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I lurk on another forum and saw this. Think it is really appropriate.
âThe point of the whole story is âI want it, but I donât need itâ. Not so long ago I worked with a person who totally lost her focus trying to manifest something. Whole time she had her focus on that thing she didnât have instead of the things she already has.â She then talked about gratitude and how important it is to be grateful for the things you have and because your vibe is high when youâre feeling grateful, the Universe will only give you more things to be grateful for.âSo you want love, you want money, you want a house, you want anything you wanted to manifest but havenât yet manifested, what would you do if I just told you that you wonât ever manifest it? Never ever. Letâs say I see your whole life, I see how your whole life looks like and I see you wonât ever manifest it. And what now? Take time and think very good about it. You wonât ever have a partner, you wonât ever get a bigger house, you wonât ever have that much money, you wonât ever have that job, never ever in your life. What will you do with your life then? Now go and enjoy what you already have. Enjoy that house you have, enjoy that car you have, enjoy your time alone, have fun and be free, you donât have to explain yourself to anyone. Thatâs how you let go. Because when you focus on what you donât have you are just vibrating that you do not have it (and thatâs why itâs not coming, because youâre noticing that you donât have it). The point is not in that manifestation. If you donât learn how to live in the moment and how to enjoy in the journey of manifesting, when you get that house, partner, money you wonât know how to enjoy it and you will again wait for another manifestation.â
A wonderful thought if you ask me. I would post the link to this video, but it's not in English so I doubt there would be many people that would understand Â
This helped me very much, but I only came across this video after I really let go by myself. One day I started thinking why was it so hard for me to let go all this time and I came to conclusion that the quality of my life and my happiness wouldn't change much no matter if I got what I desire or not   and not even 24 hours later I found this video. I am sharing this with all of you in hopes that it will help even one person   Good luck everyone â„
(I don't have the video btw, I am copying someone else's post, but I think the message is clear)
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Thanks guys! I think you're just focusing on the negative parts of what I'm posting. Please look and read once again, that I'm actually trying, though.
I'll post this again...
"I doubt that's the case, however,it certainly helps to think of it that way. I remember one time, when I bought her flowers and she said she didn't want them and to give them to my mom- about the time she said she lost interest in me - things she did showed it too, so do I just ignore the obvious fact that she lost interest in me? I can really try.Â
I'm doing better thank you! "
I did say I doubt that's the case because I know she likes her plants, and she likes that store. I'm just stating facts. But I also said it certainly helps to think of it that way - so I will.
I also asked a question, "do I just ignore..." - that was a real question.
I also added in, I'm doing better, thank you! ... BECAUSE I AM DOING BETTER. I might have my negative moments, but you all are focusing on any negative in that post... I wasn't being being negative at all. I agreed that it helps to think of it that way. Even though I know that's not the case, I'll think of it as if it were. And I'd greatly appreciate an answer to my question as well.
Please focus on more than just "I doubt that's the case" - because it's like stating, "X, BUT, Y", (with X being negative, and Y being positive), yet only focusing on X.Â
C'mon guys... I appreciate the help, but please stop saying I'm not listening, or that that post was negative, etc. Because I literally stated, I'm fine in that post. Please stop focusing on just one statement, which, by the way, followed with a "however".
SO, that aside, - got it out of the way now - good? Okay. It's behind us. No more talking about it.
I'd like an answer to my question, if anyone would be so kind as to do so. Thank you
I know you're all trying to help, so I really do appreciate it. I am listening though.
I'm happy, let's focus on that - It's been a good day!
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Blue wrote:
If you're happy then stop posting about how much you're freaking out, doubting, how much you miss her, etc. because it's not helping you.
And right now, I'm fine. Just gotta hold this vibe, yeah?.Â
Can anyone answer my question thoguh?
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Do you just ignore what? You don't have to totally ignore it, your problem is. When you think of something you don't like, you have a hard time thinking positively about it. And you start panicking and getting upset
If you could think about it positively. and visualize something you like, then I don't think you have to ignore it
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Dan2015 wrote:
Do you just ignore what? You don't have to totally ignore it, your problem is. When you think of something you don't like, you have a hard time thinking positively about it. And you start panicking and getting upset
If you could think about it positively. and visualize something you like, then I don't think you have to ignore it
I guess, do I just ignore the blatant signs of her not being interested in me from before? Like the whole flower thing? And just focus on what I want to happen, as if she never lost interest in me? - I guess that's my question.
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YesIWILL wrote:
Dan2015 wrote:
Do you just ignore what? You don't have to totally ignore it, your problem is. When you think of something you don't like, you have a hard time thinking positively about it. And you start panicking and getting upset
If you could think about it positively. and visualize something you like, then I don't think you have to ignore itI guess, do I just ignore the blatant signs of her not being interested in me from before? Like the whole flower thing? And just focus on what I want to happen, as if she never lost interest in me? - I guess that's my question.
Yes. Focus on what you'd like. Make it like a fantasy. It might feel silly to you at first, but you see how so many people have used visualization of their fantasy and manifested it into their reality
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Dan2015 wrote:
YesIWILL wrote:
Dan2015 wrote:
Do you just ignore what? You don't have to totally ignore it, your problem is. When you think of something you don't like, you have a hard time thinking positively about it. And you start panicking and getting upset
If you could think about it positively. and visualize something you like, then I don't think you have to ignore itI guess, do I just ignore the blatant signs of her not being interested in me from before? Like the whole flower thing? And just focus on what I want to happen, as if she never lost interest in me? - I guess that's my question.
Yes. Focus on what you'd like. Make it like a fantasy. It might feel silly to you at first, but you see how so many people have used visualization of their fantasy and manifested it into their reality
Will do. Thanks man! I got this.
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It seems like you don't listen because you often with replies like "but, what if she doesn't want me?". I know all too well how hard it is living with anxiety and overthinking. I have days where I think someone is mad at me because they have slightly different wording.
The thing with LOA is that it's real and isn't biased, so if you're projecting from a place of lack that's what manifests more. I once got back together with a person who told me he didn't love me and we had a good relationship after that. With these things you need to set an intention and focus only on the things you want, if you give too much attention and energy to the opposite because it's an unbiased thing it'll manifest. It doesn't know good or bad.Â
Doubts are natural because it does sound so silly on paper but this stuff actually works. There are too many success stories everywhere for it just to be a coincidence and I doubt every single person would even have the time or energy to carry on something like this for this long.Â
I know you don't want to be her friend, which is fine but I'm friends with all my exes and they came back into my life when I forgave them and myself for all that happened.Â
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YesIWILL wrote:
Dan2015 wrote:
I know it's hard. But try not to overthink things.
These are your choices for manifesting anything. Especially this
1. Think positive about it and KNOW it's gonna happen, live every day just knowing
2. Forget about it. There's been so many things I desired, that ironically didn't happen until I totally forgot
3. Don't give a **** about it. Just think about things you manifest, that you don't really care aboutThanks man. I think the best, no the easiest, however, would be the first one. I just need to find a way to get there.Â
I just woke up with a major anxiety attack, and I'm sure you can guess what it stems from. Anyway, does anyone have any suggestions on how to get over said anxiety attack, and get out of that funk and get back into a good place?
You can overcome Anxiety Attacks by focusing on things that make you calm. If this is bringing you severe anxiety then you need to take a step back and solely focus on your self and your well being. Meditate, breathe deeply, EFT, etc. If this is stressing you out that much I think you really need to back away from it and focus on getting better for a while. If you can't control your anxiety (trust me I know how hard it is I've suffered for many many years) then before even focusing on your desires you need to focus on your thought process and what makes you trigger. Other wise you will be going round in circles and you wont get anywhere. You need to master your mind and thoughts and when doing that is what will bring you your desires.
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Staceylouuu91x wrote:
It seems like you don't listen because you often with replies like "but, what if she doesn't want me?". I know all too well how hard it is living with anxiety and overthinking. I have days where I think someone is mad at me because they have slightly different wording.
The thing with LOA is that it's real and isn't biased, so if you're projecting from a place of lack that's what manifests more. I once got back together with a person who told me he didn't love me and we had a good relationship after that. With these things you need to set an intention and focus only on the things you want, if you give too much attention and energy to the opposite because it's an unbiased thing it'll manifest. It doesn't know good or bad.Â
Doubts are natural because it does sound so silly on paper but this stuff actually works. There are too many success stories everywhere for it just to be a coincidence and I doubt every single person would even have the time or energy to carry on something like this for this long.Â
I know you don't want to be her friend, which is fine but I'm friends with all my exes and they came back into my life when I forgave them and myself for all that happened.Â
Also, to add on people change their minds all the time. My darling at one time swore on his life he would no longer be kind to me if I was playing "games" with him. That has not happened, he was still kind to me and loving. Even today he is still with me, we have been back together for seven months and I still visualize at times and give gratitude towards him. Cuz I have not stopped.