Thanks dude.. But no thanks. I do love him.. And I don't need you playing "God" and telling me that I don't. If you don't have any uplifting/encouragement, please refrain from responding.

iinikkii wrote:

Craigd88 wrote:

Stepping away will work wonders for you. I did it and I was so glad I did. Also, just because people say things on this forum doesn't mean they are true.

People do not reflect your vibe contrary to what most ardent New Agers believe here. There is not a shred of evidence that people are a direct reflection of your internal beliefs. They have oversimplified reality and have severely distorted the law of attraction. Other people are just as real as you are.

It's the whole "if a tree falls in a forest and no one is around, does it still make a sound?". Of course it does.

In fact the "law" of attraction should not even be considered a law. Gravity is a law, even evolution is a "theory". At best the "law" of attraction should be called the "theory of attraction". I would call it a hypothesis myself. It's so internal that it's hard to "prove" it in a scientific sense.

Develop self confidence and self esteem, pretty yourself up, and hit the gym. You will then see that YOU create what you want with respect to YOU by your thoughts that LEAD to actions. The actions change your reality. Sure prayer, feeling good, and thinking positive do help and can change the world around you but I'm a firm believer that we aren'the Jedi Knights influencing people or things with our mind. Plus, who want to carry such a burden of trying to make your own life good? I'd much rather go with the flow and just enjoy life without worrying about a so called vibration. Idk about some of you, but trying to control your own life is a nightmare. I'd rather rely on God for my strength and well being.

Practicality over New Age BS anyday for me. People disagree with me but that's fine. Enjoy your life and work hard for what you want. Leave that ex behind in your past and create a beautiful future for yourself.

I believe in LOA.. I've seen it in action, I know that it is as real as gravity. I just think it's presented in a way that makes it sound GAURANTEED and easy. Like.. If you do this, this, and this, you will get your desire.. And if you don't get your desire then it's your fault because you're doing something wrong, you don't have enough faith:belief etc. I mean cmon!! Sometimes I feel like I would have been better off, and would ALREADY have my guy back had I not run into to learning about LOA. I've got him back before, and I knew nothing of LOA. NOTHING.. I'm tired of blaming myself and feeling at fault because I'm not perfect and bc I haven't mastered the LOA life. Either the "universe" will bring me my desire or not. And if I have to be 100% perfect in order for it to do so.. Then that's pretty screwed up. You're right, I am human, with feelings and emotions. I have faults and struggle with some things more than others. even my ex didn't require me to be perfect 100% of the time.
I've done my part, I've talked my self off the edge, I've done the work, I've evolved into the best version of me I HAVE EVER been.. And yet it still doesn't seem to be good enough. So what? No manifestation for me? It's heartbreaking.. And even more heartbreaking to feel like I've had wool pulled over my eyes in hope that THIS will bring him back.

It is not to be perfect, it is to accept all that you are. All of your faults and imperfections, accept that you are human. When you do that all that was blocking your path will vanish. You do not have to be perfect to master anything, that is unrealistic.

Craig, while I appreciate what you are saying. If you're a true practitioner of LOA you'd be aware that we are totally able to create whatever we want to create. That includes having your ex back regardless of who they're with, or what they say at the time. Been there, done that. Even more so if you believe in parapsychology. I've been told I wasn't wanted or loved, even wished dead by an ex before, but you can still change all of that. I still manifested him back and had him take all of those things back. It's not selfish. It's in our power and we control our own realities.

But the point is, while all of this is going on, it's still healthier to just get the **** up and enjoy your life to the max instead of moping around over the outcome. It will not happen if you do that. But it can, if you believe and just let it go! Be open to accepting better things! I was tempted to say "forget about it" but I understand that's near impossible for most of us. We don't forget. I don't forget about my ex either when I'm out and about having a blast or partying with my girlfriends or dating other guys or whatever. My point is, your desire can't be your source of happiness for it to even manifest. Bottom line.

I'm not somehow "betraying" my desire by having a damn good time without it, lol!

Last edited by Em (7/02/2016 5:21 pm)

First of all, I really hate it when people try to tell other people that LoA is bs. It's hard enough for people who are new to all of this to believe it. A few months back, posts like Craigs put me down completely. I don't get what Abraham has to do with LoA. LoA is real. It's not only human psychology with a fancy name. It IS magic. I don't say that, because I listened to Abraham. I say that because, I see it work in my life every single day. It has nothing to do with logic. Things fall into place like magic. I have seen people changing their behaviour completely after I changed my thoughts about them. So everybody who feels encouraged by reading through this thread: DON'T LISTEN! It's bs that LoA is bs.

iinikkii, if you feel like taking a break or leaving completely, do it. It's not a decision that is irreversible. You can come back anytime you want. I understand how you feel right now. After a few months on this journey, I felt that it would be better for me not to know about LoA. It makes it hard to really let go of the relationship and heal. You say you did all the work. Did it feel like work? I guess, else you would have put it differently. I think when it comes to LoA, if it feels like work it's a clear sign that you are heading in the wrong direction. Doing something to make it happen never works, at least not for me. And that's the hardest thing about getting an ex back. How can you be playful with it, when you care so much? A lot of strengh is required and that can be damn hard at times.
Sometimes, taking a step back really is beneficial. Maybe not to get your desire, but to feel free. You sound very frustrated and that's definitely not a good place to be. I think Em is right and it would be good for you to not give a **** anymore, at least for a while until you feel stronger. No matter what your decision is, everyone here is there to help and encourage you.

Last edited by Sanshi (7/02/2016 6:21 pm)

What do you mean when you say "for your highest good"   I'm just exhausted, trying and trying and trying.. I guess it just sounds a whole lot easier, than it really is. I thought for sure I would have him back by now