with a man also called Chris! who I unintentionally manifested back into my life 20 years after we broke up (we were teenage sweethearts).
Similar situation for me - both single but the timing is off. Both have strong feelings for each other which we've spoken about.
What I have done is walked away. Told him that I AM ready for a relationship now and if it can't be with him then I need to leave myself open to see if it can happen with someone else. I love him and he me but I won't settle for crumbs of time or attention when it isn't what I want. I respect myself and him too much to go down such an unhappy road which will cause us both pain.
He wanted to be friends and still be in touch and I said I had to go no contact because we never can be just friends. I want more and can't pretend I don't.
I let him go with love and peace and wishing him happiness whether that's with me or not.
I know we'll be together when the time is right but I don't NEED that to happen. My life would be enhanced being with him but perfectly good without him. I didn't spend 20 years pining over him and won't do it now.
I visualise us together, say there are no barriers and send him unconditional love and know it'll work out. But that's it. I don't think about how barriers will be removed or when it'll happen. I don't feel that I NEED it.
Good luck!
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I'm confused, who is Susan?