ShootingStar wrote:

This is a personal suggestion, I'm not really sure about what your relationship was like or is like really with your person, if you had a deep connection or if it was cut before it went too deep, if you're both in mature places life or if you're both younger, but I would say that honestly there does come a time and place between two people where it's right to talk candidly, like the idea of the 'talk' can seem unromantic, but good communication is the basis of a good relationship. Like you could just tell him that you just don't want to text him like that if he's seeing other people because you're looking for someone who can just be with you..or ready to take the adventure of being in a couple and working together..because we really don't live in movies, we do need to talk things out and people aren't going to always magically show up at our door with roses and propose, they're going to want to talk and communicate and feel things out slowly and honestly and each person needs to be vulnerable and then love happens and intimacy happens that way

He seemed very upset when I was being honest with not texting him. He said he doesn't care, but he would have not gotten mad if he didn't care. He feels I was not able to handle the truth of him dating someone else, I was able to. I felt very neutral because her existence is irrelevant to my story. But I also told him I do not want to settle for less. I told him how I feel about him and that I just need proper healing.

ShootingStar wrote:

There's always this danger of falling into on-again-off-again relationships when this happens. Personally, I like those relationships because I have issues with commitment haha but most people don't ! So if you want to avoid that, you need to be loving but honest, 'are you in the right place for a relationship ?' or 'have you ever thought of us getting back together?' non threatening questions to feel him out like that is good, it takes the anxiety away and the guessing...and you can start off from a firm base, as long as he's honest

He has thought about starting over with me before dating the other girl. But he could not get over our past situation. That's why he is with someone new.

Ohhh sorry ok I was a little bit confused, so in his reality he is dating someone else, ok ...well ....that relationship is a sham haha. At least you can go to bed at night knowing that. But as for you, well if in his reality he's with someone, then in his reality he is kind of cheating ? And in his reality you're someone he's cheating with? Is that right? Well that's not what you want in your reality because let's be real, the realities do need to match or merge towards matching, no point living in a world where you're being taken advantage of, if the reality is not the one you want fully, ignore it and don't accept it is the key So you need to ignore him and not accept it as it is right now, honestly it'll do more harm than good. Don't have your blinders on, remember we teach people how to treat us, right now you're in danger of teaching him he can treat you as his other woman, eh nope! None of that allowed ! That is not the reality you want! Again, you need to start thinking outside the box I would agree totally with Cherished in your case. Also maybe your desire is not him, your desire is a wholesome loving relationship with a man who is into hollistic medecine and maybe yoga and maybe has long hair and travels to India every year and you and him sit outside and meditate together every morning before you have your breakfast of matcha tea or whatever haha I don't know you at all but I'm sure you have a reality that you want that has little things in it like that Small things, mine is I want someone to discuss news and go to festivals with. So yeah, think outside the box because right now, I'm not so sure if he is going to bring your desired reality via the way he is actually treating you right now. Also the fact you're not excited I would say is another indication. I mean, if you're in love with someone and everything is going great and your dream reality is ocuring you would be excited !

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Also, I did live him be, he needs to do some thinking, hard thinking. I don't like being the side girl, so he needs to evaluate himself. Right now I need to create my story.

I think his behaviour is very immature and emotionally unhealthy. In my opinion, I truly think you need to shut it down for a while. I feel you are hanging onto this so hard that you block your own manifestation. That's not to say you can't one day he with him, but the fact remains that your current vibration and his current vibration are definitely not a match. Allow him the space he needs to mature, and for YOU, you seriously need to find some much-deserved self love and appreciation of yourself. Because this kind of behaviour is in my eyes rather unacceptable. That's just me, but I strongly believe that if your opinion of YOURSELF was higher you would not allow him to behave in this way. And from an LOA standpoint, you wouldn't attract this kind of behaviour from him in the first place. You MUST put you first. And you must expect they he also puts you first. And right now, you aren't. You deserve to be, and I would be using this time to discover a whole new me that feels entirely worthy.