Well see when my relationship deteriorated, now looking back I realise that that everything that happened almost to the exact detail were things I had always thought of and feared would happen. I understand now that I was doing my own damage w/o even being aware of it. However, now that I am aware, shouldn't it be easier to manifest? Now I am consciously making my thoughts that of positive and pos visualizations.  But I'm trying to actually start believing them. I guess I need help knowing how to change my belief. I know how to change my thoughts, but how do I alter what I believe?

Last edited by White4 (4/02/2016 10:44 am)

Laro19 gives good advice !

However, I personally believe that because you are dealing with people and not objects which have no will or desires of their own, it can get a little bit tricky. You need to get rid of your own resistance first, you need to start actually believing that you are worthy, that you are growing and that you learned from your mistakes in the previous relationship. You said you self sabotaged it nearly? I did that too. You need to forgive yourself and be compassionate towards yourself. You need to be ok with being on your own. I'm totally happy reading a book in bed alone now, I don't desire going out an attracting someone I don't really like just to not be lonely. I'm not in a rush however I'm open. I think the universe and LOA requires an open heart. The person you might want to attract may not be vibrating currently at your frequency, they might be thinking about other problems and desires in their life. They might be resistant towards you. You need to allow their resistance to you to go down. That means giving them time..as time heals all wounds. Also assuring them gently that you are not angry at them or hung up about them and that you are ok. They can't feel like you're a creature that they wounded and now if they touch you again, you might squeel with pain. They need to feel like your able to heal yourself and you're growing stronger and becoming even better than you were before...you need to invite them subtly into your life by giving them their space and letting them come to you. If you're not willing to wait, then that's ok, it's perfectly fine to want to move on. Maybe your resistance to waiting means that what you really want is a loving relationship and you don't mind if it's not with that person, which is a good mindset to be in as long as it's not desperate. You can't control people through LOA though. You just can't. You can just gently influence through inspired action and with the universe as your guide. The other person has a life too, and people are accutely aware of when they are being manipulated or thinking they might be being manipulated, which is why it really does take strong self control and a pure desire of love with patience to attract an ex back.

Thanks peppo !