Do what I told you and be 'delusional.'

And one more thing I want to add is that if you've got a lot of these upsetting ideas from looking at his social media, social media is not a good gauge of reality. Especially with young or immature people, a lot of it is for show. If somebody's life isn't going very well, but he wants people to think it is, he will put things on his social media to make people think what he wants them to think.  A lot of people want to make somebody jealous, and they know that person will be checking on them, so they'll put things on there to look like they've got a new girlfriend or boyfriend. A lot of social media is pure fiction. If that girl looks like a model, how do you know that she isn't one that he got to pose for photos? My point is not to take it seriously because a lot of it is a load of rubbish.

Crocodile12 wrote:

 

I just don’t know how to believe this! I was in a place of believing he will show up again, I was certain. I was certain there was something between us and he just wasn’t in a place for a relationship. But how can I believe and turn this around now if he is now with a girl who looks like a sports model, spending all his time with her although he didn’t wanted to spend his time with me? That’s just something I don’t know how to achieve. It feels delusional.

 
You've got to do the right things, and you've got to give it some time and ignore the current reality whilst you're doing the right things to live in the end. You can't do it for hours or days or some other short period of time, look at the current reality, not like what you see, and say that you 'believed and were certain that there was something between you' but since things aren't yet the way you want them to be or are even the opposite of what you want them to be you're giving up in despair. You can't believe everything you read or everything you see anyway. There was something within you that caused this, and that probably took some time to create this undesirable situation, and changing the current situation, especially in your current state, is almost certainly going to take some time to change and create the result you want. You didn't really believe or were certain at all because if that were true you wouldn't give up so easily or even give up at all or let anything stop you.

Last edited by Cynthia (10/28/2018 6:55 am)

Okay, you read Neville and you know everything. So I don't really get the point of the post? Okay, you don't want to apply what you know. That's okay. But maybe then a different forum would be better for you? A forum where people deal with healing their heartbreak. That's where you can tell your "how it is" stories and nobody bothers. There is no point in sharing it here really. It just shows that you aren't doing what you are supposed to do. Telling it "how it is" will do you no good whatsoever neither those reading your posts.

What exactly did you apply with your ex?