Everyone is you pushed out

Hello everyone, I need to clarify some things about this state. If I see everyone indifferent towards me, that means that I don't pay attention to myself, I don't value myself or that I believe that everyone is like that? If I love myself I will feel other people's love towards me, right? BUT... If I love myself and I believe that I deserve love and I also believe that men are s@it, what happens?

In other words, changing my perception of myself is enough or I have to change my perception of others too?

Thanks!