That's not how I view self-love at all, and any form of love must be unconditional otherwise it's not really love. It is more than just a feeling, it is an identity at the core of all beings. To be in touch with and live from the state of self-love is to connect with that part of ourselves. To be able to act in a self-loving way, it is much easier to do so by first connecting with that part of ourselves that is already, and is always there, beneath all the negativity, like a diamond burried in the earth, waiting to be uncovered.

About being present, all I'm saying is I don't agree that being present on it's own is living in the end. It is part of it, but isn't going to manifest anything by itself if there still are doubts, hense, it's important to do what it takes to make sure you believe it is done and is already yours.

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I don't understand what you meant about the situation that is bothering you. The same advice applies. You are over-analysing and not living in the feeling of the wish fulfilled, not living in the end. I deleted instagram when I decided to do this, because social media IS focusing on current reality and using images supplied from the outside world to fuel your beliefs, instead of those images that you create in your imagination.

It's up to you if you want to have that relationship because you love the person or whether you want to let fear put you off even trying. If you are scared of rejection you are creating rejection because you are focusing on rejection. Stop all the social media stalking and find a way to feel at peace so you can think clearly. Then you can find out why you have these fears and then eliminate them, and then it will be easier to live in the state that will manifest it.

Aquilina wrote:

I don't understand what you meant about the situation that is bothering you. The same advice applies. You are over-analysing and not living in the feeling of the wish fulfilled, not living in the end. I deleted instagram when I decided to do this, because social media IS focusing on current reality and using images supplied from the outside world to fuel your beliefs, instead of those images that you create in your imagination.

It's up to you if you want to have that relationship because you love the person or whether you want to let fear put you off even trying. If you are scared of rejection you are creating rejection because you are focusing on rejection. Stop all the social media stalking and find a way to feel at peace so you can think clearly. Then you can find out why you have these fears and then eliminate them, and then it will be easier to live in the state that will manifest it.

I agree.  Especially when it comes to the social media stuff.   If you want to use social media stuff for other things, fine.   But I would try my hardest not to look at her social media.  It will just make you more paranoid, frustrated, etc

I was looking at another thread and saw a post from Cynthia which I will paste here, which will tell you what you need to do.

"The principle of the solution to it is always the same. Since imagination creates reality, what you would do to achieve having a relationship with the person in question is to 'live in the end of the wish fulfilled', which means to get yourself into a receptive state, Neville recommended doing this before sleep because that is one of the times that the subconscious mind is most receptive to suggestion, in that sleepy, drowsy state, and create a scene in your imagination in which you feel yourself to have the ideal relationship you want with the person as if you are living it right now, making it as real as possible, bringing your senses into it as if you are experiencing it right now, what Neville called 'sensory vividness', and repeat this every day or night because the repetition is very important to impressing the subconscious mind with this scene until it believes it to be true, after which it will become a reality. Be patient and persist until you truly believe the relationship is yours. Disregard outward appearances as they stand right now, and don't do anything to nterfere with the work you're doing to consciously create the relationship you want, which means not looking on their social media or anybody else's social media or doing anything else that is going to cause you to have any doubts or fears or worries or get in the way of what you want to create, no matter how difficult it is to tear yourself away from these things, if you find it difficult. How much do you really want the relationship? If you really want it as much as you say you do, you will do whatever it takes.

Study Neville's Goddard teachings on conscious creation and apply it to all areas of your life. They are simple, effective, and right to the point. What I wrote above is essentially what Neville would tell you to do in this situation. Don't even bother doing anything else but studying Neville's teachings and applying them because they are the best. You're creating all of the time whether you know it or not, so you might as well do it consciously and have the life you want".