All the negatives...think the opposite....write down the opposite

I understand setting the scene but he can't continually set the scene. It's the same scene over and over.  He needs to change the scene. I agree...at this point it's not about techniques....he has to trust himself and believe.

Thank you so much guys. Your words mean more than you know


So today I've gotten a LOT of compliments, pretty much had this 50-year old woman hit on me like crazy (creepy but flattering) AND my card wouldn't go through at Dunkin Donuts, so they just gave me TWELVE donuts for FREE.

So I must be doing something right.

Also, (I'm not looking for signs) but an associate came by and wanted to buy something right before I got off work, and asked to pay for it in my area instead of going up front. He said during the transaction that his discount card won't swipe and that I have to type it in manually. The numbers on it are set just like a standard credit or debit card. Noticed the last 4 were the last 4 of my girl's phone number. What are the odds, right?! He came to my regiister of all registers, HIS card wouldn't swipe and I had to type it in manually, and of course the last 4 are her last 4 on her phone number.

I was still worrying about her today... not a lot, but still worrying. But most of the day I was upbeat and happy (even though I've been every day before for a while too... maybe it's just catching up now?) - so good things are happening! Maybe that last thing actually WAS a sign!


Just that quick update

Last edited by YesIWILL (6/14/2017 6:39 pm)

Dan2015 wrote:

Dude  that's a GREAT day.. keep doing it, things will start happening.. They probably are already, but you can't see it yet

think of it as you ordering food and it's taking awhile for them to get it ready 

Thanks so much man!!

So also, I've been on tinder just to kinda get my confidence back up, and really just to do something when I'm bored and meet new people. Not to date, but ya know. Anyway, there's this girl I've been speaking with on there and then snapchat just because. Again, nothing romantic, no intentions of it leading anywhere. Today I found out she removed me from snapchat even though she snapped me the other day, recently, with a fun message, flirty and stuff. Also another tinder match I've been talking to just unmatched and we were getting on well...


I'm feeling a little upset over these things despite having no real intention to move forward with them, but I still enjoyed talking with them... do you think the universe "made this happen" to make room for my girl to come back? (I guess it just hurts whenever someone unfriends you or removes you for something. That kind of thing has always impacted my ego a bit making me wonder "why?" And be hurt)... but maybe it happened to make room to bring my girl back? If that makes sense?

Last edited by YesIWILL (6/14/2017 7:37 pm)

In my opinion, you're taking the actions of others from Tinder too personally.  Generally, you should have actual evidence that supports how you feel. You don't know what caused those people to remove you or what caused you to become unmatched. Stop taking it to heart.  An activity you can try is that when you are starting to feel negative about something, actually write down POSITIVE things that could have happened. 

For example,  your mood seems to be moving towards such a more positive place. For all you know,  these people could be horrible and you're repeling them - which would be a great thing.  Remember, people can type things as if they are sweet as pie and that not be the case. 

Last edited by Avaelle (6/15/2017 7:19 am)