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9/09/2016 9:18 am  #11


Re: Still hope?!

redgreenyellow wrote:

MadMoiselle87 wrote:

. He told me when he came back that he isn't sure if we should meet because he doesn't want to hurt me anymore.
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Β But I wish I could have the chance to show him that I have changed ...

Generally men say what they mean, so if he's afraid of hurting you, whether you have sex with him or not, he's still afraid of hurting you. Feelings can change, of course, but I've learned to always take people's words for truth rather than trying to re-analyze the hidden meanings behind it. If/when his feelings change, his words will change too.Β 

If you want to show him that you've changed, the best thing that you can is get to loving yourself enough when you don't have to worry about getting a guy back that basically hooked up with you and then changed his mind. You deserve better! The guy should be all over you thanking his lucky stars that he got to hook up with you and share that experience with you than making you feel bad for doing something "wrong".Β 
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I think nobody say what they mean, and words and thoughts can change. Words are just a reflection of the moment, nothing else.Β 

 

9/09/2016 10:26 am  #12


Re: Still hope?!

I have a more straight forward, cut to the chase type of view, rather than optimistic, but this is because I've dealt with a number of f*ckboys and also some amazing men in my life

If you are looking for a relationship - it is always easy. Like, literally, it has never been hard. With everyone person that I've dated exclusively for longer than 6 months, within 2-3 weeks, I knew. They called me to talk. They took me out to dates. They NEVER talked about sex in the fear that it would put me off until I made it very obvious that it would not be and I'm okay with that. There was never an "exclusive" conversation, but the guy would introduce me to his friends, his parents, call me his girlfriend, etc.Β 

With the f*ckboys, it was always the same thing. "I want to have sex with you but I swear I'm not just looking for sex"... "I really like you, I'm just not ready for a commitment right now"... etc. Maybe someone else has had better luck, but all those guys I know, never changed. I check their facebooks once in a while, and they are still doing the same thing. Either have moved on to likes their 15th relationships or still single and partying all this time... and mind you, this is like 6 years later, not 3 months later.Β 

So my advice to you would be to decide what you want - the back and forth with this dude or a stable and happy relationship. If it's a relationship, let him know and move on with your life. If he really values you that much, he will not risk loosing you. If his shenanigans more important to him than having you leave his life whatever, then girl, this guy is really not that into you.Β 

 

9/09/2016 1:17 pm  #13


Re: Still hope?!

Why her nobody wrote about parallel reality?? Redgreenyellow I dont think that when he want sex so he dont change and still will want sex.. exist milions parallel reality and milions version every person. In this realiy he dont want a relationship but in another reality he can want a relationship. Or not?? These post make me a doubt still... because I have this situation too but I think that still it can be  change because we live in parallel universe... where are people which know give a chance that every situation can be change ?I like cherished post she wrote about parallel reality..

 

9/09/2016 1:22 pm  #14


Re: Still hope?!

But it is true that RS attract only sex with boy.. I have experience too that when I did RS so he was horny and he want only sex ... do exist another rs which attract a relationship?? Or rs is about attract sex?? sorry for my english

 

9/09/2016 1:48 pm  #15


 

9/10/2016 7:14 am  #16


Re: Still hope?!

Thank you so much Laura. That's what I'm wanted to hear lol. It's quite interesting what wolf said in his posts. I have to admit before our relationship kind of stuff break he hasn't been my bf either. But we did everything like in a serious relationship. We meet us almost everyday, he paid for my dinner in restaurants, we were going to the movies, he even showed me a special place from his childhood and so on. He also slept at my place when he had to work the day after. He bought me some little presents and we always had an awesome time together. He never lied to me that isn't his character. We talked about the problem he couldn't commit to me a lot. It wasn't like he didn't want to more like he couldn't. He even cried about that as much as I did lol. But the problem was he was afraid to take this step and fully commit to me and I gave him several reasons not to do this. I was very jealous, get angry easily when he wanted to be by hisself, and always thought about what would happen if he left me. I hadn't a life anymore he was my life and this was so wrong. I know we would have a chance if I'm getting more chilled lol.

Sorry for the long text but I guess you need that background info. He isn't only a fuckboy we had a really strong connection. And for me there is a reason why he came back (of course of the 25 days challenge lol but still haha).

Beside that I'm doing lanie Stevens PW at him and isn't it pretty much about that? About changing someone to finally go the step to commit, or for a better relationship etc? I think so.

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9/10/2016 8:11 am  #17


Re: Still hope?!

Oh and maybe good to know for you as well... I'm not like these kind of girls who **** pretty fast with a guy... Before I haven't had a relationship about 6 years and we dated about 5 or 6 times before I decided that I trust him and he's worth it to sleep with him and I didn't regret it. Okay he isn't perfect but he was a wonderful guy and I miss the time we spent together...

And I don't know if you believe in destiny lol... But before I even know him out paths crossed several times, 5 years ago or something I saw him on a internet site but he had a gf at that time (btw this was a long relationship so another proof he isn't the typical **** boy) and one year ago I saw him in real life in the bus and I was like 'oh wow this is my guy' but I never would be brave enough to say anything to him because I thought  I never would be good enough for him. And then one year later we met on another dating website and found out that we had almost everything in common so crazy.

I even wrote a lost for manifesting my perfect partner and from 52 things he has about 49 or 50 so in my opinion I really attracted him in my life...

Okay guess that sounds crazy but maybe someone of you will understand

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