TheGiver wrote:

So I was inspired by Cherished's recent thread about not breaking No Contact through this process, which is 1,000% true. But we all know how hard it is. We watch a movie we know they'd like. Something happens that you know you'd tell them. You see something that reminds you of an inside joke you had with them. Or you're drunk and feeling nostalgic and you start thinking about them. And you get that itch to text/email/call them.

Well to stop that from happening I thought I'd create a thread where we could post whatever we have an urge to tell them, so that way we're getting it off our chest but not breaking NC.

For me, I've just started catching up on all the tv shows I fell behind on that I know my person watches as well. I want so badly to text him about plot developments and such. However, I'm resisting that urge.

So if something like that happens, just come to this thread and post it, no matter what it is (though if it's spoilers for a tv show please indicate that beforehand).

Also, since we're living "as is" I'd suggest not posting "I miss you" or "I'm so sorry" or "Take me back blah blah blah", but we all have our moments and it's better to post that here than send that in a text to your person.

Hope this will help people

 

Thank you for this chance. I totally just snatched my covers off saying I CANT TAKE IT ANITHER DAY! I was just about to cal or text it but came here first. About a month as gone by. But in the last we've spoken and had sex, now nothing. Yesterday my kid and I took a walk and out loud I spoke in positive affirming thoughts about our future and Him.


Then as I walked by I tripped ad saw that one of the driveways had a stone compass in their landing pad.

I figured ok ok universe I'll relax. One the last card sent with flowers he gave me, it was inscribed saying " you are my compass,with you I have a heading." so I took it as a sign. But I pinned visions on my interest board, even had a dream about him...by woke up to the gut feeing of, he isn't here and didn't call/ text, after just an awesome walk...ughhhhh need to shake it off.

Had some urges to reach out.
So its been a couple of weeks since I told my man I cannot be his best friend while he is in a relationship and keeping me a secret.
I have been vibing in a very good place within myself and feeling very at peace.
I did ask for a little sign and that day his mum posted a heart on my mothersday post.
The next day I recieved a msg from a guy Ive been holding at arms length due to my strong desire to be with my true soulmate again.
I was having diffetent thoughts about this new guy, because I know if I went down that path I would have everything I want materialisticly and security wise, he is also gorgeous and heaps of fun, however there isnt the chemistry there. I was thinking if I gave him a shot perhaps that side of things might develop further.
Then that evening a girlfriend called and randomly started telling me about another gf who is in a pickle because she has been in a relationship with a guy that she doesnt have the spark with and a guy from her past wants her back and that is the man she trully vibes with sexually.
I have manifested so much personally with finances and my personal security that, that part of it is no longer an issue.
This conversation made me realise that my desire to have my guy back is still as strong as ever and I deserve it all including the sexual chemistry.
It would be so wonderful to recieve a message hearing him say he is desiring me.
Posting in here has really helped me to not reach out, as I have stood my ground before and folded everytime.
I dont miss him really as my life is good but my desire to be together in love is still very very strong.

I have found no contact really easy. It helps with your emotions and the longer you go without contact the easier it become for you.

Posting again. I'm having crazy urges to contact him today. Especially since I'm overanalysing something that he "liked" on Facebook, a picture that says "I'm probably holding onto something that will never happen but I hope it will" and relating it to our relationship and he's holding onto hope that he can be with me again

When my relationship ended I read up about No Contact and committed myself to 31 days. That's over today.

Because of the circumstances complete No Contact wasn't possible - we were working on a play together - and I was my usual fabulous self around him when I saw him at rehearsals several times each week and didn't contact him when we were apart. There were exceptions to this - twice he contacted me and I played it cool and responded after a period of a couple of hours and was friendly but kept it brief and also a couple of play related messages each way. People who knew we had separated regularly asked if we had got back together because of the relationship we have. I last saw him on Monday (our play finished on Sunday but I went to see something he was involved with on Monday evening) and I now don't HAVE to see him ever again if I choose not to. However, he is directing a play and auditions are next week and for months I have been preparing for this. I KNOW we will be back together - I have manifested in the past and I am sure I manifested him in the first place - however, I am SO tempted to contact him today because this is was the day I was working towards for the last month!!!

HELP!!!