This is an interesting debate. I know someone (C) who's crazy about a chap who has been married for nearly 20years. His wife works away much of the time. She doesn't know him overly well but has been to his house once and seen they have separate rooms when she went to the bathroom. She thinks their marriage is a very strong friendship but not a passionate or sexual relationship and visualises him telling her that his wife has met another guy and they're getting a divorce and asking C to marry him, and scenarios where they're happily married themselves. I did think all this very Neville.

She's asked about this on a forum, not this one and been told that it's wrong.

Last edited by PrettyFlamingo (10/20/2017 2:10 am)

I think that anything is possible but depends on the situation and timing. I personally been in a long marriage that was not working for many years and was on the edge of ending when I met my last boyfriend. We worked together and we were friends, he even hung out with me and my husband several times. He is a lot younger than me so I didn't think much of it back then, I saw him more as a little brother. When I finally left my husband he was there for me as a friend helping me move, build my furniture etc. I didn't suspect that he had more feelings for me at the time, I didn't see the signs. I don't really remember the exact moment or time but one day I was at his place watching a movie and he put his head on my lap and laid down on the sofa. He was so nervous. Over the course of a few weeks he reveled that he had feelings for me and we ended up being in a romantic relationship for a year before it ended. Me and my ex husband are still very close friends through everything we've been through together. You never know.. Crossing the line of friendship is a blurred line though and depends on how the other person feels about it. I believe that  my relationship with the ex boyfriend may have gone better if I wasn't going through a divorce when we met which brought a lot of tension to the relationship with how young he is and his ability to process things but that's timing..

LetItBe wrote:

Thank you for your responses. Can anyone recommend what kind of meditations/visualizations I can use to change things? I've pictured this guy telling me he loves me, revealing he has feelings, etc., but I'm wondering if that's focusing too much on the "how" and not enough on the "end result," such as being divorced and with him...

 
Listen to Neville.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bKS_QIPet-k