She's saying the desire and the intention is fine but not the need/wanting to take. And the natural consequence would be that yes, you'd be open to other options.

It's in the video posted on here called 'everyone is you pushed out, social media and consequences' or similar.

She's pretty blunt in it so I wouldn't watch it if it's not what you want to hear!

It really clicked for me but I'm sure a lot of people won't like it/agree with it.

Denimchicken wrote:

I keep reading it and it's true that you get what you are, what you vibrate rather than get what you want.

If you're asking the Universe (your higher power) for love and that's what you vibrate - you will get it. If you're asking for love from just this one person then you're not at high vibration - you're attached to this one outcome.

I've been thinking about this a lot recently and Agnes talks about it in one of the videos. If you're attached to this one person/outcome then you're saying to the Universe (or your higher power or whatever) that you want or need this to be happy. That you're not able to be completely happy without it. That YOU are not enough to make you happy, that you need something external. So that's a block.

I think that's the stumbling block for a lot of people. We tell ourselves 'I feel great, I'm happy, I love myself' but if we're still holding out for one thing/person then that's not completely true is it?. If we're really happy and love ourselves, why do we still want someone who by all their words and actions are rejecting us? We're putting out to the Universe that ourselves are not enough - we need another person to complete us, make us happy, fulfil our emotional needs.

And in an Agnes vid I'm thinking about, they talk about how there are no secrets in the Universe. You can do all the external stuff but if your underlying energy is still 'but I want/need this person or thing to be happy/complete' then that's a low vibration and not an attractive one to the person you're focused on because they pick up on your energy whether you're seeing them or not and whether they know it or not.

I think that's why so many 'other' people turn up. Because you have raised your vibration and you're projecting confidence and love and emotional stability. But to the specific person you're still attached to your energy is 'I want/need you, I don't want anyone else, I'm miserable without you, I need something FROM you to make ME happy, I can't be completely happy just with myself'. And that's not an attractive vibe.

And I also think that's why people see little successes with their specific person like a text or whatever and then it all falls apart again because the energetic response to the person is still the same - want/need.

And that's why people come back when you've let go and genuinely don't care if they come back or not. Because now you're vibing this energy of 'I'm amazing, I have endless options and opportunities and you'll be lucky to be with me because I don't need anyone else apart from me so if I want you to be part of my life, that's a real compliment'. And it's a relaxed, loving and giving vibe not a needy/taking/wanting vibe.

That's the course I'm on now and it isn't easy to look at myself that way but I think it'll be worth it!

This post is absolutely amazing! Thank you

Good points. But I do think we deserve to know why we're being blanked by people, like those I wrote about in my post.

Thanks, but these people are established real life friends of many years standing, not people I met on social media and I've never done online dating. These people don't either, they're friends in settled relationships themselves and one is a woman.

That's why I'm puzzled.

Denimchicken wrote:

 
Because I wouldn't do it I see it as rude but I know lots of people who think the friendship has run its course, the person they wanted a date with on-line they no longer want a date with and that that is just life, it's not a big deal, it happens all the time, it's not personal and doesn't require an explanation.

This then goes against the whole "get your ex back" school of thought. Or not necessarily get an ex back, get a friend back or get a crush back. So if they reject you, then you just move on? A lot of people won't do that as all these forums prove!