I'm curious as to how many of you define success.
Here's how I define it:💗

❤ Being loved by someone you actually love (mutual attraction)

❤ Having some kind of income

❤ Being social and having friends, or having friends at all

❤ The good life.

And I want all of the above.
I won't settle for anyone because I'm lonely.
Love has to be fun and feel great!
I have a few friends but I want to build a bigger circle and continue networking. I am grateful for them, of course.
I want the good life that includes the freedom to do what I want, WHEN I want, using cash.

I absolutely REFUSE to believe that there aren't multiple "soulmates" out there in the world for me that give me butterflies, so I keep on searching for the right people, and it's so important to me that I tick at least THREE off that list above THIS summer.

Finding at least one soulmate and having a summer job (or money in my pocket), and being happy, otherwise, NO, I won't feel like a success.

And maybe it's the conditioning that we have had as children (or at least the Western world) but I've accepted it as such. It's how I see things as a young adult.

Ppl view success in different ways and that's cool, but for me that's how i view success!

So, how do you all view it?

I'm looking to do journalling and scripting. I don't want to use visualization techniques at this time. What scripting techniques can I use to work on these beliefs?:


I'm afraid my love life will never change.
I'm afraid of loving too hard.
I'm afraid of being too vulnerable and getting hurt.
I'm afraid of being too eager.
Sometimes I feel like I'm not good enough for love.

Thanks in advance! ^^

Selfloveiskey wrote:

Gratitude21 wrote:

I'm feeling as if I was the rebound in his life and he has manifested his ex.
Don't know what I'm feeling! Too many emotions working on me simultaneously...anger, betrayal, sadness, love, eagerness...and so on.
I thought of us being together and at times not being together but never thought of him with her.

The best thing to do right now is to stop all thought distract yourself or replace those thoughts with "I love myself" I do that and it helps it replaces the negative thought cause you don't want to fight it it makes it worse. I know right now you feel low and feel like it's never gonna happen right? I felt that way a month ago and started self love and got to a so much better place. Keep doing self love .do not think of yourself as a rebound if you do then you will get just that. Remember that the universe gives us what we think and sometimes it is stuff from previous negative thought patterns but it will pass if you keep up your vibe. I advise right now replace your negative thoughts with affirmations about myself every time something pops up about him or them . Keep working the self love and just if you need to take a break from visualizing and stuff I really advise you do since you aren't feeling great . Please please start there I guarantee you it helps it's not a quick thing it takes time but trust me you can do this I did it and I was feeling depressed a month ago and these two things help and then I was able to visualize and things and stuff got better. It is a process . It's gonna be ok .

 
How I wish it were that easy to love the self ={

Staceylouuu91x wrote:

I don't see it as victim blaming in the slightest. I live with mental illness and currently out of work due to other health reasons, I've been in absolutely horrible and emotionally abusive situations. While I'm not out of the woods with regards to my health I've started to pull myself out of the rut I've been in through learning to love myself for who I am. 

Nobody is disputing that good things can come to those who have been down in the dumps and nobody has it together 100% of the time, I live with bipolar disorder, anxiety and have had issues with PTSD in the past so I can absolutely understand and relate to the whole feeling down and out thing, my moods can be awfully inconsistent. There has to be that drive and even a little bit of self-love to pull you out of the rut or situation you're in, don't get me wrong moral support is wonderful and has its place but you cannot help anybody who isn't willing to help themselves from a LOA standpoint or in general. 

 
I have mental illness too, undiagnosed (maybe depression). I find it easier to love others.

Lifesagas wrote:

People throw the phrase victim blaming around without really understanding what it means. Victim blaming would be saying you not loving yourself is your fault. No-one says that here.

And like Stacey, the reason I know why loving yourself is so important is because I've been at the absolute bottom with my world falling apart (abusive past, PTSD yada yada yada) and self-love and more importantly, self-respect, changed everything for me.

What would have been really damaging for me when I was damaged would have been for people to encourage me to focus on the wrong things when my focus had to be ME. If you're broken, you can't expect someone else or a relationship to fix you, only you can do that. THEN you're in a place to look around and figure out what else you want out of life.

And if someone is mentally ill, this is not the place for them to get help. They need real life, effective help. The forum guidelines say it, Veronica says it......its not being mean, it's being ethical.

I would agree that there isnt true victim-blaming here. One forum notorious for it is Powerful Intentions...
Idk I still feel this notion isn't helpful.
I have no desire to look inward. The furthest to self love is dressing up or making my face up or looking great. Or analyzing my sexuality. No further than that. Its painful.
I usually dont want to be me, and focus on others' problems instead of mine.