You are sending confusing signals to me, that's for sure. Do you want your ex back or not? You clearly said that you aren't sure anymore (which for me means you don't want him), but then you want to hold that option open? The first question I would ask myself is why am I holding on to him? Does it feel like a failure to you to give up on him? I can assure you, if you don't want him, it's not a failure. Does he symbolizes something for you you think you won't find in another? Is it pride? Hurt? Do you want to prove something to him or to you? If your reason is another than that you love him, I would drop it - for your own mental health. Better invest the energy on working on the reason why you want him (like the reason why you need to prove something to him or whatever your reason is).

The problem with letting go is that most people just use this term without really knowing what it means and without thinking about if it makes sense or how it makes sense. For me, it's always good to look at my experiences and see if I can find a correlation. A few years ago, I gave up on my dream to become a singer. I still have this desire, but I have let go years ago. Am I a singer? No! I am sure you will find many other examples from your life when you let go, but nothing happened. So that obviously isn't what letting go really means. If you want to integrate the term, it makes sense to use it when it comes to letting go of the old reality, your old story, the version of you you want to leave behind. I can't tell for sure of course, because I don't feel how you feel, but from what you wrote, I am almost sure that "letting go" of him won't bring him back. You are still in a state of lack, else you wouldn't be impatient or hurt.

First of all, there is no universe you send anything to. I wouldn't spend the time of my day to read stuff from people talking about some universe. I did that in the past, but I wouldn't anymore and I know why. There is only you - the part of you who sends (your soul if you will) and the part of you that converts that into an actual experience (the world including your body). So no universe involed, only you. You can see it like in a dream. It's absolutely real when you dream it, but when you wake up you see that you made up everything and everyone in that dream world. About dating another...well, I think you can have different opinions about that. I personally think that when you are in the state of being with your person (meaning KNOWING it to be true now and feeling that deep down), you don't feel the need to date anyone. Would feel odd to you, because you are in the state of being with that person and at the same time you are dating someone. Dating someone could be much better for your mental health though, if you don't fully understand how to operate the law and kinda fish in muddy waters. I think that you can manifest someone back while dating someone else. I just wonder what your motives are for even wanting that?

Sanshi , sorry you are confused, but your response has confused me more.  We talk about the universe frequently in LOA.  I appreciate the time you put into your response though.

Oasis...thank you I do feel more at peace now that I have decided to "move on"...Part of it was a conscious decision, part of it was a natural progression.  I guess Im just surprised at myself ...Im also surprised that I could put energy into a new person but it doesn't feel bad to do so.  Abraham Hicks once talked about that in her you tube and I relistened.  Yes, you will get attention from other men when you are positive and put good things into your vortex....and release the "resistance".  I decided that my ex will come back if he comes back and I can't make it happen.  I can also enjoy dating a new person.  Thanks for talking about "split energy" though, i will be careful not to do that.

 

Nice attitude Sanshi, so what kind of negativity did YOU just put into the universe.  

Seeker wrote:

Hello.  I have been on this forum since August.  I practiced LOA techniques and finally did start speaking again to ex...but things unraveled.  I lost patience, I felt he was stringing me along.  I just couldn't be positive anymore.  Talking to him again was actually hurting me instead of helping me, which I find so confusing.    I am at a point where I am not even sure if I want to be with him again so I am "letting go".  My question is this is this kind of letting go the same that we talk about in LOA...like when you stop having lack and let go your desires manifest?  Because I am not sure at this point if i want him back so is he still a desire that I'm trying to manifest?  

My second question is that i started dating someone else.  Can i do this and still manifest ex back?  Or is my energy not sending confusing signals to the universe?

Any help you can provide would be greatly appreciated.  I have had texts with Veronica before but I am a bit strapped for cash so I can't contact her directly now.  

 
First and foremost, you have to know what you want. I have heard of many cases where someone has dated others and the person they loved has come back to them,  so it is definitely possible, and if you are undecided, dating others can help you clarify what it is you really want. I've also heard of people dating others whilst simultaneously working on attracting back their 'ex' and getting back together. You don't have to decide right now, and you can always change your mind if you want to. Perhaps somebody else will be better for you, and it can't hurt to find out. There's no sense of urgency, is there?

Cynthia wrote:

Seeker wrote:

Nice attitude Sanshi, so what kind of negativity did YOU just put into the universe.  

 
What Sanshi means is that obtaining your desire comes from within you, not from somewhere outside yourself, and I agree, but I would also say that I've seen that when people have faith that their prayers will be answered and persist in that belief and faith, their prayers have been answered, and it hasn't mattered who or what they've prayed to, it's their imagining of already having the end result and their persistence, belief, and faith that has achieved it. They don't know that, but it doesn't matter. If somebody uses belief in the universe or God or Jesus or anything else to achieve their desire, I say do whatever works for you.

Sure, you can believe in whatever you want and if you believe that it will bring you what you want, it will happen...but the power is not in that entity, but in your belief in that entity. You use it as a middle so to speak..like people use pills to get healthy and jobs to get money. But the reason why I point it out is that as long as you believe in a power outside of yourself, you will struggle. As long as you believe that the pill makes you healthy, you will also believe that the illness makes you die. Those beliefs will it make way harder than necessary. And I know a lot of people who believe in a god outside of themself and they are not healthy and they have no money.