Sunny is right. Listen to this and try to soak it all up. You'll never heal until you accept what has happened. Also don't accept what has happened and heal just to reach that "now I'll attract her back" state. Don't do it for anything at all. Don't even do it for yourself. Just do it.
https://youtu.be/Az8c1pyVRkc

I'd be interested to know what happened to end the relationship as that may affect the whole response. PM me if you don't want to discuss publicly.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

I'd be interested to know what happened to end the relationship as that may affect the whole response. PM me if you don't want to discuss publicly.

There was a misunderstanding earlier on, and she has trust issues since her last relationship. After the misunderstanding things started going downhill and I guess it affected her feelings lowering for me over time. The last conversation was something like

"I am NOT ATTRACTED TO YOU!!!! Physically or emotionally anymore!!!! We will NEVER BE TOGETHER!!!!!!! I can't see a future with you. You are a stranger to me. You'll be fine. You'll find someone else. I am DEFINITELY NOT THE ONE. I DONT SEE YOU IN A ROMANTIC LIGHT have a good life. You won't be hearing from me"

It was going downhill while we were together, and it's obvious she was losing feelings for me.

She hates me, doesn't want me in her life, I can't stress enough how much she's said she doesn't see a future with me, and how convincing she said it in.

She means it when she says what she's said. That part is obvious. When she said "I think I have feelings for someone else" that may be her trying to push my away at the times when I'd keep trying to pressure her into giving me another chance.


No matter which way you spin it, she HAS lost all feeling for me and means EVERY OF THE THINGS SHES SAID. It has also been clear by her actions, yet not just her actions.

If LoA isn't a thing, or doesn't work with getting an ex back, for example, and if it were up to the "logical" interpretation of how the universe works, cause and effect... then she is NOT coming back and has ZERO attraction toward me.

This is why I have to rely on the LoA. It is the ONLY AND LAST CHANCE I've got to get her back. Because if it doesn't work, then she's not coming back ever. I'm not just being negative. After what she's said and done, she means it when she says she doesn't thinkn about she and I, and that she's completely over me.


This is my last chance to get her back.

But I know what you're thinking "she may change her mind! People do every day! She'll miss you!" - logically, LOA not involved, NO. After what's happened (we really made things bad) without LOA she will NOT COME BACK. And that's a fact. You all don't know because you haven't experienced what she and I had together and just how bad and pushed away from love we've been toward each other.

So LoA is my LAST CHANCE to get her back. I don't know how but I NEED TO FIND A WAY TO CONVINCE MYSELF SHES COMING BACK AND THAT THIS WORKS IF I WANT TO FEEL OKAY AGAIN.

It is nothing about focusing on myself, "learning to love myself" or any of that others bullshit repeatedly puked my way by forum members. Because I LOVE MYSELF. I've been FOCUSING ON ME AND MY CAREER.

No matter what your rebuttals may be, it has NOTHING TO DO with working on loving myself. I am not lacking anything about myself and there is nothing deep down that I haven't addresssed. I just need to make this clear so that I can stop hearing this nonsense.

The whole issue with me here? I can't believe she's ever coming back. THAT is something I need to figure out how to fix. THAT IS what I need to tackle. If loa works, Then I just need to find that belief (which is such an almost nonsensical thing to believe given my current situation)..


It's not about working on myself. I just need to find a way to believe she's coming back.

I'm in the hospital and won't be able to reply for a few days to a week. Accident.

So what I need from you all, in terms of advice, if you'd be up for giving a struggling man adivice even still... we need to find a way to convince myself that she can is coming back to me. I can't get enough faith for something so seemingly huge (and yes I've tried manifesting smaller things and letting go. Never happened)


So please, to help me, please help me believe thats what I need

Baby. I've told you time and time about. So don't you dare swear at us or say anything of the things we say are bullshit. All this time I've been taking my time out to give you the sound advice you need as well as everyone else here. You know what if you've been writing stuff like this behind my back saying their advice is ''bullshit'' when mine has been the exact same then you know what you just confirmed you don't value me as a friend. One day you will look back at all of this and you will understand what we meant all along and when that day comes I hope you realise how much love you've been receiving while you've been selfish and throwing away our help and advice for you because you'd rather act on your current feelings than take the time out to really soak in what we have been saying and truly change yourself.
When you come back don't you dare push me and everyone else over the edge when we've all been trying to help you. Sorry, I have to be tough with you this time if it's the only way I can get through to you. I will speak to you when you come back. 

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I think someone asked what was the reason for the break up. I would like to know also and how long were you together?