Sanshi wrote:

creator1980 wrote:

Well that's something I have been always curious about....since it's a law shouldn't everyone use the same principals and work?
I mean the law of gravity applies the same for everyone but that's just a thought I don't doubt and I don't care about how things happen I just want them to happen 😊😊
 

The thing is that we are all coming from different places. We have different belief systems, different cultural backgrounds and so on. Lets say everyone wants to be in Rome, but we are all coming from completely different places in the world. When someone is telling you that they are currently in London, what does that tell you about how well they are doing? Nothing. They could have started at the north pole. Then they would do really well coming all the way to London. They also could have started in Munich. Then, they would really suck in getting to Rome. You can't know where someone is vibrationally. There are people who are carefree and happy by nature. For them, it's enough to visualise a bit and after a month their person or whatever they want comes to them. Another person visualises the same amount of time or even longer without success. Why does that happen? Because it's not about the visualising or any other technique. It's about their vibration. One person could very much enjoy the visualising and it raises their vibration. Another person just does it to make something happen and doesn't enjoy it at all. It's the same action, but with two completely different effects.
 

Great post, I love how you break things down

YesIWILL wrote:

Just saw her on her sisters snaphat, she looks happy... so why does that feel like a punch in the gut to me?

I think this is your problem... you only want her happy WITH you...   from everything I've learned, you need to have UNCONDITIONAL love for them... meaning you love them no matter the reason why  they are happy or not.

I'm not saying you are, but if someone new came in and read your thread, they would think that you were desperate,selfish and entitled 


I have decent experience with this, my love is in a relationship, was I happy for her at first? HELL no, I wanted them to breakup.. i wanted her to be miserable... but then  I just started wishing she was happy no matter what


of course we want our person... but will it matter years from now, if you get married and stay with them forever?  that you didn't have them for a few  months/years 

You got this man, I think you're WAYYYY too hard on yourself sometimes..     just tell yourself every day, that you have her back... it might seem foreign to you at first   but after awhile you'll really believe it

 

Dan2015 wrote:

You got this man, I think you're WAYYYY too hard on yourself sometimes..     just tell yourself every day, that you have her back... it might seem foreign to you at first   but after awhile you'll really believe it

 

Absolutely!  Have you read all the lengthy posts?  People have said some really good, positive, uplifting stuff about you. You HAVE to be happy WITHOUT THIS WOMAN or you are on a total hiding to nothing. 

And who gives a monkey's stuff why they have you on snapchat, Facebook or whatever? Social media means nothing. Just focus on making your life the best you can instead of obsessing on why someone has you on Facebook or doesn't. It probably means zero. You're wasting valuable energy on something that doesn't mean anything. They are posting things, most likely not to get at you at all. 
 

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Dan2015 wrote:

You got this man, I think you're WAYYYY too hard on yourself sometimes..     just tell yourself every day, that you have her back... it might seem foreign to you at first   but after awhile you'll really believe it

 

Thanks man. It's so hard. I can't tell you how horrible this feels.  Do I have to say "I have her back"? Or would the Universe take that as me just wanting her back in my life? Do I have to be specific and say something like, "I want X in a loving romantic [insert a million more words here] relationship with me"?