If I knew you in person, Cherished, the person I'm trying to manifest wouldn't even matter to me, and I would put all my focus on attracting you haha.

 

And just to provide a personal example of the accuracy of this:

I used to always follow this pattern: meet this great guy, he'd be really into me, I'd think it was too good to be true, there'd also be some kind of obstacle (he had a hectic job, he was married, he was getting over a breakup, etc.), I'd try too hard, distance would occur because of said obstacle, I'd freak, I'd try harder, the distance would grow, I'd think they didn't want me, that reality would soon come true, then I'd confront them and they'd finally end things with me in a big old mess.

This happened with the guy I'm currently trying to attract back. And the guy before him. And the girl before him (I'm bi), etc etc etc.

Well I finally started changing my story a couple months ago, altering my assumptions and whatnot. I went to Vegas on a business trip and met the most amazing guy. I didn't freak or worry. He even has a partner (it's an open relationship), but I didn't let that get me down. I just enjoyed the moment and had confidence that he wanted me. We had the most incredible adventures, seriously like something out of a movie. I'd never met somebody so sweet and kind and romantic to me. We hung out every night and by the end of my trip he told me how much he was into me and how much he missed me. He told me on the first night he'd never get intimate/romantic with anyone other than this partner. But there we were, hooking up. He told me how unhappy he was with his partner, and pretty much made it clear he'd rather be with me.

I've now returned home and we text pretty much every day. Sometimes the communication falls off, but I don't freak anymore like I would before, and then it picks back up again (with HIM doing all the initiating).

I was devastated when things ended with my last guy. But just when I cleaned up my beliefs and emotions this new guy came around. It was a direct reflection of my new vibration, and a sign that I'm on the right track to attracting back my other guy/ someone better.

So I just want to go back to that pattern I described before, and apply it to this new guy.

Original algorithm: Amazing guy (him into me + me into him) + some kind of obstacle + worry= think it's too good to be true

Think it's too good to be true + Distance= Try too hard= Further distance= Further anxiety= Think they don't want me= They actually don't want me= BIG OL' MESS

New algorithm: Amazing guy (him into me + me into him) + some kind of obstacle (partner + lives in Las Vegas, I live in Philly)= I don't freak out + I enjoy the moment + I let what happen happen= He gets more and more into me + I get happier and happier= more and more good things happen

LOA can be hard to believe at first. But once you really see it in action, it hits you like a bullet and completely astounds you.

Having doubts? Boil everything down to a formula (especially for you logic-seekers out there). Then look at the original numbers. Erase them. Plug in new ones.

Bada-bing-bada-BOOM. New story!
 

TheGiver wrote:

Cheer wrote:

Hi again Cherished
The case study happened in physical reality and the boy is gone. Now the girl has stepped into the new reality where the boy absolutely adores her. So at this point, vibrating high in the new reality...did the old case study never exist? it never happened. Is that right?
 
 

I don't know Cherished's opinion, but mine is that the old case study DID exist. You needed it to help you realize what you DIDN'T want, and thus have the impetus to make the changes to get what you DO want.

Yeah that makes sense thanks.  I know it really did happen in physical reality.  I  don't really know what I meant lol.  No I  think what I was getting at is to completely forget it happened and reverse it with this new vibration.
 

Cherished wrote:

To address this point of "did it happen..."  It obviously happened.  And you realise that you have been creating a reality you don't want.  So, as Giver said- at this stage you need that contrast so that you can further clarify what you DO want.. to be able to create an even better reality!  So it's important initially to acknowledge what you've miscreated. See how your own thoughts bought this story literally to life,  and take a grand old bow😊👏🏼

NOW. At this point, you're in a reality you don't want, and you've identified and clarified the NEW reality that you DO want. So NOW, you drop that old reality from existence. Erase. Delete. Gone. NOW, it ceases to exist. Because as you advance forward- shifting in to another reality, does that old story assist you in any way? Does bringing forth that anger, resentment and fear create a wonderful new reality? NO! It creates more of the same old drama. It keeps you stuck. So why carry it forward? Hell to the NOOOO! That reality ceases to exist!

I know it seems ridiculous. I get that. But truly, if you can delete the old stuff from your mind, your manifestations will come fast! And if you can be the "bigger" person and not NEED the apology, or the acknowledgement that you are a poor victim.. if you can RISE above all of that, you will end up with exactly the reality you are trying to fight so hard for! I'm telling you emphatically, please drop the past. Use it to propel you forward into further clarify, and then DELETE the bad experiences. You think you want an apology. But what you ACTUALLY want is a harmonious relationship with that person again. And you will obtain that the MINUTE you forgive and forget, and send them only love instead. Promise. Forgiveness is a miracle worker.

 
Thank you for this post!! I just realised what I need to erase, and what to change with RS

Another perfect thread, Cherished. So perfect I have nothing to add! You're the best, and it's great to see someone getting such a huge grasp on LoA and willing to share and discuss it with people.