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Dan2015 · 11/19/2015 5:20 pm

As I made threads on this before, my love and I are in contact.. Since last Monday we've basically talked every day... Some days we don't talk as much as others.. for example some days.. we'll send a few texts back and forth, and then I won't hear from her till the next day... When she replies, she usually replies fast... She's a college student, so I'm pretty sure there are days.. she's either too busy or too tired to text back

I want to start talking more and longer, but sometimes when I don't get a text back for awhile.. I start getting frustrated in my head and I start feeling lack, I honestly think this is the MAJOR roadblock in my manifesting....How do I get past this? I feel once, I'm not so antsy about talking more/longer we will and that will lead us to getting back together.

DCS82 · 11/19/2015 5:59 pm

I totally get where you are coming from, man. However, you are making this situation all about her, intentional or not. You make this stuff work by focusing on yourself. You are directing too much of your energy in her direction, and that has a tendency to repel. This sounds strange, I know...but make yourself the priority. Focus on yourself and things that make you happy outside of her. Read this thread below...good strategy and explains positive selfishness. Love her unconditionally, but learn to be okay without her for right now.

http://www.powerfulintentions.org/m/discussion?id=1335877%3ATopic%3A1383499

Dan2015 · 11/19/2015 6:10 pm

DCS82 wrote:
I totally get where you are coming from, man. However, you are making this situation all about her, intentional or not. You make this stuff work by focusing on yourself. You are directing too much of your energy in her direction, and that has a tendency to repel. This sounds strange, I know...but make yourself the priority. Focus on yourself and things that make you happy outside of her. Read this thread below...good strategy and explains positive selfishness. Love her unconditionally, but learn to be okay without her for right now.

http://www.powerfulintentions.org/m/discussion?id=1335877%3ATopic%3A1383499

That's so true, it's almost like a bad habit.. cause I notice, when we talk a lot or when she texts me.. It's usually when I'm not thinking about it and it just happens... it's almost like how people will say "when I'm bored nobody texts me, but when I'm busy everyone texts me" I just have to KNOW that we will talk more/longer KNOW that we will get back together, but also at the same time don't stress it.. basically act like she's a new girl I just met, I mean if I just met her.. would I be stressing about when she contacted me? no, I would let her contact me whenever she was able to.

DCS82 · 11/19/2015 6:36 pm

You have the pieces in place, man. Just put the puzzle together. Here's how: where there is no lack, there is fulfillment. Does that make sense? Approach this from the mindset that you are already together. That is living "as if." So, when you wake up, say to yourself "we are together and everything is perfect!" Then live your life as if that is true! Don't overthink it, just be the guy you will be when it happens. When you are together again, you won't be worried about getting her back, because you'll have her! Focus on YOU. Do what makes you happy, and just appreciate her as she is for right now. Live in that space, just be "that guy." That guy that has this girl and is going about life as you otherwise would. Does that make sense?

Dan2015 · 11/19/2015 6:38 pm

DCS82 wrote:
You have the pieces in place, man. Just put the puzzle together. Here's how: where there is no lack, there is fulfillment. Does that make sense? Approach this from the mindset that you are already together. That is living "as if." So, when you wake up, say to yourself "we are together and everything is perfect!" Then live your life as if that is true! Don't overthink it, just be the guy you will be when it happens. When you are together again, you won't be worried about getting her back, because you'll have her! Focus on YOU. Do what makes you happy, and just appreciate her as she is for right now. Live in that space, just be "that guy." That guy that has this girl and is going about life as you otherwise would. Does that make sense?

That makes perfect sense, just like I made in another thread.. I have to live as if.. and if we were together, I have to expect that we won't talk every moment of the day or 24/7 so maybe this is the universe telling me to get my stuff together... because in life we'll both be busy, so the time we do talk.. will mean a lot more

Unveiled Miracles · 11/20/2015 12:09 am

Hi

It sounds like there is a part of you that still depends on this other person to be happy. If you can authentically FEEL happy in between texts than I guarantee your dynamic will change and you will communicate more. Why are you feeling lack when you are not speaking with this person? That other person may feel that you are making them the source of your happiness and that keeps them away. It is usually unconscious but it is all energetic. Focus on feeling GOOD in between your talks. There are infinite things you can do to feel good! Do not focus on the ONE that makes you feel bad You, and only you, create lack! Unless you are enjoying your lack, don’t do that!

Julie- LOA and Happiness Coach

Blessedck · 11/20/2015 12:26 am

Awesome post Julie!

Dan2015 · 11/20/2015 1:23 am

Spiritual Hustler wrote:
Hi

It sounds like there is a part of you that still depends on this other person to be happy. If you can authentically FEEL happy in between texts than I guarantee your dynamic will change and you will communicate more. Why are you feeling lack when you are not speaking with this person? That other person may feel that you are making them the source of your happiness and that keeps them away. It is usually unconscious but it is all energetic. Focus on feeling GOOD in between your talks. There are infinite things you can do to feel good! Do not focus on the ONE that makes you feel bad You, and only you, create lack! Unless you are enjoying your lack, don’t do that!

Julie- LOA and Happiness Coach

This really is a great post Julie, I do think I get to the point sometimes. Where I'm most happy when we are talking. Cause I noticed when we first reconnected. I didn't really have any expectations and we ended up talking a good amount. But that is true, I feel like I'm so close to getting what I want(both talking more and getting back together). But then these insecurities get in my way

Debbie · 11/20/2015 5:24 am

The problem is that when you have this kind of anxiety you will start coming off as needy. Even if you try to hide those felings from her she will pick up on it, and neediness is an emotion that repels. Now, you have already been given good advice here about how to deal with things and I can't really add to that, but I would just say that being AWARE of this needy feeling is the first step to defusing it. So try to pay attention to your feelings in your day to day life, and when you recognize that feeling coming up in you, remind yourself firmly that neediness repels the person you want to attract. Then push the feeling out of an imaginary door and close that door tight! If the feelng tries to enter again...push it away once more!

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Allgood · 11/20/2015 5:37 am

Debbie wrote:
The problem is that when you have this kind of anxiety you will start coming off as needy. Even if you try to hide those felings from her she will pick up on it, and neediness is an emotion that repels. Now, you have already been given good advice here about how to deal with things and I can't really add to that, but I would just say that being AWARE of this needy feeling is the first step to defusing it. So try to pay attention to your feelings in your day to day life, and when you recognize that feeling coming up in you, remind yourself firmly that neediness repels the person you want to attract. Then push the feeling out of an imaginary door and close that door tight! If the feelng tries to enter again...push it away once more!

Well said Debbie!!. Dan is definitely just going around in circles at the moment and needs to be aware of that. .

The coming across as "needy" is where I was at fault for months. But thanks to this forum and the beautiful people on it I have buried that needy emotion and my vibration has risen and still rises everyday.

I know that everyday I am a step closer to my love and that's a fantastic feeling. But the best feeling for me is loving myself more by each day .

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