Well, Neville would tell you that if you truly lived in the end, were consistent and patient and persevered for as long as it took and ignored anything that denied it, there is nothing that could stop it from happening, and that everything has got its appointed time, whatever that might be. He would tell you that imaginal acts create facts, and that it is not a matter of will it work but will you do it.

You've obviously got to stop worrying about whether there is a third person or not and only focus on the end result you want. What matters is what you are doing from now on.

Something happened to me recently that was upsetting. I don't do social media at all, but somebody sent me a screenshot from there that he had to have known would be something I would not welcome seeing. This was back in April. At first that was all I could think about, and what I did was to listen to Neville a lot saying to close your eyes against that and other things I needed to hear, and it was a real mental battle at first. I kept seeing that screenshot, but I just kept turning my mind away from that and imagining the opposite, and it took about a month, but now I rarely think about it, and when I do, I immediately put it out of my mind and imagine living in the end of having what I want. I started my living in the end in January with this particular goal, and was feeling very good about it until that incident, and it really threw me off for awhile, but I'm not going to give that any meaning or let it interfere, and yes, it does have to do with a specific person and the possibility of a third person, but it could also be totally bogus, and even if it was/is true, so what? It only has as much power or meaning as I give it.

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Cynthia wrote:

Why on earth are you looking at his social media? That is about the worst thing you can do. If you were truly living in the end of having the relationship with him, for one thing you wouldn't be constantly checking and analysing what every little thing meant, for another thing you wouldn't be concerned about any possible third party, and for yet another thing you would ignore what outward appearances look like to you and not take anything at face value. If you were truly living in the end, you would assume the relationship was already yours and none of those things I just mentioned would be a part of it, but you've got to give it some time and have some faith and trust and not be checking to see if you think that anything looks like it's changed from one day to the next or one minute to the next. This is like planting seeds, and if you planted some seeds in the earth you wouldn't go and dig them up constantly to see if they were beginning to sprout underground before they sprout above it, and what you've been doing is comparable to doing that. It can also be compared to a conception. You wouldn't expect that the birth would happen the following day. Everything has got its appointed time, whatever that might be.

I was listening to Neville's lecture Ends Ultimate and Temporary yesterday, it's one I hadn't heard before, and he was talking about how there can be trials and tribulations along the way that make it look like things are going wrong or like they're not working but in the end you'll see that everything fell into place perfectly. I'm paraphrasing a bit, but that's the gist of it.

You really should be leaving him alone as well and do this all in your mind because obviously questioning him is not helping you live in the end, and it is not living in the end to question him.

That's a new one - thanks for this, I am going to listen to it - I just found it on YouTube.

Ah you guys have been giving me such a breath of relief by telling me how wrong I've been doing it instead of the opposite, honestly, because it validates that it's not that it is this specific thing that is impossible to happen, but that it needs correction in order to happen. And oh my do I agree about Joseph Alai, I discovered him about a week ago and he's been AMAZING!  Seriously, those of you that have been struggling and may be reading this thread please check him out if you haven't already. Just yesterday I shifted my focus to visualizing a phone call where I talked about it to create less resistance and talk about synchronicities, saw sp on the street today! 
Thanks guys, really.

ibbyliv wrote:

I don't think I'm impatient for the relationship per se. I mainly think it's the anxiety of whether it has been working or not, because months have passed without anything moving forward and I get really discouraged because if it hasn't been working I fear I may never get there and this thought is killing me. Like, if you told me that it'll take a year but in the end there's 100% you'll have this person back into your life, I think I'd feel blissful.

Same is happening to me. Anxiety kills sometimes. The courage of moving forward is only thing i have. But sometimes uncertainty discourage me sometimes.