You did some superb reframing and editing there honey, well done 😉

You can do a few things. Firstly, I know how frustrating it can be to live with people you love but wish were different. Unfortunately, that's conditional living. And because you are an LOAer, you are learning that you have to love them unconditionally FIRST, in order to change the circumstances.

If you want somebody to be different in your experience, you have to flow that vibration of appreciation and acceptance to them. If you raise your expectations of them gently, and see them as healthy and whole and happy, they will begin to reflect that to you. But it's more about your vibration, and allowing it to be perfectly fine as is. You have to find a way to make peace with what is. If you can find ways to reframe this in a more positive manner (you already did that well), appreciate something about the situation as it is, it will morph.

If you can't keep your vibration in check, try to spend less time on that topic. Turn your attention to something else instead that feels better. I read an Abraham quote  today, about  9 things wrong and one thing right. If you could pour your attention and appreciation into that ONE thing for just a little while and ignore the other 9 things, the 9 unsatisfactory aspects will ALL fall away and your desire will be met. The universe KNOWS you don't want to live forever with your mom. Don't feel guilt about that. Soothe yourself until it feels really good to you, like the next logical step in your life..  and things will shift. You do it slowly by reframing and visualising your mom as happy, and a great outcome for everyone.

Remember, the only thing that matters 100% of the time is what you're thinking. And that you're ALWAYS reaching for better feeling thoughts 💜

Last edited by Cherished (12/01/2015 6:23 am)

You should ALWAYS treat yourself well!
And you should absolutely accept that in every moment, people are doing the very best they can.
For example, I have work colleagues that used to upset me a lot. But it had nothing to do with them, it was my insecurity about myself! When I worked on ME, and then scripted how they saw ME as a fantastic colleague, they began to change. I now focus on my vision of them as wonderful people to work with, so my expectations of them have changed. I wanted to see them as helpful and friendly, not nasty and undermining! So I did 2 things. I focused on myself being an awesome person who attracts excellent co-workers, and I focussed on my new improved version of my colleagues.. And my whole work life has become GREAT!

A simple and general thought to keep in mind is this: in this world, there are only 2 ways of behaving. In love, and in fear. People truly all want the same thing. To love, and to escape fear. Know that everybody has their own story, but what they offer you is ALWAYS a match to YOUR vibration. Always.

Most of that is great, and I'm only offering my advice as I see it, but I would never say my bad parts! You don't have any. Don't create that. Instead of saying negatives like "I don't need him", make it more positive, and about YOU. Perhaps "I am finding all the love and peace I need within myself." Can you feel the difference? It's more empowering. The beautiful women thing- EVERY woman on this earth is beautiful. I wouldn't focus on him seeing other beautiful women. Again, bring it back to you- "I am a beautiful, gorgeous woman, and he absolutely adores me." To me it just feels better to feel that, rather than have the resistance of "there are other beautiful women that he can see.."

You're doing fantastic xx

That's sensational! That made me instantly happier, it feels so much more uplifting 👏🏼💜

Do you know what I see now that I reread your posts?

I think that the most common mistake we make is that we try to use the LOA to change the other person. But it never works in this way.

We change ourselves. It is always us. We change our perception, the way we see things/situations/people. It is like we say "I choose to have this experience", for everything and for every person. We can say "I choose to be a person who has/sees/does this".