Avaelle wrote:

Sounds great!  Just take it day by day and have fun!

Thank you so much I'll do that!

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

Interesting post.  I think that you have to work on the belief that they get fed up of you quickly. I've had limiting beliefs around a guy who treated me like rubbish when I was 18 and it rears its head occasionally when I really thought it had gone, and I still have to deal with it on occasion. It is more subconscious than head knowledge I think.

Though think about how you react with them - don't go OTT, buying presents and smothering at the start. Not that I am saying you do, but I have had guys do that to me and it makes me back off. 

Thank you so much for the advice! I know that I definitely have to work on that! May I ask you a question? How does one not worry about getting a reply soon? Like if it's been an hour already? I read somewhere that "Girls love their phones. They're always on it. if they're interested in you, they'll text you back immediately. If not, then they're not interested" - which obviously seems like bullshit to me. But I can't help but worry as to why I haven't gotten a reply back so far. Of course, I haven't messaged her beyond what I've messaged her, and she's the one who's been spamming me, actually, haha! But yeah! I guess I'm just trying to find a way to not worry irrationally about this kind of stuff

I felt inspired to look into the forum the first time in a while, I felt the urge to click on exactly this thread without even knowing from who it was and then I read this.

Congrats!! I am really happy for you that you came to that decision. Trust me, the moment you let go, things start to move on their own. So don't worry about how to let go of someone you love. It comes naturally. You think about them less and less and at some point, it stops hurting to think about them.

You say you don't feel whole. I would really suggest that you work on that before you start thinking about dating other people. You know, I let go of my ex over a year ago, because of another guy. But I didn't really let go. I replaced him with the other guy. I hadn't changed a bit and so I scared the new guy away. Great, another one I could try to manifest back. I was exactly as attached to him as I was to my ex and I had the exact same negative feelings. Two other guys followed until I finally gave up on ALL guys maybe two months ago and I started to date myself. I put my thoughts into self-love and I think the last two months were the most transformative of this whole LoA journey and maybe even my whole life, not kidding. I can guarantee you from my own experience that you can't fill the hole inside of you with another person (or drugs, or the perfect job, or <fill in the blank>). Make the relationship to yourself the most important one in your life and everything else will follow. Best of luck.

zionthecomedian wrote:

Long time no speak my love. Didn't I tell you, one day you'd understand what we were all talking about and here you are finally realising. It's painful but remember everything happens for a reason. I'm happy you  finally understand and are looking after yourself. Building yourself up and regaining your own happiness. 
Learn from this whole experience and use this experience when pursuing the next opportunities in your life.
You can do it I know you can. Self love always. Sometimes even I fall back but remember at the end of the day you will always have yourself for the rest of your life. LOA always has your back if you let it.
Be good. Take care. x

Hi)

And you were and are 100% right. Thank you so much!!! I really appreciate it.


I've kinda been talking to this girl, she drove 2 and a half hours to meet me, made me gifts which probably took hours, cooked me dinner which definitely took hours, spent the night with me, she couldn't keep her eyes off of me. She'd text and call me a lot. Suddenly the other day told me it won't work due to "practicality". She said there was no loss of emotion toward me, nor interest. But I find it weird because all of a sudden she's been "really busy", stating to have "back-to-back meetings all day", will be "busy spending time wiht her friend for the weekend", IDK. 

She said she'd reply to me when she can (and still says "darling", "sweetheart", calls me cute, flirts and stuff, etc.

...  she did say she's still not over her ex. 

But clearly she's making excuses as to why she's not talking to me as much, (despite the fact that when she does talk, she makes effort...). She's been on whatsapp. 

So IDK if her ex came back or what. She called me one day and things were great, then all of a sudden after a phone call "with her parents", she told me it wouldn't work out because her parents want her to be married by the end of this year, because I just work retail right now and am not done with my career, and the fact that she lives 2-and-a-half hours away.

I'm trying not to get bugged by it, but I am haha. It's obvious she's making excuses.

She told me she was being honest and that I deserve honesty, and so I'm really trying to believe her when she says she's just "super busy". But clearly not busy enough to be on whatsapp? And all of a sudden, she texts me FAR MORE sparingly. There have been no calls, only texts.

So IDK what's up. All I know is that she's making excuses, and it's really getting to me. So I'm trying hard not to be bugged by it. But damn, the anxiety. She says there was no loss of interest... maybe she's texting less and avoiding texting as much because she "knows it won't work"? I don't know. But then again, if I liked someone, I wouldn't make excuses. I'd still message a lot. I have no idea what's going on. And it's really getting to me.


Also to anyone reading, posting this was just me trying to find an outlet for my anxiety. Just putting that out there

Gusy thank you so much for the kindness and kind words. It means everything to me.

@Zion (because I don't know how you feel about me saying your name on here hahaha!) - You've always been so amazing to me. Thank you SO much for everything. You are absolutely amazing <3

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It's strange behaviour for someone to go to all that effort and then nothing. Talk about her jumping in with both feet very early. I'm always suspicious when people rush in at the beginning. Nothing wrong with taking it slowly.

Also why don't you watch out for women who seem too influenced by their parents? Doesn't seem a good sign.

Keep us posted!

Guys thank you so much!! 

Denim, Megan, Zion( it feels so weird calling you that! Hahah!)

I'm so lucky to have all of you here watching out for me. It means the world to me.


So she called me. She pretty much hinted that she's been distant because she knows she's hurt me (it's that whole "pressure" thing in India to be married. And all of that society stuff.) and she doesn't want me to like fall in love with her, I'm assuming.

But she was very giggly and it was obvious, over the phone, that she likes me a lot, in that way. So that cleared up my fears. 

She's just being distant because she knows it won't work...

So maybe I should try manifesting it working... somehow. She clearly likes me, so...